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37 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:29am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am idealistic and have been told my principles get in my way. I am sure this is true if the goal is to achieve something specific, but I tend to get caught up in the big picture and can have trouble seeing long term. I am spontaneous and impulsive and sometimes reckless.

I suffer from depression and it can swing my mood pretty heavily. I have tried meds before, but I am not on them now. I am convinced that what I need to be happy is to find a supportive community and people who support me intimately. Apparently this is pretty fucking hard to find.

I fucking care. A lot. I care about you and I don't even know who the fuck you are. This can be really hard in a world that is so unjust. I like caring and like being relied upon, it gives me a sense of purpose. I am the person to ask when you need something or just wanna talk.

I am a critical thinker and my mind is constantly running. I do yoga to calm myself and write to clear my thoughts.

I do not believe in monogamy, marriage, or breeding. but I am open to exploring all different relationship models as long as there is honest and open communication.
What I’m doing with my life
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fixing cars, working with food not bombs, trying to help, talking to people about ployamory, veganism, feminism, and other politics. trying to love people although i have found that many people do not want my love.

practicing yoga and learning to be more accepting of myself, others, and the world. i am trying to just be.

constantly trying to find places to live in the east bay! FUCK!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can fix anything. At least anything that can be fixed. I also build things. I love working with new materials and trying things I have never tried before.

Being there when the shit hits the fan.

Cooking, i have an amazing talent of scrounging whatever happens to be around and creating something to eat. also, i dumpster a lot. Almost entirely fresh organic produce. So, amazing!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that i am not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: Pissed off, Ethical Slut (second edition), Direct Action, fear and loathing, Endurance; ernest shackleton's incredible voyage, People's History of the U.S.

movies: this list is quite long, but here's a few of my all time favorites.
one flew over a cuckoos nest
full metal jacket
lost in translation
taxi driver
Kill Bill I,II
big lebowski

And for sure documentaries. Love love love documentaries. Some great ones I recently saw were:
Miss Representation!!!
Food nation
Forks over Knives
The Cove
How to Die in Oregon!!!! REALLY IMPORTANT ISSUE!
Gasland part 1 and 2
Zeitgeist 1,2,3
About face
Gloria: In her own words
One Nation Under Dog
Marina Ibramivich: The Artist is Present

music: love love love music, would rather listen to music than watch tv, ANYDAY!
massive attack
handsome boy modeling school
thievery corporation
nina simone
junior kimbrough
otis redding
lou reed
violent femmes
the cure
bob dylan
bob marley
Marilyn Manson

food: mostly vegan and looking forward to settling in so that I can start cooking again.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. Friends. Intimacy. Yoga. Sunshine. A challenge. intellectual stimulation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Intimacy and sex and how to get more of it while being terrified and REALLY bad at flirting.

My role as a cisgendered queer white male.

Getting the fuck out of the U.S.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I have been home reading/cooking/listening to music. Sometimes, at a bar or show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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A series of traumatic events have left me with a very low sex drive, and all but impotent. I am probably not able to jump into a sexual relationship with anyone, but with a little patience and some intimacy, I promise it will return. My body basically shut me down and it is scary and embarrassing.

This means I RARELY initiate contact out of fear of crossing boundaries or spoiling friendships. I am trying to learn to be more open, but there is a lot of fear involved. I also do not like people being aggressive with me. Hugs are ALWAYS welcome.

i am an aspiring slut.
You should message me if
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You want to be one of my new friends.

You have vegan recipes to share.

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You are looking for a new make-out or cuddle buddy.

You want to cut, color, and/or style my hair and/or do my make-up. Like a dramatic eye or whatever. I will return the favor in anyway desired. BTW, I can do a mean french braid.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.