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refahrner

63 Cambridge, MA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:43pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am joyful and engaged. I am curious, I enjoy learning, and humor is one of my gods. I am a musician - conductor and composer - from which I also derive great joy. Conducting is an act of discovery, of eliciting the best from people, of teaching and learning, of immediacy. And all of the cell phones are turned off. Everything I do, whether it's working, cooking or listening, I do with passion. But I do know how to relax. I like to relax with friends, another source of joy and learning.

I laugh out loud at the myriad fundamentally ridiculous things that are part of everyday work and life. There are naked emperors everywhere! I also like puns and jokes. As Kermit says, "Time's fun when you're having flies!" Play is another one of my gods. Perhaps that's why I enjoy my children so much.

I'm highly analytical and highly emotional. I do not believe these contradict, or are even that separate. I like the idea of "integrated." To me, composing is my most successful integration, and expression. I am fascinated by communication in all its flavors.
I am an involved, humble dad of two spectacular 15-year-old girls. Again, I sense a teaching and learning theme. I was 48 when they were born. They crackle with joy. I marvel at their ideas and skills, and I actually like being corrected by them.

And you? You are different, your own person. "They broke the mold..." Smart, strong and attentive, interesting and interested. You know how to laugh, with a twinkle or a belly laugh, and you embrace life's contradictions. You know how to use a whisper and a hammer. You are curious and kind, and you like Alice in Wonderland.

I look forward to the sharing, the calm companionship, the rich sensuality, the growth, the h-openess, the intellectual stimulation, the challenge and the discovery. Perhaps we can help each other find new dimensions, even new worlds.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Composing, writing a book, staying in shape, enjoying my twin girls and my friends, making music, looking for love!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, cooking, parallel parking, telling a story
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My passionate enthusiasm and humor
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Borges, Beckett
Music: Hendrix, Bartok, Stravinsky, Bill Evans...
Food: Seafood, IPA
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Kindness
Love
Intimacy
Fun
Laughter
Wonder
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The dance of motion,
Non-verbal communication,
Expressivity,
Details in music,
Whether I need to do laundry.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a potluck dinner with a group of really close friends in the neighborhood.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My dad was seriously OCD.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can tolerate bad puns; you don't mind wandering, wondering conversations; and you can express yourself in many verbal and non-verbal ways!