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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–35
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:31pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
A little extra
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Self description is an exercise in semantics. I am polyamorous but rarely take on new lovers. I enjoy commitment but do not understand monogamy. I often debate but rarely argue. I enjoy drinking but dislike being drunk. I like political theory but dislike politics. I like to dance (waltz, swing etc.) but don't go out dancing. I have a lot to say but I tend to listen more than talk. I remember people but forget names and faces. I enjoy finding answers more than having answers.

In writing I tend to come off as very serious and (I hope) well spoken. In person I am quite silly and not as articulate as I would like. This trait will both annoy and amuse. At times I've been called an optimist, pessimist, realist, idealist, nihilist, and the most frustratingly level headed person in the world. I am all of these things and none of these things depending on the perspective of the observer.

I've heard friends talk about the rules of a first date and I don't subscribe to any of them. I'll talk about politics, religion, career, even an ex if it is relevant to the conversation. Time is life's most precious resource and I have no desire to waste mine or yours by pretending to be someone else. I don't even dress up for a first date, although I'll probably shower.

I don't base my happiness, self worth or sense of fulfillment on whether or not I'm in a relationship or who I'm dating. To me a relationship (romantic or otherwise) is a way to get to know myself better by allowing someone else access to my thoughts and feelings. In turn I help another person get to know themselves better. Though we are being aided by another we both grow as individuals. I encourage my friends, family, lovers, and sometimes people I just met to think about their goals, pursue their dreams, and reach for things that appear to be outside their grasp.

For the record I am in an open relationship. We've been seeing each other for years and this arrangement has not caused any problems. If you're looking for an exclusive thing I'm not it. If you're looking for conversation and an odd mix of silliness and introspection send me a message.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm getting used to yet another fun life transition. I just spent two years on the road working concerts. Home was more like a furnished storage unit than anything. Since moving to Austin I have been home a lot more and I rather like it. I'm starting/continuing/dreaming about a number of new personal projects.

So far I'm: Collaborating on a comic, playing music, starting a business, and when I have the odd spare moment I might just open up my old calculus books to ensure that I haven't forgotten it all. Rattling around in my head are two graphic novels, a novel, numerous parodies of song and cinema and designs for various mechanical wonders.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Over analyzing, asking questions, cooking without a recipe, brewing beer, massages, finding humor in any situation, abstract problem solving, learning a lot fast and forgetting it even faster.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Red hair and sarcasm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
These lists could go on forever so I'll try to keep it short...
Writing: Samuel Beckett, Tom Stoppard, Vladimir Nabokov, Douglas Adams, George Orwell, Bill Bryson
Recently read: A Game of Thrones, A Clash of Kings, various Mark Twain novels, Stranger in a Strange Land
Currently reading: A Storm of Swords and Benjamin Franklin's Autobiography

Music: Ween, King Crimson, Meat Puppets, Led Zeppelin, Bowie, The Beatles, The Presidents of the Unites States of America, Nirvana, Black Keys, White Stripes

Movies: Baseketball, Dogma, Spun, Fear and Loathing, Kinsey, The Hudsucker Proxy, Citizen Kane, Happiness, Life During War Time, Cool Hand Luke

TV: Dr. Who, The Wire, South Park, Battlestar Galactica, Mad Men, Star Trek, Game of Thrones

Food: Indian, Ethiopian and free are my favorite flavors.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Conversation, good beer, a problem to solve, a problem that seems impossible to solve, music, and occasional silence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Mostly abstract things like...

Saving the world. The four universal languages are math, music, laughter, and sex. When I've finished my world saving mathematical formula for a precisely timed and coordinated singing laughing orgy I'll be sure to post it here.

And time travel. I've thought it through rather thoroughly and determined that the only socially responsible thing to do with a time machine is to go back and record all the missing episodes of Dr. Who.

Isms. There are so many isms. So many different ways to apply your choice ism. And yet when put in to practice every ism seems to have the same disasterious outcome.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working of course. What sort of question is that for someone in the concert industry? In my free time I like to engage people in conversation or work on one of those lovely projects listed above.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If the world ever gets pulled in to a black hole I probably helped.
You should message me if
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You feel like it
You like conversation
You like to think
You can teach me something I don't already know
I can teach you something you don't already know