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37 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Okay take 37 or so...

I am a fixer and a healer. That means when there is a problem I like to work to fix it whether it is a clogged sink or a broken heart. I often spend a lot of time talking and processing with people. I enjoy being someone that people know they can go and talk to. I get strength from supporting people. I also get strength and energy from being productive in general. I have trouble relaxing, turning my mind off, and enjoying the moment. That is not to say I can't, but it doesn't come that naturally to me. I hope to find people who can help me with this.

I challenge people. If you say something that I don't agree with, I am likely to say something about it. I enjoy discussion and value others people's opinions. If I am wrong about something, I want to know. Being wrong is learning something new.

I am sensitive and I care. This can be very painful in a world that is so self-centered and insensitive, but I would not go back (even though sometimes I wish to numb it all). Joy! I enjoy a lot of feedback and support and try to provide that as well. This means acknowledging actions and feelings often as well as being willing to listen.

I do not believe in monogamy, marriage, or breeding. I am open to exploring all different relationship models as long as there is honest and open communication.
What I’m doing with my life
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fixing cars, working with food not bombs, trying to help, talking to people about ployamory, veganism, and other politics. trying to love people although i have found that many people do not want my love which makes me sad. also, i have trouble being loved.

practicing yoga and learning to be more accepting of myself, others, and the world. i am trying to just be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can fix anything. At least anything that can be fixed. I also build things. I love working with new materials and trying things I have never tried before.

Being there when the shit hits the fan.

Cooking, i have an amazing talent of scrounging whatever happens to be around and creating something to eat. also, i dumpster a lot.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that i am not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: Pissed off, Ethical Slut (second edition), Direct Action, fear and loathing, Endurance; ernest shackleton's incredible voyage.

movies: this list is quite long, but here's a few of my all time favorites.
one flew over a cuckoos nest
full metal jacket
lost in translation
taxi driver
Kill Bill I,II
big lebowski

And for sure documentaries. Love love love documentaries. Some great ones I recently saw were:
Miss Representation!!!
Food nation
Forks over Knives
The Cove
How to Die in Oregon!!!! REALLY IMPORTANT ISSUE!
Gasland part 1 and 2
Zeitgeist 1,2,3
About face
Gloria: In her own words
One Nation Under Dog
Marina Ibramivich: The Artist is Present

music: love love love music, would rather listen to music than watch tv, ANYDAY!
massive attack
handsome boy modeling school
thievery corporation
nina simone
junior kimbrough
otis redding
lou reed
violent femmes
the cure
bob dylan
bob marley
Marilyn Manson
I used to collect cds and had over 1000. Lately I am on pandora most of the time.

food: mostly vegan and looking forward to settling in so that I can start cooking again.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. Friends. Intimacy. Yoga. Sunshine. A challenge. intellectual stimulation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately I have been trying to figure out the line that is self-righteousness. I think if you are having honest discussion about issues, this is a very tricky line to draw.

Feminist philosophy and how to get more people to identify as a feminist. Basically if you are not a feminist, you are either unaware of what that means, or you are an asshole.

Balance: How to live a more sustainable, healthy and happy life. How to become a better person in every way; mechanic, cook, lover, and friend to name a few.

Why so many people, including myself, get lonely when there are so many of us out there. And how to be a better slut and love more, not just through sex but in general.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hopefully enveloped in a discussion about something important and/or cuddling
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A series of traumatic events have left me with a very low sex drive, and all but impotent. I am probably not able to jump into a sexual relationship with anyone, but with a little patience and some intimacy, I promise it will return. My body basically shut me down and it is scary and embarrassing.

i am an aspiring slut.
You should message me if
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You want to be one of my new friends.

You have vegan recipes to share.

You are honest and open and expect the same in return.

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You think that one of my answers is wrong, or you disagree with me on something and you would like me to see your point of view.

You are looking for a new make-out or cuddle buddy.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.