In writing I tend to come off as very serious and (I hope) well spoken. In person I am quite silly and it can take some time to be as articulate as I would like. This trait will both annoy and amuse. At times I've been called an optimist, pessimist, realist, idealist, nihilist, and the most frustratingly level headed person in the world. I am all of these things and none of these things depending on the perspective of the observer.
In a relationship I am an oddity. I was told by one ex that she spent three months waiting to meet the real me before she realized she already did three months ago. I've heard friends talk about the rules of a first date and I don't subscribe to any of them. I'll talk about politics, religion, career, even an ex if it is relevant to the conversation. I don't even dress up for a first date, although I'll probably shower.
I don't base my happiness, self worth or sense of fulfillment on whether or not I'm in a relationship or who I'm dating. To me a relationship (romantic or otherwise) is a way to get to know myself better by allowing someone else access to my thoughts and feelings. In turn I help another person get to know themselves better. Though we are being aided by another we both grow as individuals. I always encourage my friends, family, lovers, and sometimes people I just met to think about their goals, pursue their dreams, and reach for things that appear to be outside their grasp.