1. We often grow more by bending with the wind than standing in rigid defiance. Zen saying.
2. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Mark Twain.
Please please please say more than "Hi" or "Hey there." I don't need a book but say why you are interested or make me laugh. Also I update my photos regularly and I would like to see the current you so please have current photos :-)
I know a stepping out into the world and meeting new people online is strange and overwhelming at times. Please know I read your profile, and try to be sincere when I reach out. I really would like to find a connection and relationship, but I things should start as friends with communication and letting it build organically. I don't like endless emails or texts, and really would prefer to meet in person for coffee, a drink or maybe dinner. Please don't think if I don't return a flirt or an email it is because I'm uncaring (God knows that I'm far from perfect). I do appreciate your attention and effort, and know this process isn't always easy; at least this is how I look at it when I reach out and don't receive a reply. We all have our preferences.
Me: Busy turning my new house into a home. I'm deeper than an average mud puddle, but admittedly have some shallow edges (for example I don't like poor grammar, recreational drug use, liars, cheaters, and/or thieves, and I have my physical preferences). I have several interests, just look at my partial list, a few are exploring ghost towns and those little towns you can only see from an airplane window as you fly over, THE OREGON COAST, watching people, and the list goes on. I love kids, and have raised some who are turning out to be really awesome people. I am open to continuing that trend as well with the right woman. I'm an animal lover especially med-large dogs, I like cats but am allergic to them and I'm dangerously allergic to horses. I really do enjoy long walks on the beach with my dog (hopefully with a partner soon), and feel most at home when I'm doing it. I love the Oregon coast and will have a place there someday. I lost over 100 lbs recently and have lots more energy, which means I want and need more activity and...I get to go clothes shopping again...anyone know how to shop? I'm not on the go 100% though, as I do enjoy being home and relaxing with a show or a book, or creating a great meal. I make real personal connections with the partner I'm with and it is important for me feel that in return, but am respectful of your personal space. Don't think that because this sounds laid back and sensitive that I can't be tough. I'm former military, raised kids, dogs and chickens, and sometimes I don't shave. I'm urban tough too and can go to Costco any day of the week, at anytime during the day, during any season. I even successfully navigated Ikea during Christmas time by myself.
You: I'm looking for someone who is educated, physically and mentally active, in decent shape (some of my shallow edges showing through), caring, grounded, able to communicate, not afraid of real commitment, spiritual (read not religious), takes care of herself mentally and physically, curious and continues to educate herself and others around her, and wants to explore all that life has to offer (preferably with me). Not afraid of some PDA.
My idea of US: We have had cool experiences that we can share and draw upon for new and exciting ones we can create together. Have that excited feeling just before seeing each other which makes you want to skip up and hug. Knowing we have each others back. When the time comes and we are around the kids it doesn't feel like your kid or my kid...they are THE kids. Comfortable to open up to each other no matter how goofy it sounds. We are able to talk about any subject and have an actual conversation and stimulate curiosity about subjects that interest us. Loving to take off on little adventures whether they are for an hour or two, or a few days. We create special times for us (with and without kids). These are just some of what I desire...what would you add?