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43 M New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:29pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Not at all
Other, and laughing about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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ah, summer. who lives near the rockaways and wants to have a beach date con migo? it involves having to see me in a bathing suit, but.

"When people on OKCupid say they want a 'partner in crime' I think that just means someone to enable their low-level alcoholism." —a friend

favorite thing seen on okc lately: "i am easy to get alone with."

I recognize that I am male, but i like to think of myself as pretty high-functioning. once, like cat power, i wanted to be the greatest. now, i just have occasional delusions of adequacy. i can follow a recipe. i know that, as the old hymn says, god's not finished with me yet, but i have occasionally been told, "don't go changing." i'm not afraid to get my hands dirty. i might have been born yesterday, but I stayed up all night. i will make a great dad one day. or at least a great dog dad. i am an effing maniac for kids and dogs. (though, don't get me wrong, i'm not necessarily trying to spawn any children, like, tomorrow. much less father a dog.)
What I’m doing with my life
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working very hard on getting free.

that said, for work, i write and edit at an art magazine, which, for a guy who as a kid wanted to be a writer (or heavy metal drummer) and went on to study art history, is unbelievably great, and for which i'm very thankful. for fun, i see art, i ride my single-speed bike, sometimes to the movies, or to rock shows. i meet dogs in the street, i laff it up with my friends, and i read a lot. i meditate (bhavatu sabba mangalam!), sometimes more than others. without, i hope, excessively judging people or being pedantic, i champion proper english grammar and usage (except capitalization, obvsly), but i find abbrevs hilair (except the word veggies, which I find highly objectionable). i'm working on my capacity to be a friend among friends and a worker among workers, and to truly connect with people. in short: GTL.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people laugh. and you know what they say about laughing. it's like jogging, but on the inside.

tweeting. take a look at Proofreading Hulk (@proofinghulk) and Saddam Hussein (@fakesaddam). will date for follows.

being punctual. and i really appreciate the same. i mean, i'm forgiving. we all get held up now and then, but. you know.
The first things people usually notice about me
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the ski mask. the handgun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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jeffrey eugenides, vladimir nabokov, jonathan franzen, chris ware, marilynne robinson, david foster wallace, jonathan lethem, the tao te ching, the road, the new yorker magazine.

the hurt locker, the white ribbon, the lives of others, the big lebowski, the royal tenenbaums, the matrix, the diving bell and the butterfly, the usual suspects, the future is unwritten, l'avventura, la jetée.

as for teevee, i don't watch much outside of the daily show and the colbert report. and, lately, the leftovers. good show.

das racist, spoon, the band, cat power, battles, liz phair, foxy shazam, gang of four, interpol, pj harvey, miles davis, iron and wine, bon iver, guided by voices, jim o'rourke, radiohead, steely dan, the smiths, rocket from the crypt, vampire weekend, sloan, don caballero, chinese classical music, regular old classical music.

i can rarely say no to sushi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
modern medicine and technology.
a good dictionary.
my eyeglasses.


also, "sapiosexual." just don't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why i've never once gotten a note saying "you and [user name] gave each other one or two stars!" that would be funny.

who is going to play me in the movie.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at the opera with your mama and your papa just for fun like "where you at, man?" "i'm with your family, dog."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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first off, I hate to admit it but it drives me crazy when people can't come up with a good answer to this question. yes, your answer is public. (although, news flash, no one here knows who you are!) yes, it's going out on the internet. so think of the most private thing you're wiling to admit *in this forum.* and make it interesting, k? or just leave it blank! under no circumstances say "that's private." leave. it. blank.

see the following for one possible answer.

as for me, i enjoy certain music and movies that i am not sure i would want the world to know i like. maybe what i shouldn't want to admit is that rather than just being comfortable liking what i like, i have guilty pleasures. and that i care whether others think i'm cool.

and, i really wish i'd made my username nothing_personalz.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you can stop me before it comes to this.

you have a delightfully devious sense of fun. you are warm and giving. you rock the house that rocks the party that rocks the house.

this means you.