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36 / M / Bisexual / Married
- Last Online
- Mar 6
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body Type
- Buddhism, and laughing about it
- Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Relationship Type
- Has dogs and likes cats
- English, French (Poorly)
Being present and listening to what someone is telling me, even if they aren't explicitly saying it.
The short answer is that my favorite book is "Tomorrow in the Battle Think On Me" by Javier Marias. Also "The Post Birthday World" by Lionel Shriver. I enjoy most things by Michael Cunningham and Sarah Schulman. My two favorite classes in college involved reading every book by Virginia Woolf and Dostoevsky. I keep meaning to read Anna Karenina. I love Frank O'Hara and John Ashbery, but I'm not mad at Mary Oliver and Billy Collins. Those Gillian Flynn thriller books were delicious candy to me. I recently finished Janet Mock's memoir Redefining Realness and you should go read it right now.
I tend to devour one television show at a time, recent examples as Damages, Scandal, House of Cards. I like Mad Men, Game of Thrones, American Horror Story, Bob's Burgers. Not too much into reality TV with the exception of Project Runway, Face/Off, and Dancing With the Stars.
I saw Cloud Atlas at the second run theater and didn't hate it, which surprised me. Generally I'm an omnivore of movies, I reviewed them for blogs for a couple years, now it's just for fun. Thrillers, drama, sci-fi tend to be favorites, but don't mind horror, rom-com. Like weirdo indie, foreign, anything with great visuals or compelling story or emotionally potent acting will get me. Or a fcked up sex scene. A few favorite directors include: Nicole Holofcener, Todd Solondz, Alexander Payne, Hitchcock, Soderbergh, Michael Haneke, Atom Egoyan, but this list feels a little dated now that I'm making it.
I have 16,000 songs in my itunes, but then again, who doesn't these days? I like 60s jazz, 70s soul, 80s r&b, 90s hip-hop, and 00s indie pop. That last one sounds awkward. What will the 10s bring? I DJed for over 10 years in Chicago and in the last year my favorite project was collaborating with a friend to produce Soft Rock Sabbath, a Sunday night event of smooth and easy music.
walls lined with overflowing bookshelves
being outside in beautiful landscapes
my various loved ones
a companion animal
When I say queer, I mean it - my desires can include poly, kinky, any gender, and even sometimes periods of asexuality. Not currently looking for dates or lovers or tricks, been exploring emotional intimacy in other ways right now, but reserve the right to change any answer at any time without worry the world will come crashing down around me.
When my profile says "drugs: sometimes", I'm talking about the ones that grow in the ground. And sometimes I really enjoy a hand-rolled cigarette, but I don't smoke tobacco with any regularity.
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