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38 Kansas City, MO Woman


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  • Ages 29-40
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My details

Last online
Aug 18
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am certified to teach math and English in my state, but after a disappointing and disillusioning year in a classroom, I have made something of a career tutoring privately. Since that isn't quite what we need to pay bills, I also have a day job working in the finance department of a non-profit.

I enjoy playing Guitar Hero and PS1-era RPG's (like FFVII) when I have the time. I also try to go to sci-fi cons, but fail frequently. I really like to filk. I play board games like Ticket to Ride and Power Grid. I am one of the horrible people that Cards Against Humanity was created for.

Since joining OKCupid, I've really changed. I kind of wonder if I shouldn't start a new profile, since some of the questions could have different answers.

Upfront: Poly, bisexual, pagan, geeky, mostly submissive switch with the right person

I vacillate between a confident person who feels competent and a freaking-out-on-the-inside person who appears to be confident and competent to those not in her head. This is a huge step up from vacillating between a little depressed and a lot depressed.

Last update: 20 March 2014
I am considerate, snarky, and Helpful.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm tutoring privately and working an office job and happier than I ever was as a classroom teacher.

I am also a lay leader in Gaia Community, an earth-based, pagan, Unitarian Universalist congregation. This ties for time with paying work. (Gaia Community does not equal Camp Gaea.)

Last year, I joined the Kansas City Women's Chorus, re-awoke the choir dork in me that lay dormant after years of choir in high school and the first time I was in college. I'm taking this season off as I get used to a new work schedule.

I also play D&D fairly regularly. I enjoy campaigns with lots of story, plenty of chances for characters to BE characters, and just enough fighting to get me to level 8, so I can get rid of that -1 Strength modifier!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing, working my ass off to learn something, singing, math (especially algebra), Ticket to Ride
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a brilliant smile. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Discworld, Harry Potter, Heinlein's Future History series, Mercedes Lackey's Valdemar books, Anne McCaffrey's Pern, Killashandra, and Ship Who Sang series, Neil Gaiman, John Green

Movies: Kevin Smith's stuff (I actually enjoyed Jersey Girl.), the Harry Potter series, Pixar (most of it), and I do enjoy a romantic comedy with a strong female lead (just ask Netflix!)

Music: Moxy Fruvous, Mediaeval Baebes, The Ditty Bops, Neko Case, The Scissor Sisters, Beatles, XTC, Jonathan Coulton, Mumford & Sons, Adele, and many,many more. I used to work in a music department and I still try to discover new artists. A big find this year is Walk off the Earth. Their 4 one-guitar cover of "Somebody That I Used to Know" was all over the internet, but their original stuff is also really good.

Foods: pumpkin pie, CHOCOLATE

TV: Doctor Who, Torchwood, Glee, Bones, House, How I Met Your Mother, Arrested Development; I'm not caught up on many things though because we turned off the cable. I also will re-watch Buffy with very little provocation.
The six things I could never do without
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my computer, my husband, my cats, my car, diet Pepsi, prescriptions (not necessarily in that order)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to get David Tennant and a host of other good-looking people out of my fantasies.

buying a house someday.

How to tell guys that I'm attracted to them when I'm married.

how to tell GIRLS that I'm attracted to them, period.

And these days, how to respond to the messages I receive here. I'm always pleased to get nice, thought-out messages and I want to give good replies. For some reason, I'm always afraid I'll end up disappointing the message sender. (Apparently, one way to get to know me is to be one of the oddly large number of people who I meet IRL who messaged me on here and I didn't respond. . .)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* playing board games at Gaia's games night.
* having dinner with a bunch of Gaia folks
* having a quiet evening with my husband and going to bed early, because we are lame.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once paid for porn on the Internet. I know! There's so much out there that's free! ;)
You should message me if
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You're prepared for the fact that I am a *terrible* email correspondent.

You think I'm interesting. You're looking for a friend, first. You don't live too far away. You can carry on a conversation with me without dwelling on your personal obsession with {fill-in-the-blank}.

You know what Ticket to Ride is and want to play.

You read the up-fronts and you're absolutely okay with them!

Please note that I am not interested in having a conversation about sex with someone I haven't met. I will be hesitant to reply to you if you appear to only be interested in the fact that I'm poly or kinky.

Finally, even though I know it's a little crass, I ignore messages that contain atrocious spelling or grammar and messages that are one liners. Neither indicates thoughtfulness. And, yes, I do judge bad grammar/spelling as an indicator that a person might not be terribly smart/educated or is at least lazy. No one is perfect, but we can all try to use written language in a way that helps to alleviate the fact that many nuances are lost in writing.

Remember: commas save lives!
"Let's eat grandma" vs "Let's eat, Grandma!"