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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32-52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:06pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Dropped out of Space camp
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English, German (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Meyers-Briggs: ENTJ

Professional Nerd
Avid Hiker
Shibari Rigger

Divorced now coming up on four years and have a very mature, amicable relationship with my ex. I've been in and out of a couple relationships with some amazing women since. I'm looking for a connection with a smart, fun, bratty and playful woman who has been in enough relationships to have a good understanding of herself and what her needs are and the importance of clear communication. I prefer to discuss and define terms of open relationships, but I don't identify as a polyamorist necessarily. I haven't yet met the single person who would make me feel otherwise. Maybe you're out there. Currently, I'm not looking for anything long-term and permanent, as I feel my life doesn't lend itself to having enough time and availability right now, so this wouldn't be fair to you.

I'm working as a senior-level Technology professional for an awesome company!

I firmly believe that we are the product of our influences. We should choose them wisely.

I find myself questioning the social norms.

I have a bit of a devious side too. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to balance my career with my real life and interests.

Enjoying hobbies and outdoor activities.

Traveling to cool places when I can. This year it was East coast twice, Dallas, Hawaii, England and Scotland.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communicating. - and getting better at it.

Listening. - and getting better at it. ;)

Being a good friend. - I care for those I'm close to.

Over thinking stuff.


Shibari Rigging.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not sure, I don't ask them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't own a TV and rarely stream stuff, but when I do, I like anything by Joss Whedon. Or there's, Weeds, Girls, True Blood, Breaking Bad, OITNB - first season at least, The Newsroom. I prefer indie / art films to mainstream. One of my recent favorite films is Marilyn Hotchkiss Ballroom Dancing.

Dan Savage!

Music is really all over the board. Seems like lately it's been, Train, Third eye blind, Nickelback, Saving Abel, Puddle of Mudd, Eve 6, Matchbox 20, others. Some classic rock. Swing. I also love classical, mostly Baroque.

I mostly read non-fiction, trade journals, self improvement, business theory. I've recently read some Bill Bryson. I like his style. The Walk in the Woods movie trailer was bit disappointing. If you have a recommendation for a some good literature, I'd love to hear about it.

Portland has some great options. I'm a whiskey drinker and if a place makes a good boulevardier, there's a good bet the menu is fabulous!

Also, Indian, Thai, Vietnamese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids.
The Internet and social media.
Core group of friends.
Open minded, progressive thinking.
Wit, humor, banter, intelligent conversation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That next shoot!

Connection and power exchange.

How much is that next flight to Europe?

Our core beliefs and their relationship with neural pathways.

Sex, intimacy. More specifically, those almost hidden qualities that make up intense, undeniable physical chemistry.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I spend half my Fridays with my kids. On off weekends, it's usually at an event or a show. But I don't think I have what's considered typical Fridays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I tend to over think and get up in my head about certain things. It's something I'm noticing more and working on.
You should message me if
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You're positive and see the best in people.

You're looking for a relationship to start slow and see where it goes.

You think outside the box, are adventurous and open to new experiences.

If you're a modern day Hedy Lamarr!