In writing I tend to come off as very serious and (I hope) well spoken. In person I am quite silly and not as articulate as I would like. This trait will both annoy and amuse. At times I've been called an optimist, pessimist, realist, idealist, nihilist, and the most frustratingly level headed person in the world. I am all of these things and none of these things depending on the perspective of the observer.
I've heard friends talk about the rules of a first date and I don't subscribe to any of them. I'll talk about politics, religion, career, even an ex if it is relevant to the conversation. Time is life's most precious resource and I have no desire to waste mine or yours by pretending to be someone else. I don't even dress up for a first date, although I'll probably shower.
I don't base my happiness, self worth or sense of fulfillment on whether or not I'm in a relationship or who I'm dating. To me a relationship (romantic or otherwise) is a way to get to know myself better by allowing someone else access to my thoughts and feelings. In turn I help another person get to know themselves better. Though we are being aided by another we both grow as individuals. I encourage my friends, family, lovers, and sometimes people I just met to think about their goals, pursue their dreams, and reach for things that appear to be outside their grasp.
For the record I am in an open relationship. We've been seeing each other for years and this arrangement has not caused any problems. If you're looking for an exclusive thing I'm not it. If you're looking for conversation and an odd mix of silliness and introspection send me a message.