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My self-summary
EDIT: I guess I forgot to say nice things about myself, so I am sweet, sensitive, strong, vulnerable, have a dark/dry sense of humor and enjoy the absurd. Oh, and I am a pretty great cook, can fix anything and I am a gentlemen who knows how to play naughty when desired. I am usually down for whatever whether that be taking a last minute roadtrip, getting high on wednesday, or fucking in public. If I don't like something I usually just leave or look away, and when people feel that way about me I suggest they do the same.

Previous section: I have had many ups and downs in my life. I am not well adjusted or successful by society's standard, but I have a lot to offer and share it as often as possible. I have spent all of my life trying to be introspective and critical. I admit I can be a bit of a sourpuss sometimes because I have a tendency to poke holes in arguments and theories. This is not to say that I like to argue, I do not. I used to do that a lot. Once I figured out that there is no right, and that being right has little value anyway, I have become much better at having discussion. I do strive for truth and I am usually excited about critical thought and even some debate, but I am not in it to win it.

I feel stifled because in my heart there is a lot of love to give, yet it has been very difficult for me to fond people to receive it. I know that part of that is my intensity and people often doubt my veracity. But, I assure you that I already love you unless you give me reasons to feel otherwise and love to me is a verb. That means I want to do whatever you might want me to. And yes, I realize i can be a bit overbearing or intimidating, I have gotten much better. But, I am not a sucker or a pushover. I just like to help, and love.

I am looking for a sexual relationship. I often get lonely and want someone to hold and touch and kiss and fuck. Any or all of those and others depending on the day. I am not straight, but have had little experience with men. Most men simply do not interest me because I am attracted to the feminine energy. I seek the soothing and comforting part of the female energy. I also try to embody that energy myself, so it wont be all in one direction.

I am not interested in any strict monogamous or traditional relationship. I am looking for a partner. I believe gender and sexuality are fluid and I am looking for the support I need to explore that. I am not against commitment, just monogamy. The details of that can be hashed out between us, but if you believe in 'the one', please read Ethical Slut the second edition before contacting me. That will give you some insight into why I feel this way.

I believe monogamy is more about possesion than about love and dedication. I want someone to explore and grow even if that means losing them. Ployamory to me is NOT about being able to sleep with whomever I want. Sex will never be more important to me that my existing relationships or the feelings of the people involved. But, I do want to be free to explore relationships with other people and I do not believe in drawing arbitrary lines in the sand around them.

I fucking love to cuddle, but I also love to fuck. I want to make you happy, that is what turns me on. I get turned on my being wanted and feeling safe. Tell me what turns you on and I am down to at least try it. GGG
What I’m doing with my life
I fix shit. I currently do donation based auto repair in oakland and I dream of opening a community auto repair.
I’m really good at
Feeling awkward in crowds. Finding faults in others when I truly want to be connected.

Creating space for those who need someone to hear them. Solving problems or just being there for people.
The first things people usually notice about me
that i am not wearing any pants.

Also, it can take a while for me to feel comfortable and start making jokes. Booze also helps this, so I consume it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Nina Simone, NIN, Taxi Driver, Home cooked, Endurance

Honestly, this section is too much right now. Maybe some other time.

In general I like things that have something to say or art that is made out of compulsion. Any art for arts sake is just ok with me.
The six things I could never do without
Being wanted, Touch, People to care about, Things to fix, Kitties, Freedom
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex and intimacy and love. Real love where people work towards making each other happy and that look in their eyes when you can see they want you around.

I am also stuck in an endless existential crisis. Been this way for as long as I can remember. I will not burden you with anymore than you want to hear. Just cuddle me and my brain goes blank. Or let me get lost in you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Last Friday I stayed home, drank a few beers and had a one hand stand.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I am inconsolable, all i want is someone to hold me, and lay their head on my chest.
You should message me if
You want to be one of my new friends, cuddle buddies, play partners, adventure friend, yoga partner

You have vegan recipes to share.

You believe in AND practice enthusiastic consent and enjoy LOTS of communication (at least at first) The more clear you can be about your boundaries, the more comfortable I will feel about touching you. I like to say "I am available for ....

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.

You wanna cuddle with someone without them trying to fuck you. Seriously. DTC. Down to cuddle.