Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
queer in many ways, ggg, ethical slut, feminist, and
I am polyamorous, or at the vary least, I do not believe in
monogamy. To me, being polyamorous is not about being able to have
sex with whomever you want. It is about developing deep connections
with multiple people and not having arbitrary rules that define
them. It means being able to explore relationships, sexual or not,
in different ways with different people and my partners doing the
same. I do not have a particular model in mind, and I am certainly
open to being mostly with only one person. But, I am not willing to
close the doors to other possibilities. Monogamy seems to me to be
more about possession then wanted someone to fully express
themselves. To love someone means to want the best for them, even
if that means losing them.
I like a lot of communication, and I like to express myself often
and prefer people who do as well. I like to be reassured verbally
and often do the same. And I like to be explicit about things that
some people seem to think are silly, particularly when I am first
getting to know someone.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
fixing cars, working with food not bombs, trying to help, talking
to people about polyamory, veganism, feminism, and other
Living by my own rules.
practicing yoga and learning to be more accepting of myself,
others, and the world.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and hearing people.
I can fix anything. At least anything that can be fixed. I also
build things. I love working with new materials and trying things I
have never tried before.
Being there when the shit hits the fan.
Cooking, i have an amazing talent of scrounging whatever happens to
be around and creating something to eat. also, i dumpster a lot.
Almost entirely fresh organic produce. So, amazing!
The first things people usually notice about me
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that i am not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Ethical Slut, People's history, Endurance, Fear and Loathing,
Love movies, mostly documentaries, or stories that have something
to say. Sometimes I like a good action movie, and most comedies are
just not funny to me.
Art is the expression of something through a medium. When someone
else experiences it, that is when the magic happens. It does not
have to be the same, or the intended feeling to be great art, it
just has to mean something. Insert art form here ______
I also believe great art is born out of necessity. Great artists
have no choice but to make their art. In terms of music, this is
anything with real passion whether it is Rise against or Nina
Simone. I will occasionally listen to something more poppy because
sometimes it is fun to just dance. Country makes me somewhat
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. Friends. Intimacy. Yoga. Sunshine. A challenge. intellectual
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Intimacy and sex and how to get more of it.
My role as a cisgendered queer white male.
Activism vs. Criticism
How to be a better friend, lover, cook, mechanic, person.
Why I get so few responses to my messages. Hmph.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I have been home reading/cooking/listening to music.
Sometimes, at a bar or show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I recently regained my libido through a new job, some meds, and
some amazing people. I am interested in trying to use it up. GGG
i am an aspiring slut.
I like being alone, but get lonely often and wish I had people to
share time/space with.
I do not like SF. I am not saying I never will, but so far the vast
majority of my experiences there have left me anxious to get back
to oakland. I thought sf was supposed to be queer and weird, but it
seems awefully square and more and more privileged. I dont know, if
you want to show me the queer/weird side of sf, then please do,
otherwise I am in the east bay for a reason.
You should message me if
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You want to be one of my new friends.
You have vegan recipes to share.
You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and
fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of
You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but
dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.
Who are you looking for?
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