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41 M Beaverton, OR

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Asian, White
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from high school
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Has a kid
Has cats

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My self-summary
I guess in all honesty I really don't know what I'm even doing here. So I'll just run with this whole profile thing... Here goes.

Well, I know ONE thing I'm looking for. I'm looking for friends. Recent changes in my life have led to me having some extremely fulfilling partners, and so that is the very least of my concerns anymore. That said, one can never have enough friends, so if you think we'd get along, by all means feel free to say hello.

I am a married man who is polyamorous. I am looking first and foremost for FRIENDS. If you cannot first be my friend though, then please keep looking. Even if you can, expect it to be at least a little while getting to know you first. If you can't take the time, then I apologize for your hurry, but I simply can't rush into anything. I'm not truly seeking partners anyway, so it won't be any skin off my neck if you walk away because friendship isn't important first and foremost.

What one can expect from me if things progress beyond friendship: I am a Dominant in BDSM and have a wide variety of kinks, including bondage and fireplay, to name but two of them. I am not looking for a committed relationship by any means, but I am also not looking for one-night stands. As I said at the beginning: If you can't be my friend first, don't expect more.
What I’m doing with my life
I work sheet metal as a finisher by day, perform with fire by night every chance I get... From time to time I give demonstrations in the kink community on the subject of fireplay.
I’m really good at
Performing with fire of course, and I've been at it for 14 years now. If you get the chance to catch one of my shows alongside my troupe, Fire and Steel, you won't regret it.

I also work leather, making items that range from corsets and costuming accessories to BDSM restraints and other fetish gear.

In more closed-door situations, I am a sadist. If BDSM and kink are something you are into and you make it past the friendship test, and you have questions, you can ask then. Until then, this information is only here to avoid surprises.
The first things people usually notice about me
The fire, then the leather, then the strut... LOL
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Joel Rosenburg's Guardians of the Flame Series, Terry Pratchett

I'm an action flick junkie. The more wild-ass eye candy stunts and FX the better. I love Martial arts movies and scenes, as well as spectacular gunfights and stunts. I also enjoy a good suspense or horror flick now and again with comedy finishing off the list.

I listen to many genres of music but I'm primarily a metalhead.

Food... I like FOOD. Especially the stuff known as Food. I cook fairly well, and the wife is a chef. I like food.
The six things I could never do without
My Wife and Daughter (count that as one. There is no either/or.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Creative leather projects, BDSM/Kink, Sex, Fire performance, you know... The usual.
On a typical Friday night I am
Generally at home unless I have an excuse to be elsewhere. This can be anything from Karaoke to hanging out at a friend's place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I make amateur porn and have been featured in Bizarre Magazine for fireplay. I also have a profile on Fetlife:

Again, this is here to avoid potentially uncomfortable surprises.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You can be a friend first, and anything else second
You are not possessive/jealous
You won't try to wedge yourself between me and my family
You can be truthful and trusting
You're not a psycho hosebeast