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35 / M / Straight / Single

Portland, Oregon

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Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m).
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), English (Okay), English (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest, under the cover of clouds, which is like a pewter lid for our city--or on the better days like the ceiling of a blanket fort. I've been a fiction-writer, a song-maker, a servant in restaurants, and a sleeper in offices (sleep while you type!). A farm-boy, a street-kid, an early-morning meditator, and a very freaky late-night dancer. A meticulous reader and a creator of marginalia. I mix the past and present together in these lists, because I am a mixture of my past and my present.

A dichotomy of cerebral fiction and black American dance music has ruled my life. There is one novelist named Ishmael Reed who brings both of these together, and one musician, George Clinton, who took Reed's mythos and translated it to music, but I hardly take in either these days, as age and saturation has made them both seem a bit cartoonish. (Update: the interzone of funk and fiction may now be occupied by Jonathan Lethem's "Fortress of Solitude" and MF Doom's entire oeuvre.)

I read a lot European writers who let their sentences wander over the page like possessed elderly dogs (dogs on their death walks, who somehow find their way through the fence, across town, to die in the arms of the rain).

I am short and neurotic (in a charming, Woody Allenesque sort of way, if you find Woody charming and not terrifying), though never so much that I forget about my body and its desire to wiggle and shake. Prince is my other major diminutive role-model. Folks who are not short whom I also want to emulate also would include: Harpo Marx, Spock, Peaches, and Bill Withers. Actually I kind of want to marry Bill Withers.

Here's what a French friend had to say about me. I'm not entirely sure what it means, but I think she called me a cowboy:

"On peut dire que Daniel n'a pas les pieds sur terre, qu'il vit dans les nuages, qu'il est reveur, romanesque, illumine, chimerique -oui, surement moi je trouve que c'est un cow-boy, un grand cow-boy moderne qui danse le (french) rock and roll divinement"—Geraldine
What I’m doing with my life
I write short stories about the ghosts of those who might still be living but are somehow lost and ubiquitized for us alone. I'm a little published, but only in literary journals, so no big whoop.

I sing and play piano for a post-post-modern soul band, and it makes me giddy at times to know that I have back-up singers in my life, as though it were a musical revue.

For money, I am an email psychotherapist for a local grocery chain, addressing the societal fears and early traumas of our customers using only grocery metaphors.

I'd like to move to Europe someday.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am short. I have a strong jawline, flirty eyes, and am obviously Jewy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
Sebald, Marias, Dostoevsky, Kafka, Shakespeare, Didion, Dinesen, Pynchon, Poe, Melville, Hardy, Conrad, Highsmith, Proust, Denis Johnson, Dickens, Sterne, Yeats, Borges, Barthelme, Beckett, Dickinson, Murakami, Marquez, Lispector...

Film:
Almodovar, Marx Brothers, Paul Thomas Anderson, Billy Wilder, Tarkovskey, Herzog, Woody Allen, Michael Haneke... musicals, screwball comedies, sllllllow art films, ridiculous big budget action extravaganzas... Joe Vs. The Volcano, Let the Right One In, The Apartment, Secretary...

Music:
James Brown, Neutral Milk Hotel, E-40, O.V. Wright, Chopin, Professor Longhair, Ted Leo, The Meters, Joanna Newsom, Aretha Franklin, M.F. Doom, Charles Mingus, Juana Molina, Otis Redding, Sam and Dave, Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, Solomon Burke (RIP), Etta James, Lil Wayne, Eddie Palmieri, nearly all early nineties hip hop, birdsong...

Television:
Star Trek: TOS, DS9, TNG, TAS, ENT, and VOY, in that order. Battlestar Galactica, Firefly, Madmen, Monty Python, Twin Peaks, Your Show of Shows, Arrested Development
The six things I could never do without
1. Fiction that seems to leave the page.
2. Music that makes you leave your seat.
3. Someone to love, on occasion.
4. My intricate and nostalgic memories, like the furnished rooms of a doll house that is not cute at all.
5. My pillow nook, where I bask in the glow of vintage sci-fi.
6. The promise of someday traveling (without itinerary) again.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I like books, obviously, but I also like nature, which gives us back our three dimensions, i.e. the perspectival variety (horizon, forest, anthill, from far to close) of which our minds are starved in the city—a visual desert, except for the broken people and joyful animals and those hotels and crypts that are close to crumbling, in a patina of years that's close to black, which can also show us secondary perspectives through the superimposition of other eras on our own.
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't drink much (one cocktail makes me giddy), and in Portland this makes me a bit of an alien. Drink is our substitute for daylight here.

On a Friday night, I might be having dinner with a friend, or playing a show, or seeing a movie. I might be on one of these blasted Internet dates. I might be at home, reading or pursuing Star Trek completism.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Since this is a dating site, I should be clear that my sexual politics are very progressive, after years of fighting my way out of my father's snickering and evasive judgments (an evasive judgment is one that is qualified with a prefatory statement, such as, "People can do whatever they want, but..."). Here's my litany Dan Savage-isms intelligible only to those who appreciate them: GGG, heteroflexible, cisgendered, a top, non-monogamous but hoping to be monogamISH with the right person. Sometimes I want to call myself "queer," in the very modern sense of the word, but I'm (almost!) exclusively interested in cisgendered women, so... Pomosexual?? If you are lost, nearly all these phrases are readily Googleable.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex