Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update: I just returned from an adventure down the Mississippi
River visiting small and larger towns, collecting oral history of
people who live on and near the river.
Oh and Burning Man on the way
This is part of my MFA thesis work at the University of California
Santa Cruz digital art and new media program. Apparently, they will
chuck me out of the program next summer as a master of the fine
arts. Then I'll show 'em.
I'm an artist, biker, anarchist, sweetheart, adventurer, computer
geek, builder, and Taoist who fights the Man, boats down major
American rivers, treats people well, and builds stuff.
If you are a weirdo, radical, outlaw, or anti-authoritarian nutball
interested in redefining the way we relate to each other and our
world, we might get along swell.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm in the daily process of designing a life that feels meaningful,
beautiful, and charmed. I'm beginning a life chapter in which I
pursue only playful work or serious play.
I make hella arts. Don't even get me started here. Unless, like,
you want to.
I start stuff. (Like the Costco Soulmate Trading Outlet, where they
still let me work.) I follow through. I keep things rolling. I'm
down and committed. I'm a good teacher and organizer.
I'm part of lots of radical and artistic projects. I ride freight
trains. I read books or anything with words on it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm reasonably good at taking risks to do things I know next to
nothing about. I do dozens of impossible things before lunch and it
ain't no thang. The question is, where are the others?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have said they are drawn to my sparkly eyes or my curly mop
of a head. Some people like my strong, roundy shape.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The Phantom Tollbooth is one of the best books ever. The Third Man
is one of the best movies. Music is lovely and is in my head most
of the time.
Okay, I'll add some books because man, do I love me some books. The
God of Small Things. The Kon-Tiki Expedition. Underworld by Don
Delillo. The Sheltering Sky. Never Cry Wolf. Vonnegut. The
Dispossessed by Ursula Le Guin. Living My Life by Emma Goldman.
Faulkner. Toni Morrison. Jeanette Winterson. Salman Rushdie.
People's History of the United States by my hero Howard Zinn. A
Pattern Language by Christopher Alexander. Post-apocalyptic
fiction. About a dozen graphic novels.
Did I mention Tom Waits? Well, I should have.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Creating things.
2) Feeling like I am part of a team.
3) Sweet love.
5) Sunshine on my face or reflecting off water.
6) Things that excite my brain.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1. The end of the world and how I will survive it,
2. Privilege, examined and unexamined, unconscious racism and
sexism, and how to confront these in myself,
3. Art and how to capture some of the beauty and mystery of the
4. How to make the world a better place,
5. How lucky I am, how loved I am, how beautiful and inherently
uncapturable the world is, and
6. How awesome my dog is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
UPDATE: I don't know about typical, but on this Friday night after
coming home from an art show where I had a piece, I'm working on a
paper for publication in an academic journal.
Or teaching a free skool class, organizing an event, or on very
rare occasions when I get the solitude I need and crave, taking a
moment to drink whiskey and watch the stars. These days I might be
reading a thick tome for a class.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've ridden a freight train through the snow, free climbed a four
story building, traveled Latin America broke and alone, but I'm
scared of meeting someone that I like here on a date. But I might
just. Try me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Contact me if you walk a line between deep groundedness and
fuck-it-all adventure. Write if you weave along the gender line,
taking what you like and rejecting what doesn't work for you. Write
me if you walk a line between deep connection to the world as it
is, and a desire to make change at the roots of a fucked up system.
Write me if you are ambitious in totally unusual ways, if you want
to create a new world and work hard to make it a reality.
Sometimes "dating sites" seem like another form of misplaced
consumerism. And too often, reaching out to say, "hey, you seem
swell - let's be friends" too often feels like shouting into a
vacuum. But I am a deep optimist, and hold out hope that maybe you
will like me and I'll like you and we'll connect and become fast
friends or lovers. Surprise me.
I am in committed non-monogamous relationships now. I am lucky
enough to be romantical with two amazing people. I believe open
relationships work only with tons of good, sincere, and
compassionate communication. So I hope you're down with that.
I have no idea if I have time for new friends and new adventures,
though I like the idea and the sweet scent of possibility. For
extraordinary people and opportunities, I guess we always make
But whatevs. Take a chance and write. Let's race headlong to our
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