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49 Felton, CA Woman, Androgynous, Cis Woman, Genderqueer

Woman, Androgynous, Cis Woman, Genderqueer

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  • Ages 18–99
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6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Post grad
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Update: I'm from California, but on summer fieldwork for an art and history project on the Mississippi River visiting small and larger towns, collecting oral history of river people. This started as my MFA thesis work at the UC Santa Cruz digital art and new media program. Now the project continues as part of my artistic practice.

I'm an artist, biker, anarchist, sweetheart, adventurer, computer geek, builder, and Taoist who fights the Man, boats down major American rivers, treats people well, and builds stuff.

If you are a weirdo, radical, outlaw, or anti-authoritarian nutball interested in redefining the way we relate to each other and our world, we might get along swell.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in the daily process of designing a life that feels meaningful, beautiful, and charmed. I'm beginning a life chapter in which I pursue only playful work or serious play.

I make hella arts. Don't even get me started here. Unless, like, you want to.

I start stuff. (Like the Costco Soulmate Trading Outlet, where they still let me work.) I follow through. I keep things rolling. I'm down and committed. I'm a good teacher and organizer.

I'm part of lots of radical and artistic projects. I ride freight trains. I read books or anything with words on it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm reasonably good at taking risks to do things I know next to nothing about. I do dozens of impossible things before lunch and it ain't no thang. The question is, where are the others?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have said they are drawn to my sparkly eyes or my curly mop of a head. Some people like my strong, roundy shape.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Phantom Tollbooth is one of the best books ever. The Third Man is one of the best movies. Music is lovely and is in my head most of the time.

Okay, I'll add some books because man, do I love me some books. The God of Small Things. The Kon-Tiki Expedition. Underworld by Don Delillo. The Sheltering Sky. Never Cry Wolf. Vonnegut. The Dispossessed by Ursula Le Guin. Living My Life by Emma Goldman. Faulkner. Toni Morrison. Jeanette Winterson. Salman Rushdie. People's History of the United States by my hero Howard Zinn. A Pattern Language by Christopher Alexander. Post-apocalyptic fiction. About a dozen graphic novels.

Did I mention Tom Waits? Well, I should have.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Creating things.
2) Feeling like I am part of a team.
3) Sweet love.
4) Solitude.
5) Sunshine on my face or reflecting off water.
6) Things that excite my brain.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1. The end of the world and how I will survive it,
2. Privilege, examined and unexamined, unconscious racism and sexism, and how to confront these in myself,
3. Art and how to capture some of the beauty and mystery of the world,
4. How to make the world a better place,
5. How lucky I am, how loved I am, how beautiful and inherently uncapturable the world is, and
6. How awesome my dog is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
UPDATE: I don't know about typical, but on this Friday night after coming home from an art show where I had a piece, I'm working on a paper for publication in an academic journal.

Or teaching a free skool class, organizing an event, or on very rare occasions when I get the solitude I need and crave, taking a moment to drink whiskey and watch the stars. These days I might be reading a thick tome for a class.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've ridden a freight train through the snow, free climbed a four story building, traveled Latin America broke and alone, but I'm scared of meeting someone that I like here on a date. But I might just. Try me.
You should message me if
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Contact me if you walk a line between deep groundedness and fuck-it-all adventure. Write if you weave along the gender line, taking what you like and rejecting what doesn't work for you. Write me if you walk a line between deep connection to the world as it is, and a desire to make change at the roots of a fucked up system. Write me if you are ambitious in totally unusual ways, if you want to create a new world and work hard to make it a reality.

Sometimes dating site" seem like another form of misplaced consumerism. And too often, reaching out to say, "hey, you seem swell - let's be friends" too often feels like shouting into a vacuum. But I am a deep optimist, and hold out hope that maybe you will like me and I'll like you and we'll connect and become fast friends. Surprise me.

I am in a lovely sweet relationship but Maybe we will both find the time to become great friends.

I have no idea if I have time for new adventures, though I like the idea and the sweet scent of possibility. For extraordinary people and opportunities, I guess we always make time.

But whatevs. Take a chance and write. Let's race headlong to our certain doom.