Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
EDIT: I guess I forgot to say nice things about myself, so I am
sweet, sensitive, strong, vulnerable, have a dark/dry sense of
humor and enjoy the absurd. Oh, and I am a pretty great cook, can
fix anything and I am a gentlemen who knows how to play naughty
when desired. I am usually down for whatever whether that be taking
a last minute roadtrip, getting high on wednesday, or fucking in
public. If I don't like something I usually just leave or look
away, and when people feel that way about me I suggest they do the
Previous section: I have had many ups and downs in my life. I am
not well adjusted or successful by society's standard, but I have a
lot to offer and share it as often as possible. I have spent all of
my life trying to be introspective and critical. I admit I can be a
bit of a sourpuss sometimes because I have a tendency to poke holes
in arguments and theories. This is not to say that I like to argue,
I do not. I used to do that a lot. Once I figured out that there is
no right, and that being right has little value anyway, I have
become much better at having discussion. I do strive for truth and
I am usually excited about critical thought and even some debate,
but I am not in it to win it.
I feel stifled because in my heart there is a lot of love to give,
yet it has been very difficult for me to fond people to receive it.
I know that part of that is my intensity and people often doubt my
veracity. But, I assure you that I already love you unless you give
me reasons to feel otherwise and love to me is a verb. That means I
want to do whatever you might want me to. And yes, I realize i can
be a bit overbearing or intimidating, I have gotten much better.
But, I am not a sucker or a pushover. I just like to help, and
I am looking for a sexual relationship. I often get lonely and want
someone to hold and touch and kiss and fuck. Any or all of those
and others depending on the day. I am not straight, but have had
little experience with men. Most men simply do not interest me
because I am attracted to the feminine energy. I seek the soothing
and comforting part of the female energy. I also try to embody that
energy myself, so it wont be all in one direction.
I am not interested in any strict monogamous or traditional
relationship. I am looking for a partner. I believe gender and
sexuality are fluid and I am looking for the support I need to
explore that. I am not against commitment, just monogamy. The
details of that can be hashed out between us, but if you believe in
'the one', please read Ethical Slut the second edition before
contacting me. That will give you some insight into why I feel this
I believe monogamy is more about possesion than about love and
dedication. I want someone to explore and grow even if that means
losing them. Ployamory to me is NOT about being able to sleep with
whomever I want. Sex will never be more important to me that my
existing relationships or the feelings of the people involved. But,
I do want to be free to explore relationships with other people and
I do not believe in drawing arbitrary lines in the sand around
I fucking love to cuddle, but I also love to fuck. I want to make
you happy, that is what turns me on. I get turned on my being
wanted and feeling safe. Tell me what turns you on and I am down to
at least try it. GGG
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I fix shit. I currently do donation based auto repair in oakland
and I dream of opening a community auto repair.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Feeling awkward in crowds. Finding faults in others when I truly
want to be connected.
Creating space for those who need someone to hear them. Solving
problems or just being there for people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that i am not wearing any pants.
Also, it can take a while for me to feel comfortable and start
making jokes. Booze also helps this, so I consume it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Nina Simone, NIN, Taxi Driver, Home cooked, Endurance
Honestly, this section is too much right now. Maybe some other
In general I like things that have something to say or art that is
made out of compulsion. Any art for arts sake is just ok with me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Being wanted, Touch, People to care about, Things to fix, Kitties,
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex and intimacy and love. Real love where people work towards
making each other happy and that look in their eyes when you can
see they want you around.
I am also stuck in an endless existential crisis. Been this way for
as long as I can remember. I will not burden you with anymore than
you want to hear. Just cuddle me and my brain goes blank. Or let me
get lost in you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Last Friday I stayed home, drank a few beers and had a one hand
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I am inconsolable, all i want is someone to hold me, and lay
their head on my chest.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to be one of my new friends, cuddle buddies, play
partners, adventure friend, yoga partner
You have vegan recipes to share.
You believe in AND practice enthusiastic consent and enjoy LOTS of
communication (at least at first) The more clear you can be about
your boundaries, the more comfortable I will feel about touching
you. I like to say "I am available for ....
You need someone to fix things. Really, i can fix anything, and
fixing stuff for people brings me joy and a sense of
You want to have a booze/drug induced adventure with a stranger but
dont want to have to worry about them just trying to screw you.
Who are you looking for?
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