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26 San Leandro, CA Man


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Last online
Yesterday – 5:30pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), German (Okay), Italian (Poorly), Romanian (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Just moved to the SF Bay Area after 14 years in Indiana. I have a B.S. in math from Indiana University, but midway through my undergraduate work I decided that going to grad school in math wasn't my thing, so I've been trying to redirect my life toward my more marketable passion for computer programming.

Recently, my life took an unexpected new turn when a family friend clued me in to the existence of "coding boot camps"--short, intensive programs aimed at turning amateur coders into professional software developers. I applied for several of these highly competitive programs, and I got accepted to a really great one called App Academy in San Francisco--thus, my sudden move to the Bay Area.

I'm a Ravenclaw, though Pottermore seems to think I'm a Hufflepuff instead.

I'm conflicted as to whether or not to become a San Francisco Giants fan, since my dad is a Dodgers fan, and those teams have been arch-rivals all the way back to their days in New York. Maybe I'll settle for being an Oakland A's fan, since I'm living in the East Bay.

I'm a very passionate chess player. I just recently joined the Mechanics' Institute Library and Chess Room in SF, which houses the oldest chess club in the United States. I've only been there a few times so far, but it's really great. They've got all of these wonderful turn-of-the-century chess boards that are carved right into the tables; if only the chess pieces were so elegant too, but unfortunately, they're just cheap plastic ones. Oh, well...

I also love to play bridge. I know it's kind of out of fashion with the younger generation these days, but I love it, and I would love to find more people my age who played. If you've ever played it or would like to learn, let me know--I'll teach you! Seriously, it's a lot more fun than Euchre or Spades, which seem to be what my generation likes to play primarily. One of the things I'll be looking for as I get settled in to the Bay Area is a bridge club in San Francisco so that I can have people to play with now that I'm no longer near my family.

I'm a composer of classical music and musical theatre. I've been writing music since I was a small child, and have always been extremely passionate about it. When I was in high school, I completed my first musical (my mom wrote the lyrics), and we got it performed when I was 16. I've been working on a few other shows ever since, although I need to find a new collaborator, since my mom sadly passed away in 2010 (feel free to ask about it--I'm very open to discussing it). I also have a back-burner project to write an opera--possibly based on Henrik Ibsen's play A Doll's House. I have the first scene of it written in draft, but that's as far as I've gotten so far.

I'm extremely excited to be moving to the big city and having access to all the great things San Francisco has to offer. I would really love to meet interesting people as well.
What I’m doing with my life
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From February 16th through May 8th, I'm going to be attending App Academy, which is going to take up 90 to 100 hours of my time every week (crazy, I know!). Hopefully, I'll still have some time for socializing/dating on the weekends, though.

I'm going to be learning a ton of software development stuff at App Academy, especially Ruby on Rails (used primarily for web development) and JavaScript. I feel extremely honored to have been accepted there, given that fewer than five percent of applicants make it through the screening process. I guess they have to be selective, though, because of their highly attractive payment plan--instead of charging a hefty tuition up front, as most of these places do, App Academy takes 18 percent of your first year's salary once you get hired as a developer; before then, all you have to pay up front is a (refundable) deposit, and of course the astronomical cost of living in the Bay Area! However, it makes it a whole lot more convenient to be a student there, and it really shows their commitment to turning out first-class programmers. They claim on their website that over 95 percent of their graduates get hired in Silicon Valley within a year, and that the average starting salary is six figures, so clearly what they're doing works, and I can't wait to be a part of it.
I’m really good at
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Math and computer science. Although I've mostly set aside my math degree to focus on a career in programming since I got accepted to App Academy, I'm still really passionate about math, and I'm very interested in stuff that combines my two nerdy passions, such as cryptography. A lot of people don't know this, but there is actually a ton of math that goes into modern encryption schemes. For instance the most commonly used public-key encryption system is RSA (named, by the way, after the three MIT professors who developed it--Rivest, Shamir, and Adleman), and its security is completely based on the difficulty of factoring products of multi-hundred-digit prime numbers, so mathematicians put in a lot of time and effort into studying the latest number theory in order to keep encryption systems such as RSA secure.

I also really used to be into game programming as a hobby, and once wrote a chess game and a Tetris game that actually worked!

Meanwhile, I think I'm pretty decent at composing music. People seemed to like my first musical when it got performed, and that was when I was only 16. I feel like I've gotten even better as a composer as time went on, and I can't wait to finish another show and get it performed sometime.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sad to say, but it's probably my weight. I'm working on it. Also my glasses and my smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books: Harry Potter, Hunger Games, Divergent Trilogy, Pride and Prejudice (which I'm hoping to make a musical out of), A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, good classic literature

Favorite movies: Apollo 13, Catch Me If You Can, the Hunger Games movies (best book-to-movie transfer ever, IMHO, plus I've got a crush on Jennifer Lawrence), Casablanca, Star Wars

Interesting footnote--I'm working on some serious Star Wars fan fiction: my own Episodes VII, VIII, and IX (which I came up with the concepts for long before there was ever going to be an official sequel trilogy, and which I still think are going to be better than the real ones. Feel free to challenge me on that assertion!)

