Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have been told I have an effervescent smile. And a delightful
My friends say I’m the daring one but I can be a bit shy at first
so its best if you make the first move.
I love the turquoise blue of the Caribbean. Paddle boards. Mangoes.
Sand between my toes. Honesty. Authenticity.
I use the word LUSCIOUS a lot. It's how I like my life to be.
Dangle good dark chocolate in front of me and I will do almost
I’m spiritual but not dogmatic about anything but kindness.
I try to leave a little more love & beauty in the world each
Kissing. Lots and lots of kissing. And more kissing.
Professionally I unfuck people, helping them figure out where they
want to go and what’s in the way. Which means I’m a consultant with
my own business and I travel a fair amount. I also do this magical
thing with markers… (and my work isn't geographically based so I'm
open to relocating for the right man)
Something I just started doing: wildly sensual intuitive painting
retreats that immerse women into their bodies, intuition &
creativity because the world needs more women who have awakened
their untamed inner goddess.
I will know that I’ve arrived when my work-day consists of
me wearing a bikini and a sarong. (Still working but in my ideal
attire, ideally in the Caribbean.)
Like most chicks: yoga, pilates, dancing (5 Rhythms).
Unlike most: I used to be a daytrader.
Kayak. Hike. Bike. All the sports with skies. Sailboat racing. Next
up: learning how to surf.
I love wind. Must come from my Chicago roots.
Fresh snowfall delights me. So does driving a convertible at night
in the northern New Mexico desert, stars inking the sky from one
horizon to the other.
There’s something about kissing while the wind is caressing your
skin or when your toes are sinking into sand and waves. Take me
someplace gorgeous in nature and I will be a happy grateful
I believe in love. Yes, even after everything. True love. Deep
The best sex is both sacred and profane. (see David Deida for more
on this, AKA my owner’s manual.)
I think a lot about the delicious differences between men &
I crave witty, funny, sexy conversation that goes deep, because I’m
Connection. I want the kind so entwined that I feel you before I
see you and I know you’re with me even when the miles separate
I might be a little bit naughty….shhhh….that will be our
I believe in the transcendent power of flesh as a prayer mat (thank
you Anais Nin) and the poetry of intimacy.
I want to explore my edges with a man who can guide me beyond
I want a man who brings out my best self, who sees my flaws and
loves me anyway.
Appreciation. I need to give it & get it (trust me, I know how
to give it and I will learn the particular ways you like to receive
and teach you mine).
I want a man who lets me be his refuge from the world. His safe
harbor. His balm. Let me be the girl who’s radiant smile vanquishes
the hardness of your long day, who’s arms you can’t wait to come
home to, who’s kisses make you forget the stress of all the battles
you’ve fought. The one who makes it all worth while.
I want an alive and evolving partnership that is creative and
purposeful and real. I want to be surprised. I want magic. I want
an intimacy that’s raw and true.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Consulting, strategizing, designing & facilitating using visual
& creative processes. I've been in the HBR, the NYT's and
worked with Victoria's Secret. ;)
Writing a book on leadership & vulnerability.
Daydreaming about compromising positions.
Scoping out locations in the Caribbean for painting retreats.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Fast Scrabble + visioning + singing Thunder Road a
cappella + sexting with my man (not random strangers so don't ask
me) + driving fast (not at the same time the sexting and driving
fast) + taking photos + taking naps (not as often as I would like)
+ creating a home that feels creatively delightful and peaceful
(I’m a Cancer so its part of the package) + making breakfast: fresh
juice, omelette, blueberry pancakes..you name it + listening +
dancing for you + taking sexy selfies + racing sailboats + paddle
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile, my giggle, my blond hair and my radiance.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too much to list, an eclectic mix--everything from Springsteen to
Nina Simone with Nick Drake, Drive by Truckers, Van Morrison and
Eva Cassidy mixed in. Plus a lot of dance. My desert island disk:
Astral Weeks. Let's compare iProducts.
The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Yes, The Pillow Book, Rory
O'Shea was here, Charlie Wilson's War, Out of Africa, Shakespeare
in Love, Lars and the Real Girl, Becoming Jane, The King’s Speech,
Lincoln, The Social Network
The Signature of All Things, West with the Night, All the Pretty
Horses, everything by James Salter, Lives of the Saints, Cold
Mountain, though I mostly read non-fiction these days, everything
by David Deida
shows: Downton Abbey, anything by Aaron
Sorkin--West Wing, Veep, The Good Wife, Homeland, House of Cards,
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my family, especially at Thanksgiving
the ocean & my bikini
laughter, the kind that makes you snort thru your nose
kissing...I really love kissing and then what comes after...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I keep getting hit on by 20-27 year olds. (I don't really spend
a lot of time thinking about this its just funny that I do.)
Where I'm going to go to surf camp this summer.
When did okcupid take off the "income category" from the details
list? Didn't they know I used that as a measure of my self worth
and as a challenge to achieve a new bracket every year? However
will I motivate myself now?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be any of these things: drinks & dinner with friends,
sailing in the summer, flying back into town, hanging out in my
neighborhood at an outdoor dance party, barefoot in my kitchen
pouring champagne and cooking something up.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are able to be present, truly present, with a woman. (I could
stop here because this is so much it could be everything…)
You have a mission, whatever it is you are making the world a
better place than when you found it.
Your friends would say you have a generous heart. A clever mind. A
quick wit. Integrity. And a sexy smile that will turn my insides to
You are good with words. Instead of saying what you think a woman
wants to hear, you reach into your heart to tell her what you truly
want to say. You also know the aphrodisiacal power of words well
You know how to take charge. Make a plan. Shake a good cocktail.
Make me laugh. And lead us into temptation (because I will follow
You also know how to let me feel like a girl because after being a
successful woman in the world all day, I just want to be a girl.
You can wipe away a tear, turn a frown into a smile with your
kisses and hold me when I fall apart without trying to fix me
because sometimes just the feel of your strength around me is the
comfort I need.
You may be a bit of a rebel. A trailblazer. A man who’s always
challenging himself, the one who others look to for wisdom.
You have an edge, a gentleman who is not always a gentle man.
You are evolving. Self-aware. You’ve had doubts and failed
relationships that left you wondering if you would ever find a
woman who could see all of your wild and still want to stay, and
that’s okay because I’ve wondered that too… if I would find a man
who wants all of me, the full deep spectrum of my feminine heart
with all of its storms and sunrises.
You appreciate a woman’s confidence but you love her more for her
You are willing to see into my depths, my doubts, my fears and
dwell there unafraid of what you may uncover. You are able to
remind me of whom I am at my core and hold me compassionately when
ps- I get A LOT of email. Monosyllabic greetings/compliments and
sentences less than five words typically don't motivate me to
respond. Neither does How was your weekend? C'mon, you're
dealing with a creative intelligent woman here, hopefully my
profile inspires you to write something that's more than the
linguistic equivalent of a grunt, yes? (that's a hint) :)
pps--I'm really 50 but use 46 for search purposes partly because
I'm defying my age and because a lot of men have written off women
over 45. Just don't expect a typical 50-year old.
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