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  • Ages 29–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 7:20am
Hispanic / Latin, White
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Personally, I'm an aspiring musician, and enjoy rock climbing and other fitness activities with a healthy dose of geekery/gaming thrown in for fun.

Professionally, I'm a manager in a tech company; I like working with people more than code, but I enjoy both. My main goal is to be a good person in a world where that path isn't always so straightforward. I'm motivated to improve in all the things I do, but focus on doing so while being kind, patient, and thoughtful.

When I describe my hobbies to people they come across as "varied" or "eclectic". I like to push the boundaries of my comfort zone and find new ways to challenge myself.

In short categorical form, I'm polyamorous and bisexual and consider myself to be a feminist. I'm cis-gendered but spend a lot of time thinking about the meaning of gender.

I also answer to quite a few names, but won't list them here :).
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm fortunate to have two partners with whom I'm in supportive relationships, though I am excited to make connections here. I find connections of many kinds rewarding and fulfilling.

I like to lead an active lifestyle as much as I can, and I've been indoor rock climbing for the last couple years. I'd like to get outdoors with it but as of yet it's still a goal. I've also started to run with one of my sweeties and actually really enjoy my (mostly walking) commute in SF.

Over the past few years I've started learning how to play guitar and sing and I've been trying to get better at doing them in front of people. I spent a stint as a singer in a classic rock cover band, but mostly just do karaoke these days. I'd love to meet people to play or sing with.

I've also recently become the announcer for a women's flat track roller derby (WTFDA) league in the peninsula. It's terrifying (I'm shy!) but rewarding.

When I slow down, it's to enjoy time with friends, watch TV, read, or play video games or occasionally TCGs. On the geekier side, I have a Youtube channel where I post videos of guitar and vocal covers, frequently played through a game called Rocksmith. I find it good incentive for me to keep practicing (and super fun for anyone who enjoys playing guitar - I do recommend it :) ).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Picking up new things, getting on people's good side, looking on the bright side of any situation.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Physically probably my height and long hair. Personality-wise it's probably how friendly I am. I smile a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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For books I tend towards fantasy, though I don't read as much as I'd like (need more hours in the day) - I particularly enjoyed Luck in the Shadows by Lynn Flewelling. And I loved all the Harry Potter books and the Wheel of Time.

My taste in music tends towards guitar-oriented rock and blues from all the practice, but I like most genres; one of my favorite things about meeting new people is being introduced to new music. My guilty pleasure stuff tends to be obscure European power-metal groups.

As for movies I enjoy a lot of science fiction with a cerebral bent, and documentary/mockumentary films. Spinal Tap is still a lot of fun.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where my life is going and how I want to leave my mark on the world. I don't want kids but have started contemplating getting involved in education in some capacity to help the next generation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It varies a lot. Sometimes I'm announcing roller derby as most of those are on Friday nights. Sometimes out on a date, sometimes home playing games (with or without a partner), and sometimes on the road visiting my long-distance sweetie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I enjoy a drink or two, but have never in my life been really drunk.