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38 / M / Straight / Single
- Last Online
- Mar 8
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body Type
- Strictly anything
- Graduated from law school
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids
- engaging in armchair sociology
- peppering conversation with obscure cultural references
- drinking well and in consideration of mood and weather (particularly old world reds; Islay whisky; strong, simple cocktails)
- admiring good design, whether conceived by humans or manifested in nature
- art, in all its iterations, and its invitation to step outside my own mind and into another's, and to return knowing more
- getting lost down Wikipedia rabbitholes (which I suspect has taught me more than my entire formal education)
- spending time with the brilliant, complex, and wonderfully difficult people with whom I've been fortunate to share my life
- appreciating delicious, delicious food and the small rituals I associate with good eating (esp. in the company of the aforementioned people)
- sometimes loving to hate and sometimes hating to love
- looking for the Next Great Thing
Hitchcock, Lynch, Fellini, Kubrick, Herzog, (early) Scorsese, Kar Wai Wong, Gaspar Noe, Nicholas Winding Refn, Michael Glawogger.
William T. Vollmann, David Foster Wallace, Oscar Wilde, Li Young Lee.
British shoegaze, French electronic, Italian opera, West Coast or Brazilian jazz.
Louie, Portlandia, Arrested Development, 30 Rock, Flight of the Conchords, Mad Men.
I've had a deep and lifelong love affair with food, with a confessed fetish for most things Italian, but I have come to concede that others also know how to cook and eat. Yes, even the French.
*This list is extremely abridged.
Perhaps the same (but on a broader scale) can be said about successful relationships (romantic or otherwise). In a sense, a good relationships is a work of art.
Or traveling. Whether to find culture or to experience nature, it's just as much about discovering myself as something else, and the weird little intersection between those two discoveries. I confess that (eventually) finding a good travel partner is about half the impetus for my being on this site.
And then there's eating well. The experience of a proper meal is usually diminished if not shared, that is, used to communicate something essential between us. On a more evolved level, I'll fall in love with a meal all the more easily if the food is something timeless or traditional, having been as often loved as used to express love - something that has been elemental to a shared experience among people who are long gone, and which will be shared among people after we're long gone.
Art and more art. That's six.
I'm all too happy to discuss the many examples of this phenomenon, but one of the more lighthearted instances was the music intelligentsia's mostly-ironic rediscovery and appropriation of (Chicago's own) King of R&B. A few years ago, there was (at best) puzzlement at my sudden enthusiasm for man's confluence of absurdity and talent as kind of force of nature to be revered and celebrated. Several years later, Trapped in the Closet is playing at the Music Box, and then the guy ends up not only playing but headlining (and then absolutely killing it at) a certain large outdoor music festival, commanding a sea of mesmerized suburban kids who had, by all appearances, found cause to memorize the lyrics to "Feelin' On Your Booty." It was religious. Conceding that whatever was happening had almost nothing to do with me, I nonetheless indulged in that foolish and guilty pleasure of thinking and feeling otherwise.
- Girls who like guys
- Ages 26–40
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
Would enjoy receiving a panicked phone call advising you that some sort of culinary experiment is about to pop and that your presence is requested forthwith to consume and comment on the fruits of same.
Would enjoy challenging me to a board game, or inviting me to indulge in some other form of nerd-centric behavior.
Would see nothing ridiculous about spending 10 minutes or more debating which bottle of wine to open on a random Tuesday night. Or, better yet, you'd clearly see the ridiculousness, and then celebrate* it as one of those things that makes life amazing.
Tend to get along in polite society, but have always felt a bit like you're living in your own little world. That's fantastic. Let's compare worlds....
Would enjoy heading to the Music Box on a frozen-ass day and crushing a large popcorn over some remastered old flick, followed by drinks at a particularly darkened bar, peppered with talk about how much we adored/despised the film, followed by more drinks, about two dozen unrelated conversational tangents, and some form of booze-inspired PDA of the mildly embarrassing variety.
Are happy but not satisfied. You're confident the best is yet to come.
*This celebration of course calls for a more special bottle than originally planned. See how that works?
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