relsqui
30 Portland, OR
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My self-summary
I am geeky, thoughtful, and down-to-earth.

I like computers, feelings, and other people who enjoy both of those. My life right now is a small thicket of spinning plates; I'm exploring the boundaries of how many I can keep going at once, and simultaneously getting practice at the skill of catching one gently and putting it aside for later. I'm good at taking the lead when I need to, and delighted when I don't need to. I love people all the time, even when I don't feel like interacting with them. I'm very playful when I'm happy.

These days I'm feeling rich in good friends and lovers. What I'd like to add is a partner--but of course, everybody starts a stranger, and who knows where you wind up? A nonmonogamous thing would fit more easily into my life right now, but I'm open to something worth rearranging for.

Oh yeah, and since I can't tell who sees this up top: I'm agender (afab, pronoun singular they). If you're confused about this bit it's okay to ask me friendly questions about it. I tend mostly towards androphilia but there have been some beloved exceptions.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a PSU undergrad--Applied Linguistics major, Computer Science minor. Yes, this is my first degree; academia and I never entirely warmed up to each other. That said, I spent a lot of time expecting I wouldn't ever go to college, and having gotten here I'm stubborn about seeing it through.

I work at this awesome place, and will cheerfully talk your ear off about it if you invite me to. In a year I'll probably be looking for software development work and trying to talk myself either into or out of going to grad school.

In the spare time I don't have, I play Magic and judge tournaments. I probably don't have any opinions about your sweet decklist, unless it's some goofy bullshit like Krark's Thumb or squirrels, in which case I love it. You can totally send me rules and policy questions, though, I want the practice.
I’m really good at
Learning languages. Playing Tetris. Hugs. Writing Python. Being blunt and kind at the same time. (Or occasionally blunt and flirty at the same time.)

I'm bad at remembering things if I don't write them down, but good at writing them down, as long as I do it immediately.

I'm getting better at recognizing and articulating how I feel, as well as being patient when other people don't.
The first things people usually notice about me
I smile a lot, talk too fast, and have a bunch of facial and ear piercings.

Well, that and the neon green hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I was raised on Roald Dahl and mediocre fantasy novels, grew up on MUDs and fanfiction, and have recently been on a kick of reading classics. Comedies of manners (Austen, Brontë) are my junk food.

I don't really make time to watch things on my own, but I'll totally watch your thing with you if it doesn't hate on anybody and we can cuddle while we watch it. I prefer stories that charm me to ones that scare me. I also like getting warm fuzzies and being made to think.

Come to think of it, that's basically my taste in people, too.

Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: exactly. Strong basslines (or bass voices) make me melt. When I'm home alone I blast jazz standards and harmonize with Ella.

I spend most of my time on campus and eat a lot of cart food. Burritos, bento, bagels, burgers, and also some things that don't start with b. I'm not a vegetarian but don't mind eating like one.
The six things I could never do without
1. Words.
2. The sort of friend I can talk to without words.
3. The right amount of free time: not too little, not too much.
4. Something to doodle and take notes on.
5. Affectionate touch.
6. Comfortable clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People and relationships. Morphology, syntax, semantics. Thinking itself. Whoever is physically nearby, and people I care about who are elsewhere. The algorithms by which passengers choose seats on partly-full buses.

... look, I spend a lot of time on buses.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working! The rest of a good weekend, though, might look like getting my homework done, chilling with a friend or two at someone's house, cooking or drinking or gaming or all of those, getting laid, and getting plenty of sleep. (That last one's a doozy, but I can dream, can't I?)

The more typical weekend includes 1-2 of those things and a lot of vegging out on the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I, too, have an honest, fragile, and craving heart covered in decades-old coats of paint and armor. Over the course of the last several years I have been peeling back the layers and testing how it feels, figuring out which structures are holding me up, and which ones are holding me back. On the whole this has made me a better person.

I am worth this degree of attention and care. So are you.
You should message me if
Your heart skipped a beat at some point while reading this page.
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