Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Life is tough so I do my best to minimize my own anxiety and ease
the pain of those around me. So all I really do is listen to people
and think about the words and art I want to leave here in my
If you like manly beard-men, there are plenty of those around. Too
bad for you that I'm not one of them.
I like trees, simplicity, and empathy. I enjoy learning about
seemingly complex concepts but it's only a hobby.
I have a sense of humor hidden away somewhere, I promise.
Relationship-wise, I've been drifting through non-monogamy for a
while. I don't have expectations when making new friends, and I
don't expect anyone to stick around.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I just try to see the human in everyone I meet or pass on the
street. Some days I love everyone, some days I don't have enough
middle fingers for the world. Either way it's rarely
I write, draw, make stuff. Sometimes computer stuff. If you're
creative or set yourself apart from social norms, we'll probably
I often run. When I feel antisocial I'd rather read in bars and
coffee shops than stay at home. Do my own thing. I dream of one day
having my own place and raising a ferret. My cat of seven years
died last year, boo. Loving yourself is complicated, but I'm
getting better at it.
Trying to switch from desk work to restaurant work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Drawing and letting shit go.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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hip-hop, metric, melodic mellow stuff (synthesized or otherwise),
ancient folk music, will try to dance to almost anything live
Good movie soundtracks are good drawing music
Love to cook simple. Spicy. Veggies. Lentils. Apparently I am Not
Vegan Enough. Veganism is a political and dietary choice for me.
Not a militant religious one. I will eat and accept animal products
in my life rather than watch them decay. I simply don't purchase
them. Religious veganism strikes me as a salve for people who feel
guilty -- when it's more of a personal mandate than a socioeconomic
choice, isn't it more about you than the animals you supposedly
That's how I feel anyway. And what guilt are you soothing? Do you
care about whether an egg enters your mouth more than the fact that
people are hungry and chickens produce eggs for free? I've heard
fish farms can be made sustainable. This is what veganism is about
to me. Sustainability. Not a spiritual choice to help me feel
better about myself.
I like movies and comics that show the inner lives of people. Weird
mindgame movies with romance threads. Spooky psychological horror.
But I don't consume much.
I have enjoyed Le Guin, Octavia Butler, Gibran. The Kite Runner and
Kiss of the Spider Woman are good books. I prefer dialogue and
internal discourse to narration.
I'm on an autobio kick. Currently reading Scheherazade Goes West
and The Good Food Revolution.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
steeped leaves, solitude,
snug laces and cat claws
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The betterment of lives, my own and beyond.
Social context, storytelling. Tools and discourse following
established instinct (ie, UX). How to be wealthy without having
I like to think about brains, the universe, and the responsibility
of humanity as a conscious force, but don't know enough about
neuroscience to make any claims that aren't totally new-agey,
I personally dream of an aware society free of archaic
prejudice/oppression of any kind. (incl. ableism, sexism, classism,
The shielded elitism of the personality types I care about
(feminist, eco friendly, anti racist), aka Why I Don't Have
And yet, my love for life returns each changing season.
You should message me if
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You want to talk. Or get to know each other. Or do something
I've never done this but it might make a good card game:
Though I feel it could be condensed into "do you care about
humanity? are you relatively self aware? can you admit that you
don't know? okay, we're good"
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