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29 Portland, OR Agender


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 17
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Less than $20,000
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Hebrew (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friendly geeky honest afab agender person (pronouns they/them) who likes people and feelings but also computers and programming. The common link is communication, which I do a lot of and have put a lot of energy into learning to do well. I'm good at taking the lead when I need to, and delighted when I don't need to.

In general, I'm in the unfamiliar position right now of feeling like an adult who more or less has their shit together and knows what they're doing. It's neat! I should have tried this years ago.

I'm looking for someone to be excited, straightforward, and affectionate with.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a PSU undergrad--Applied Linguistics major, Computer Science minor. Yes, this is my first degree. I'm pretty damn smart but formal education and I have a rocky relationship.

I also work at this awesome place and run this sweet club, both on campus. I'll happily talk your ear off about either one if you encourage me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing stuff down so I remember to actually do something about it. Tetris. Learning languages. Hugs. Finding the right words. Writing code, by amateur standards. Abrupt first messages.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile a lot, talk too fast, and have ... (hang on, counting) twelve piercings in my face and ears.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't really make time to watch things. There are a few shows I wouldn't mind being caught up on, but at any given moment I'd rather do something else. (I'm too distractible to watch stuff while doing other things.) When I do watch TV and movies, I go for junk food--sweet, familiar, maybe funny as long as it doesn't rely on me being an idiot or looking down on people.

I read for pleasure occasionally but not as much as I did when I was a kid. Books that have influenced how I think: My Ishmael, Totto-Chan, the Usual Error, and Nonviolent Communication. If I'd read it when I was younger I'd add Gender Outlaw to that list. I liked Still Life With Woodpecker better than Fierce Invalids Home From Hot Climates.

Most of the music I like is lyrical and upbeat. If you noticed that describes pop, rap, rock, and bluegrass equally accurately: yes, exactly. I don't sing in the shower, but I do sing while waiting for buses or packing up to leave a class. Also at choir rehearsals/performances.

I spend most of my time on campus and eat a lot of cart food. Burritos, pad thai, bento, bagels. I'm not a vegetarian but am accustomed to sharing meals with them.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Bio needs: sleep, water, food. Not just because of not dying; I feel emotionally shitty when I don't prioritize these enough.
2. People who know me well.
3. A way to get around. Not having a vehicle or transit pass blows.
4. Writing/drawing materials.
5. Something productive to do.
6. Expressive affection, both giving and receiving.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and relationships. Words. Interesting Magic card rules interactions. Why I'm awake at whatever absurd hour it is. Relatedly, whatever browser game I'm playing these days. The algorithms by which people choose seats on partly-full buses.

(Look, I spend a lot of time on buses.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, briefly, and then hanging around at work bullshitting with my friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
OKCupid has been way more useful to me as a tool for paying attention to who I am and how I've changed (by virtue of keeping a profile up to date) than one for meeting people, romantic partners or otherwise. I'm always pleasantly surprised when it successfully accomplishes the latter.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're enough of a grown-up for honesty and communication and enough of a kid for delight.

Please let me know that you saw the part where I'm agender. It doesn't have to be a whole conversation, it's just awkward when people don't notice. (If you're into vulvas and don't feel strongly about traditional femininity, I'm probably close enough to a woman for your interest. The other way around, maybe or maybe not? I don't think I have any data points in that direction.)