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38 Oakland, CA Genderqueer, Cis Man

Genderqueer, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:09pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Dropped out of university
Seeing Someone
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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queer in many ways, ggg, ethical slut, feminist, and generous.

I am polyamorous, or at the vary least, I do not believe in monogamy. To me, being polyamorous is not about being able to have sex with whomever you want. It is about developing deep connections with multiple people and not having arbitrary rules that define them. It means being able to explore relationships, sexual or not, in different ways with different people and my partners doing the same. I do not have a particular model in mind, and I am certainly open to being mostly with only one person. But, I am not willing to close the doors to other possibilities. Monogamy seems to me to be more about possession then wanted someone to fully express themselves. To love someone means to want the best for them, even if that means losing them.

I like a lot of communication, and I like to express myself often and prefer people who do as well. I like to be reassured verbally and often do the same. And I like to be explicit about things that some people seem to think are silly, particularly when I am first getting to know someone.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Why's it come as a surprise to think that I was so naive? Maybe didn't mean that much, but it meant everything to me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Not relaxing and taking things to seriously. Getting drunk and falling asleep early. Eating the tiniest bit of your leftovers and then smushing it around so that you can't tell.
The first things people usually notice about me
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that i am not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Nina Simone
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The company of people I love. Six of them I guess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Finding someone to cuddle with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I have a part time job as a lonely cynic who sits in bed drinking wine and listening to Nina Simone. It doesn't pay well, but I enjoy having something to rely on every week. They say routine is good for people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My penis and I are not always on the same page. Lots of traumatic negative sexual experiences have left me and the poor guy at odds. Or maybe I am the poor guy and he is the master of my domain. Either way, I take viagra to help with this problem, but even that only works when there is real chemistry. I do not have sex with people that I do not like, and I need to feel wanted and appreciated, just think of me as a woman and this will all work itself out.
You should message me if
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You want to be one of my new friends, cuddle buddies, play partners, adventure friend, yoga partner

You have vegan recipes to share.

You believe in AND practice enthusiastic consent and enjoy LOTS of communication around sex play.

You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of accomplishment.

You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.

You aren't done breeding, or haven't started yet and want to. Just STOP already.