Favorite shows: I don't really watch TV much, and when I do, it's mostly for sporting events. However, I do like Whose Line Is It Anyway and Chuck (still need to watch the last two seasons of that). My sister watches a lot more TV than I do, and she's given my quite a few recommendations, including Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Doctor Who, Downton Abbey, Blackadder, and a whole lot of other British comedy, but I haven't really found the time to watch any of that stuff yet.

I'm also going to add a category that wasn't technically on here:

Favorite Broadway musicals: Classic musical theatre (Guys and Dolls, Oklahoma!, West Side Story, etc.), Phantom of the Opera, Wicked

I've actually acted in a number of musicals myself--so far, I've been in Guys and Dolls, Bye Bye Birdie, Annie, and Mame, and I've music/vocal-directed Babes in Arms (the original "Let's put on a show in the barn!" musical from the 1930s).

Favorite classical music: Beethoven, Mozart, Wagner, Puccini, Bach, Rachmaninoff, Borodin, Ravel, Brahms, Tchaikovsky, Shostakovich, too many to name

I don't really listen to much popular music (I'm very hard to please), but if you've got a favorite artist/group/song you'd like to share with me, by all means, I'll give it a chance!

Favorite food: Indian, Mexican, Pizza
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My family and friends
Harry Potter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trying to live a meaningful life. Also, all of the musical/creative projects I'd like to write someday and currently have on the back burner.

Whether or not the universe has some driving force that, for lack of a better name, could possibly be called God (although not the God of any established religion). I once took a college class called "The Bible and the Problem of Suffering" that was all about how different people over the years have dealt with the question of how a benevolent God could coexist with the reality of human suffering. We mostly looked at Biblical examples in that course, but I've taken the ideas from that course far beyond the scope of Judeo-Christian theology and come to develop my own ideas about divinity. In general, my views on human suffering are best summed up by a Harry Potter quote--it's when the Muggle Prime Minister asks Cornelius Fudge why wizards can't use their magic to sort out absolutely anything; Fudge's reply is "The trouble is, the other side can do magic too, Prime Minister."

Along these lines, I feel that if there is a God in the universe, He (for lack of a better pronoun, although I don't particularly like to think of God in personal terms) must be very powerful and benevolent, but not omnipotent, and there must be some other powerful force that's powerful as well and that drives the evil and suffering in the world.

I'm sure the last couple of paragraphs make me sound very religious, but the truth is I'm really not particularly religious at all. I just like to think about these kind of things from a philosophical standpoint. I'm very open to discussing this, by the way, in case you're curious where I stand on certain things.

I also spend a lot of time pondering why a composer like Mozart or Beethoven can write a piece of music that would be seen as a masterpiece, but if the piece had instead been written by a modern composer, people would see it as derivative and hackneyed. I once read an excerpt from some novel (I don't even know the name of it) about a forger who tries to pass off one of his own paintings as a long lost Van Eyck. After he's caught, he explains that he did it because he knew he wouldn't receive any recognition for it as his own work, but if he presented it as the work of a famous painter, it would be seen as a masterpiece. I think the same paradox applies to music as well, and since my own compositional style is very influenced by the music of the 19th century, I spend a lot of time thinking about why new music in that style will never please the critics.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm actually not sure anymore. When I lived in Indiana, I used to spend Friday nights (and other evenings, to tell the truth) with my family, often playing bridge or simply spending time together. Occasionally, I would go to a concert, play, musical, or opera. Now that I've moved to the Bay Area and I'm on my own, I really don't know how I'll be spending a typical Friday night, or even if there will be such a thing for the foreseeable future.

I hope that I'll be spending a lot of Friday nights socializing with my peers, and potentially going on dates if the opportunity arises.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've never actually been in a serious relationship before. Partly because I'm socially shy (although I do open up once I get to know someone), and partly it's because I lived in a small town in Indiana where there weren't all that many compatible people. I hope all that will change now that I'm out in California, and I fully intend to make up for everything I've missed over the past few years.
You should message me if
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If everything I've said above makes me sound like an interesting person.

If you've actually read my entire profile.

If you'd ever like to go to a theatrical performance/symphony concert/opera with me, or maybe a baseball game (Giants or A's, I don't care which).

If you play chess or bridge.

If you've got a great book or movie to recommend to me.

If you just feel like it for some other reason.