Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friendly geeky honest afab agender person (pronouns they/them) who
likes people and feelings but also computers and programming. The
common link is communication, which I do a lot of and have put a
lot of energy into learning to do well. I'm good at taking the lead
when I need to, and delighted when I don't need to.
In general, I'm in the unfamiliar position right now of feeling
like an adult who more or less has their shit together and knows
what they're doing. It's neat! I should have tried this years
I'm looking for someone to be excited, straightforward, and
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a PSU undergrad--Applied Linguistics major, Computer Science
minor. Yes, this is my first degree. I'm pretty damn smart but
formal education and I have a rocky relationship.
I also work at this awesome place
and run this sweet club
on campus. I'll happily talk your ear off about either one if you
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing stuff down so I remember to actually do something about it.
Tetris. Learning languages. Hugs. Finding the right words. Writing
code, by amateur standards. Abrupt first messages.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile a lot, talk too fast, and have ... (hang on, counting)
twelve piercings in my face and ears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't really make time to watch things. There are a few shows I
wouldn't mind being caught up on, but at any given moment I'd
rather do something else. (I'm too distractible to watch stuff
while doing other things.) When I do watch TV and movies, I go for
junk food--sweet, familiar, maybe funny as long as it doesn't rely
on me being an idiot or looking down on people.
I read for pleasure occasionally but not as much as I did when I
was a kid. Books that have influenced how I think: My Ishmael,
Totto-Chan, the Usual Error, and Nonviolent Communication. If I'd
read it when I was younger I'd add Gender Outlaw to that list. I
liked Still Life With Woodpecker better than Fierce Invalids Home
From Hot Climates.
Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that
describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: yes,
exactly. I don't sing in the shower, but I do sing while waiting
for buses or packing up to leave a class. Also at choir
I spend most of my time on campus and eat a lot of cart food.
Burritos, pad thai, bento, bagels. I'm not a vegetarian but am
accustomed to sharing meals with them.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Bio needs: sleep, water, food. Not just because of not dying; I
feel emotionally shitty when I don't prioritize these enough.
2. People who know me well.
3. A way to get around. Not having a vehicle or transit pass
4. Writing/drawing materials.
5. Something productive to do.
6. Expressive affection, both giving and receiving.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and relationships. Words. Interesting Magic card rules
interactions. Why I'm awake at whatever absurd hour it is.
Relatedly, whatever browser game I'm playing these days. The
algorithms by which people choose seats on partly-full buses.
(Look, I spend a lot of time on buses.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, briefly, and then hanging around at work bullshitting with
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
OKCupid has been way more useful to me as a tool for paying
attention to who I am and how I've changed (by virtue of keeping a
profile up to date) than one for meeting people, romantic partners
or otherwise. I'm always pleasantly surprised when it successfully
accomplishes the latter.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're enough of a grown-up for honesty and communication and
enough of a kid for delight.
Please let me know that you saw the part where I'm agender. It
doesn't have to be a whole conversation, it's just awkward when
people don't notice. (If you're into vulvas and don't feel strongly
about traditional femininity, I'm probably close enough to a woman
for your interest. The other way around, maybe or maybe not? I
don't think I have any data points in that direction.)
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