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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 3
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Has kids and doesn’t want more
English, German (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Meyers-Briggs: ENTJ

I am:
*Geeky and artistic. Yeah, go figure.
*Strong advocate of consent culture
*Trying to live in the moment
*Fond of music in most genres
*Excited over simple things and beauty
*In awe of complex things and creativity
*Whiskey cocktails or beer with a friend in the South East
*Karaoke. Not as much lately, but up for it!
*Grateful for my amazing friends
*Lucky to be gifted in many ways
*Love to hike
*Love to sing
*Love to dance
*Shibari enthusiast
*Sex positive, open, ethically non-monogamous.

I'm a senior-level Technology professional. But please don't ask me to talk about technology. I'd rather talk about your eyes. :)

I firmly believe that we are the product of our influences. We should choose them wisely.

I define stupidity not as a judgment on one's education, but on one's unwillingness to open their mind.

I believe in the concept of yes means yes. No means no is the wrong approach. Consent is not the absence of a no it's the presence of a yes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to balance my career with my real life and interests. (my career just pays the bills. It's not who I am).

Becoming a skilled Shibari rigger.

Traveling to cool places when I can. This year it was East coast twice, Dallas for (B.E.D), Hawaii, England and Scotland.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communicating. - and getting better at it.

Listening. - and getting better at it. ;)

Showing affection and intimacy.

Knowing my limits.

Cooking. I especially enjoy preparing meals together.

Artistic and sensual bondage rigging.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a very direct, honest, clear communication style. No pretense.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't own a TV and rarely stream stuff, but when I do, I like anything by Joss Whedon. Or there's, Weeds, Girls, True Blood, Orange is the new Black, The Newsroom. I prefer indie films to mainstream. If it won an award at Cannes, it's a good bet I'll enjoy it.

Music is really all over the board. Seems like lately it's been, Train, Third eye blind, Nickelback, Saving Abel, Puddle of Mudd, Eve 6, Matchbox 20, others. Some classic rock. Swing. I also love classical, mostly Baroque.

I mostly read non-fiction, like some stuff by Jay Wiseman and others. I'm currently diving into Opening Up as it came highly recommended. I would love to dive into the Russian novels.

Good pub food
Good ethnic food (anything Indian, Thai, Vietnamese).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I've worked a lot on my needs, wants and desires list. Anyone can state what they don't want. But few of us can clearly state what we do want and to bring our needs, wants and desires into the relationship.

My needs.
Core group of friends
The beauty that is the world we live in.
Good communication
Intelligence/Intelligent people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Communication style, particularly in relationships.

How our attachment style affects our adult relationships.

Connection and power exchange.

Rope Arts.

Our core beliefs and their relationship with neural pathways.

Sex, intimacy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I spend half my Fridays with my kids. On off weekends, it's usually at an event or a show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can be a sappy romantic and there are times I can be vulnerable.
You should message me if
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You're positive and see the best in people.

You think outside the box, are adventurous and open to new experiences.

If you wear chemical-based perfumes, it's doubtful we'll have much in common.

If clear, open communication is your thing.

If you'd like to experience sensual rope bondage with a safe, skilled, consensual practitioner. Or if you're interested in attending a local rope event with me.

You are kind, caring and accepting of others, because of your essential nature, not because you're trying to earn "Get out of Hell" tokens.