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29 Portland, OR Agender


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 30
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Hebrew (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Friendly geeky agender person (pronouns they/them) who likes people and feelings but also computers and programming. The common link is communication, which I do a lot of and have put a lot of energy into learning to do well.

Lately I've been getting comfortable with leadership roles: more responsibility at work, leading a student organization, that kind of thing. I can take the lead in social situations too, but I like it when I don't always have to.

In general, I'm in the unfamiliar position right now of feeling like an adult who more or less has their shit together and knows what they're doing. It's neat! I should have tried this years ago.

I'm looking for someone to be excited, straightforward, and affectionate with.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a PSU undergrad--Applied Linguistics major, Computer Science minor. Yes, this is my first degree; ask me about my checkered academic past.

I also work at this awesome place and run this sweet club, both on campus. I'll happily talk your ear off about either one if you encourage me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Explaining technical things to people who don't have the relevant background. Tetris. Learning languages. Writing stuff down so I remember to actually do something about it. Hugs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile a lot, talk too fast, and have ... (hang on, counting) twelve piercings in my face and ears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't really make time to watch things. There are a few shows I wouldn't mind being caught up on, but at any given moment I'd rather do something else. (I find TV too distracting to watch while doing other things.)

I read for pleasure occasionally but not as much as I did when I was a kid. Latest: a couple of Sartre plays. I'm not the snobby intellectual that makes me sound like, I just wanted to know the origin of the "hell is other people" line and then I read the next play in the same book.

Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: yes. I don't sing in the shower, but I do sing while waiting for buses or packing up to leave a class. Also at choir rehearsals/performances.

I spend most of my time on campus and eat a lot of cart food. Burritos, pad thai, bento. Also bagels. I like crunchy snacks a lot and almost always crave something sweet after a savory meal. I'm not a vegetarian but am accustomed to eating with or like one.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Bio needs: sleep, water, food. Not just because of not dying; I feel emotionally shitty when I don't prioritize these enough.
2. Close friends and regular contact with them.
3. A way to get around. Not having a vehicle or transit pass blows.
4. Writing/drawing materials.
5. Something productive to do.
6. Affection. (This intersects with the second thing but isn't the same.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and relationships. Words. Interesting Magic card rules interactions. Why I'm awake at whatever absurd hour it is. Relatedly, whatever browser game I'm playing these days. Optimizing seat choice on partly-full buses. (Look, I spend a lot of time on buses.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, briefly, and then hanging around at work bullshitting with my friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Reading Portland OKCupid profiles makes me feel like I'm not (artsy|radical|outdoorsy|beer-loving|entrepreneurial) enough for this town. Luckily I'm comfortable with the amount of each of those that I actually am: somewhat; somewhat; a little; not at all, but I enjoy whiskey, cider, and mixed drinks; and TBD, respectively.
You should message me if
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You're enough of a grown-up for honesty and communication and enough of a kid for delight.

Ahhh oh god first messages are hard though, right? Here, I got you. If you're stuck for icebreakers, pick a question and send me the answer.

1. What topic could you just talk forever about? Why that one?
2. What about your upbringing are you happy about? What aren't you?
3. Tell me about a good decision you've made so far this year.
4. Describe your ideal living situation (where, with whom, etc.).
5. Tell me about someone important in your life.
6. When you want to spend time with friends, what do you do?

Separately from all that, please let me know that you saw the part where I'm agender. It doesn't have to be a whole conversation, it's just awkward when people don't notice.