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38 Oakland, CA Genderqueer, Cis Man

Genderqueer, Cis Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:37pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Dropped out of university
Seeing Someone
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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queer in many ways, ggg, ethical slut, feminist, and generous.

I am polyamorous, or at the vary least, I do not believe in monogamy. To me, being polyamorous is not about being able to have sex with whomever you want. It is about developing deep connections with multiple people and not having arbitrary rules that define them. It means being able to explore relationships, sexual or not, in different ways with different people and my partners doing the same. I do not have a particular model in mind, and I am certainly open to being mostly with only one person. But, I am not willing to close the doors to other possibilities. Monogamy seems to me to be more about possession then wanted someone to fully express themselves. To love someone means to want the best for them, even if that means losing them.

I like a lot of communication, and I like to express myself often and prefer people who do as well. I like to be reassured verbally and often do the same. And I like to be explicit about things that some people seem to think are silly, particularly when I am first getting to know someone.
What I’m doing with my life
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fixing cars, working with food not bombs, trying to help, talking to people about polyamory, veganism, feminism, and other politics.

Living by my own rules.

practicing yoga and learning to be more accepting of myself, others, and the world.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and hearing people.

I can fix anything. At least anything that can be fixed. I also build things. I love working with new materials and trying things I have never tried before.

Being there when the shit hits the fan.

Cooking, i have an amazing talent of scrounging whatever happens to be around and creating something to eat. also, i dumpster a lot. Almost entirely fresh organic produce. So, amazing!
The first things people usually notice about me
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that i am not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ethical Slut, People's history, Endurance, Fear and Loathing,

Love movies, mostly documentaries, or stories that have something to say. Sometimes I like a good action movie, and most comedies are just not funny to me.

Art is the expression of something through a medium. When someone else experiences it, that is when the magic happens. It does not have to be the same, or the intended feeling to be great art, it just has to mean something. Insert art form here ______

I also believe great art is born out of necessity. Great artists have no choice but to make their art. In terms of music, this is anything with real passion whether it is Rise against or Nina Simone. I will occasionally listen to something more poppy because sometimes it is fun to just dance. Country makes me somewhat homicidal.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. Friends. Intimacy. Yoga. Sunshine. A challenge. intellectual stimulation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Intimacy and sex and how to get more of it.

My role as a cisgendered queer white male.

Activism vs. Criticism

How to be a better friend, lover, cook, mechanic, person.

Why I get so few responses to my messages. Hmph.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I have been home reading/cooking/listening to music. Sometimes, at a bar or show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I recently regained my libido through a new job, some meds, and some amazing people. I am interested in trying to use it up. GGG always.

i am an aspiring slut. And more accurately an affection junkie!!! I get lonely a lot and want that feeling of being wanted. Or it translates in my head as that I feel like I have SO much love to give and no one seems to want it.

I do not like SF. I am not saying I never will, but so far the vast majority of my experiences there have left me anxious to get back to oakland. I thought sf was supposed to be queer and weird, but it seems awefully square and more and more privileged. I dont know, if you want to show me the queer/weird side of sf, then please do, otherwise I am in the east bay for a reason.
You should message me if
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You want to be one of my new friends, cuddle buddies, play partners, adventure friend, yoga partner, mentor, father figure, you have something, or many things to mentor me on, etc,

You have vegan recipes to share.

You are a feminist, or aren't sure but are interested in learning why it is fucking crucial.

You believe in AND practice enthusiastic consent and enjoy LOTS of communication around sex play.

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.

Being a burner is an important part of your identity- you are full of shit!

Your profile says 'you like to laugh', or 'you are down top earth', or 'you want to breed' This includes any animal including the vile looking ones that come out of some people's vagina. Don't get me wrong, I love kids, just not unborn ones. ABORT THEM ALL!