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27 Seattle, WA Gender Nonconforming, Man

Gender Nonconforming, Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Yesterday – 5:21pm
Straight, Queer
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Mostly vegan
Dropped out of two-year college
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Life is tough so I do my best to minimize my own anxiety and ease the pain of those around me. So all I really do is listen to people and think about the words and art I want to leave here in my lifetime.

If you like manly beard-men, there are plenty of those around. Too bad for you that I'm not one of them.

I like trees, simplicity, and empathy. I enjoy learning about seemingly complex concepts but it's only a hobby.

I have a sense of humor hidden away somewhere, I promise.

Relationship-wise, I've been drifting through non-monogamy for a while. I don't have expectations when making new friends, and I don't expect anyone to stick around.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I just try to see the human in everyone I meet or pass on the street. Some days I love everyone, some days I don't have enough middle fingers for the world. Either way it's rarely personal.

I write, draw, make stuff. Sometimes computer stuff. If you're creative or set yourself apart from social norms, we'll probably get along.

I often run. When I feel antisocial I'd rather read in bars and coffee shops than stay at home. Do my own thing. I dream of one day having my own place and raising a ferret. My cat of seven years died last year, boo. Loving yourself is complicated, but I'm getting better at it.

Trying to switch from desk work to restaurant work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Drawing and letting shit go.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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hip-hop, metric, melodic mellow stuff (synthesized or otherwise), ancient folk music, will try to dance to almost anything live (...)

Good movie soundtracks are good drawing music

Love to cook simple. Spicy. Veggies. Lentils. Apparently I am Not Vegan Enough. Veganism is a political and dietary choice for me. Not a militant religious one. I will eat and accept animal products in my life rather than watch them decay. I simply don't purchase them. Religious veganism strikes me as a salve for people who feel guilty -- when it's more of a personal mandate than a socioeconomic choice, isn't it more about you than the animals you supposedly respect?

That's how I feel anyway. And what guilt are you soothing? Do you care about whether an egg enters your mouth more than the fact that people are hungry and chickens produce eggs for free? I've heard fish farms can be made sustainable. This is what veganism is about to me. Sustainability. Not a spiritual choice to help me feel better about myself.


I like movies and comics that show the inner lives of people. Weird mindgame movies with romance threads. Spooky psychological horror. But I don't consume much.

I have enjoyed Le Guin, Octavia Butler, Gibran. The Kite Runner and Kiss of the Spider Woman are good books. I prefer dialogue and internal discourse to narration.

I'm on an autobio kick. Currently reading Scheherazade Goes West and The Good Food Revolution.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
steeped leaves, solitude,
snug laces and cat claws
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The betterment of lives, my own and beyond.

Social context, storytelling. Tools and discourse following established instinct (ie, UX). How to be wealthy without having anything.

I like to think about brains, the universe, and the responsibility of humanity as a conscious force, but don't know enough about neuroscience to make any claims that aren't totally new-agey, yet.

I personally dream of an aware society free of archaic prejudice/oppression of any kind. (incl. ableism, sexism, classism, racism)

The shielded elitism of the personality types I care about (feminist, eco friendly, anti racist), aka Why I Don't Have Friends

And yet, my love for life returns each changing season.
You should message me if
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You want to talk. Or get to know each other. Or do something fun.

I've never done this but it might make a good card game:

Though I feel it could be condensed into "do you care about humanity? are you relatively self aware? can you admit that you don't know? okay, we're good"