Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friendly geeky agender person (pronouns they/them) who likes people
and feelings but also computers and programming. The common link is
communication, which I do a lot of and have put a lot of energy
into learning to do well.
Lately I've been getting comfortable with leadership roles: more
responsibility at work, leading a student organization, that kind
of thing. I can take the lead in social situations too, but I like
it when I don't always have to.
In general, I'm in the unfamiliar position right now of feeling
like an adult who more or less has their shit together and knows
what they're doing. It's neat! I should have tried this years
I'm looking for someone to be excited, straightforward, and
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a PSU undergrad--Applied Linguistics major, Computer Science
minor. Yes, this is my first degree; ask me about my checkered
I also work at this awesome place
and run this sweet club
on campus. I'll happily talk your ear off about either one if you
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Explaining technical things to people who don't have the
relevant background. Tetris. Learning languages. Writing stuff down
so I remember to actually do something about it. Hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I smile a lot, talk too fast, and have ... (hang on, counting)
twelve piercings in my face and ears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't really make time to watch things. There are a few shows I
wouldn't mind being caught up on, but at any given moment I'd
rather do something else. (I find TV too distracting to watch while
doing other things.)
I read for pleasure occasionally but not as much as I did when I
was a kid. Latest: a couple of Sartre plays. I'm not the snobby
intellectual that makes me sound like, I just wanted to know the
origin of the "hell is other people" line and then I read the next
play in the same book.
Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that
describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: yes. I
don't sing in the shower, but I do sing while waiting for buses or
packing up to leave a class. Also at choir
I spend most of my time on campus and eat a lot of cart food.
Burritos, pad thai, bento. Also bagels. I like crunchy snacks a lot
and almost always crave something sweet after a savory meal. I'm
not a vegetarian but am accustomed to eating with or like one.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Bio needs: sleep, water, food. Not just because of not dying; I
feel emotionally shitty when I don't prioritize these enough.
2. Close friends and regular contact with them.
3. A way to get around. Not having a vehicle or transit pass
4. Writing/drawing materials.
5. Something productive to do.
6. Affection. (This intersects with the second thing but isn't the
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and relationships. Words. Interesting Magic card rules
interactions. Why I'm awake at whatever absurd hour it is.
Relatedly, whatever browser game I'm playing these days. Optimizing
seat choice on partly-full buses. (Look, I spend a lot of time on
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, briefly, and then hanging around at work bullshitting with
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Reading Portland OKCupid profiles makes me feel like I'm not
(artsy|radical|outdoorsy|beer-loving|entrepreneurial) enough for
this town. Luckily I'm comfortable with the amount of each of those
that I actually am: somewhat; somewhat; a little; not at all, but I
enjoy whiskey, cider, and mixed drinks; and TBD, respectively.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're enough of a grown-up for honesty and communication and
enough of a kid for delight.
Ahhh oh god first messages are hard though, right? Here, I got you.
If you're stuck for icebreakers, pick a question and send me the
1. What topic could you just talk forever about? Why that
2. What about your upbringing are you happy about? What aren't
3. Tell me about a good decision you've made so far this
4. Describe your ideal living situation (where, with whom,
5. Tell me about someone important in your life.
6. When you want to spend time with friends, what do you do?
Separately from all that, please let me know that you saw the part
where I'm agender. It doesn't have to be a whole conversation, it's
just awkward when people don't notice.
Who are you looking for?
This helps us know who to show you on OkCupid.