I'm a study in contrasts: equally the homebody and the adventurer;
the goof off and the den mother; the wallflower and the attention
I'm unpretentious and unfussy, but I appreciate the finer things in
life. I'm honest to a fault, but I've gotten a lot better at
keeping my big mouth shut. I'm an unapologetic nerd and love to
learn and solve problems. As a rule I value simplicity and the long
term over flashiness and instant gratification.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in global operations at a large consulting firm. (What the
hell does that even mean? Don't worry, I always get that...you can
get the details in person.) Essentially, I'm a professional problem
solver, and as boring-sounding corporate jobs go, it's great
fun...except for when it's not. But usually, it is.
My home base is very important but I also love travel. I try to
plan one or two big trips every year to somewhere I've never been.
I like all kinds of vacations: active, quiet, city, beach,
mountains, you name it. And while I'm a city guy at heart, I also
crave nature and every few weeks need to just go walk in a forest
or on a beach and cough the soot out of my lungs.
I’m really good at
Finding humor in everyday life. Cooking comfort food. Questioning
conventional wisdom. Accidentally rolling my eyes in inappropriate
situations. Keeping my cool when babies stare at me, even though it
creeps me out. Parallel parking. Entertaining. Always having a
vacation planned. Getting my shoes on and off without untying my
laces. Making strong coffee. Listening. Important decisions.
Swiping my Metrocard without breaking stride. Making long
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably how much I remind you of someone you know. I've had an
unbelievable number of people tell me this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Musically, I like a ton of things, but will always gravitate toward true talents. (I can't stand it when "artists" need to use autotune to not sound like crap...what is that about?) I use music to set a mood and have a pretty varied taste. I like some of the newer, up-tempo stuff when I want to dance in the shower or need headphone theme music for weaving through tourists in Midtown. Allman Brothers is perfect for when I'm cleaning or on a crisp Sunday morning. Simon and Garfunkel or Coldplay are my "the weather is crappy and I just want to lie on my couch" soundtrack. I'm on a huge Marvin Gaye kick lately, and I have an unexplainable weakness for anything that sounded good at the roller rink. (This is unfortunately not an opening to a cute date idea. I will fall down, a lot...not cute.)
I like to learn and explore, so anything on TV or in a book that feeds my natural curiosity quickly makes my short list. My inner nerd loves documentaries and any chance to learn something new about something that's already familiar. Since quitting cable I've gotten into binge-watching and loved OITNB, House of Cards, Kimmy Schmidt, Grace & Frankie...I could go on. If you can convince me it has strong characters and good writing, I'll usually give it a shot.
Food-wise, I like pretty much everything so unless you are a really picky eater, or only will eat offal or over-processed food, we'll get along just fine.
The six things I could never do without
...in no particular order:
1. A good book, when I want to enjoy a day inside my own head.
2. Strong black coffee. I grind my own beans every morning (and yes, it makes a difference!)
3. Music, because life should have a soundtrack.
4. Travel, to feed my senses of adventure and perspective.
5. Humor, because life is better when you're laughing.
6. Leftovers, the lazy single man's answer to a home cooked meal.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
maps...I love maps.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm generally a creature of habit during the week and switch to "I
crave variety and adventure" mode around noon on Friday. I'm
equally happy to go out or stay in, although I don't tend to seek
out loud, crowded venues if no one is pushing me to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Once I fell face first onto a greased bowling lane in front of 500
coworkers. I'm pretty good at laughing at myself but that one took
a few years to be funny.
You should message me if
I look for guys with what I call 'the five S's': smart, silly,
sexy, sweet, stable. I'm madly drawn to old souls that are happy
being themselves...especially ones that have a cute dog I can love