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TheMemoirist

32 Santa Ana, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–31
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:42pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Leo
Education
Graduated from university
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"I want everything we do to be beautiful. I don’t give a damn whether they understand that that’s worth anything, or that they think it’s worth anything, or whether it is worth anything. It’s worth it to me. It’s the way I want to live my life. I want to make beautiful things, even if nobody cares."

For the purposes of meaningfully meeting someone, what I do with my time is not as important as how I think about the world. If both people are open, then our interests will become shared. Everything goes, or should go, out the window when you meet the right person. You dance? Let's dance. You love yoga? Let's make a yoga date. That's the easy stuff.

So what do I think about the world? I strive to simplify my life. Being busy is an option, and I choose to be available to friends, family, and the chances of meeting someone instead. I do have to keep myself occupied though, and I focus on activities that I admire because I've found true happiness comes from doing what you admire and not what gives you instant pleasure. Sure, it's enjoyable in the moment to binge-watch Netflix, but you don't really feel great about it afterward. I've never felt that way after writing a short story or practicing the guitar. In fact, it's quite the opposite feeling to finish a short story exactly how you intended or to have a breakthrough moment on a song you're learning. With great sacrifice, comes great reward, especially when trying to master a skill. Why be mediocre at a bunch of things when you could be great at a few? Trust me, we cannot have it all, and we cannot give everything, or everybody, our attention (and God knows there's plenty of options and distractions in this life). If we spread ourselves thin, some things will suffer, so we have to prioritize. Do I want to be the employee of the year at my company or the best husband/father possible? I'll take the latter every time I'm asked. And what I choose to focus on in life is based on that prioritization. I'm working now on being better and better so that today I can be the best friend, son, brother, citizen, or stranger and so that someday I can be the best husband and father, which I know will be the hardest test of my life (whereas deciding to go to yoga or maintaining a comfortable corporate job cannot compare).

I could write a few more hundred words, but I'll save them for another time or different venue (maybe sitting across a table over two cups of coffee). For now, this gives you a taste of who I am and what I'm about and maybe you'd like to know more. If not, the writer in me hopes that reading this may have affected you and your life somehow, even if it only made you pause and ponder. If I've done that, then I have succeeded.

-Brandon
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I try to keep it simple as life is made up of the everyday moments, and I hope you can keep up with that:
Family/friends
Music/concerts/shows
Guitar/singing/music theory
Reading (fiction, nonfiction, news, et cetera)
Sitting at coffee shops (I'm at one presently)
Working as a professional writer (by day)
Writing shoddy short stories and songs (by night)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Alliteration.
Dry, sneaky humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Cathedral - Raymond Carver
You Are Now Less Dumb - McRaney
The Paradox of Choice - Barry Schwartz
Man's Search for Meaning - Victor Frankl

Plus Hemingway, Vonnegut, Orwell, DeLillo, and too many short stories to list
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Is it good to do what everyone else does just because they do it? In thirty years, what will I wish I had done with the time I have today? Would everything had been different if I had got that "Wilson" face tattoo on my shin or that full tribal sleeve? Does magic exist somewhere in this world, between all the monotony, all the buzzing, all the chaos?
You should message me if
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