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rfederer

31 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Aug 25
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Wants kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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In 8th grade, I sported a T-Boz-like haircut. I would walk the halls of my middle school in an all-white Nike jumpsuit and oversized headphones while bumping Lil Kim's Hardcore. My hands smelled like cheap maple syrup from dishwashing at a diner on the weekends, but I had my own money to spend.

I realized the other day that nothing has really changed, except I would look really shitty with a T-Boz haircut now that my hair is moving off my head and down my back. I'm still that same hardworking kid who's a bit off with my style, curious about what lies ahead and doing my best to calm my nerves and go for it. However, now that I dress people for a living, I'm glad I'm no longer interested in jumpsuits...

In all seriousness, I'm in a place where I'm looking for more than a one-night stand. I've got both feet on the ground and I know what I like. I want a challenge, not a chase, someone who has a strong personality to match mine. I like a laid back guy who is intelligent, but firstly values kindness and heart. Lets converse, not pontificate. And you aren't well-manicured, you smell right on your own.
What I’m doing with my life
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Dressing you up with my love. Writing. Exploring on my bike. Updating my passport and planning trips.
I’m really good at
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Cooking while watching ESPN.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I already bought you a beer? I prefer IPA's, but my gut doesn't.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I've been reading a lot of humorists lately, from local writers unpublished to Sedaris and Burroughs and Nora Ephron, who's essays are more entertaining than her popcorn movies. I have a journalism degree, which means I'm that annoying guy trying to read the New York Times in a busy public space.

The best foods involve a lot of onions and garlic, peppers and cilantro.

Music, lately: Gesaffelstein, M.I.A., Le1f, Kelly Polar, Santana, Frank Ocean, Alex Clare.

That's just the tip of the iceberg. I'm a sucker for good beats and a great voice.

Movies? I'm into a lot of genres and styles, but I hate gore. And aside from Sigourney Weaver, screaming people irritate me. I don't generally like classics or period pieces, but I may have cried watching the new Jane Eyre film. It's all about Fassbender.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Friends
Spicy food
Push-ups
Music
The beach
My mother
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Butts. Then I might start thinking about ass.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Being typical or atypical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I’m an only child who was primarily raised by my father, a Vietnam War veteran, former Marine Corps field officer, and later a beat cop in south San Diego. This set an extreme tone.

My youth was a mixture of highlights: a junior NRA membership, shooting practice on the weekends, Republican conventions, Aikido lessons, fishing before school at 5 AM, and escaping the hum of Dr. Laura and Rush Limbaugh by immersing myself in horticulture and building my own basketball hoop outside.

As a grown man, I’ve learned to acknowledge and accept, forgive, and be kinder to myself and others – and to look for those attributes in other men. Sometimes tough exteriors are just exteriors.
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 29–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You, like me, have a natural instinct to root for the underdog.