Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Rebellious in body, mind and spirit. Re-entered the northern
hemisphere only three years ago after 2.5 decades in Southern
Africa and finding the pace slow... sedentary.... decidedly
swaggerless. Sexy, street smart and singularly socialist. Mother to
young adults who are not looking for a father figure. Can be
passionate about sex and other sport (with the exception of hockey,
baseball, WWF and Formula One.... oh and Golf). Done time with
heavy breathers, drugsters, drinkers, drawlers, players and liers.
I know where to catch them en masse, so no need to reply if you are
just another fish in that swamp!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work a day job for money, not because I am committed to it.
Meanwhile, I am a writer trying to dig myself out from the rubble
following the collapse of my wall of confidence and self
discipline. I contine to edit the work of others and do the odd
piece of visual art to settle differences with myself. I am not
overly ambitious, an investor in my long-term future or remotely
interested in the stock market, but I scheme while I swim and sauna
and dream while I cycle.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
getting distracted by good music, good food, good film, hard rain,
heavy snow, spontaneous sex and expansive headspaces.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't belong to favourites clubs. I will eat, read, watch and
listen to just about anything. But if you insist: currently a fan
of my son's grilled prawns; reading Big Box Swindle and feeling oh
so vindicated for hating Walmart and all it stands for, and
re-reading Genet's The Thief's Journal and wondering why I left it
so long; enjoying being a newly minted fan of seasons 1 and 2 of
House of Lies and The Fall; diehard fan of the Coen Brothers; and
listening to Max Roach's Freedom Suite, anything from Miles Davis,
and lots from Buckshot le Fonque; Thievery Corporation; Robert
Glasper Experiment; Jill Scott; Tom Waits; Ricky Lee Jones; Prince;
Curtis Mayfield (and/or my friend Sharron singing "I'm Here But I'm
Gone" by Curtis Mayfield); Dancehall; Dubstep; Steely Dan; Hugh
Masekela; Joni Mitchell; Donny Hathaway; Paul Hanmer; Letta Mbuli;
Fela Kuti; Dead Prez; Gil Scott-Heron and Brian Jackson; Bonnie
Rait; Lee Perry; Oliver Mtukudzi; Salif Keita; Stevie Ray Vaughn;
Buddy Guy; The Pretenders; Wu Tang Clan; Stevie Wonder; Erykah
Badu; Aretha Franklin; Parliament Funkadelic; Radiohead; The Band;
Chico Buarque; Aja; Jimmy Hendrix; Terence Trent D'Arby; Thandizwa
Mzwai; Sade; Joan Osborne; St Germaine; Djavan; Will Downing;
Marvin Gaye; Marcus Wyatt and Language 12; Bob Dylan; Nina Simone;
Pink Floyd; Hendrix; Led Zepplin; Elis Regina; Milton Nascimento;
The Pogues; Hot House Flowers; Rolling Stones Sticky Fingers.
Not an exhaustive list, but as lists go its long enough.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I've lived with and without plenty, so have learned to avoid
thinking in absolutes
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not worrying about it being Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that the word "admit" implies some kind of hidden agenda. If I
have one I am not ready to share it with you. If I don't then it's
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you want to start a conversation that is not all about you.
you love music and art and the poetry of Pablo Neruda
you are kinky in more ways than one
you are NOT 18-30. I don't respond to anyone who is younger than my
you can write other than in cliches about how you are going to
"rock" my world.
you have a sense of humour.... absolutely necessary if you are
trawling in these spaces.
you are spontaneous and ready to risk
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