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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 29–47
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:47pm
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Post grad
English, French, Arabic, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I moved back to the States after living abroad for many years, so I love to travel any chance I can.

I like to keep everyday life simple. Also I like to laugh with friends over good stories, hang out for happy hour, seeing movies.

Don't be shy about messaging me; I am pretty easy-going & very open-minded.

In a nutshell I am a naturally curious, considerate, independent, and (politically) progressive individual. I do think that one person can make a difference and, in fact, have seen it happen many times over the years. So, yes, guys who take initiative move to the front of the line...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work in health research at a university.
Previously I worked as an English instructor and bureaucrat.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to others, very resourceful, math, putting things together (e.g. cooking, puzzles) and telling stories about my travels, adventures and occasional misadventures. I speak several languages...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am tall and reddish blond, and in shape.
That I smile a lot & wear glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like writers who are a little bit edgy and present a new style. Anais Nin, William Burroughs, Jimmy Baldwin & Reinaldo Arenas are on the top of my reading list; Like the classics & modern. I don't read all the time, but would like to be with a guy where we both read and chill. Watching TV all the time fries my brain (I do like HBO, HGTV and some Bravo ;)

Earth, Amelie, Motorcycle Diaries, the English Patient & Mulholland Drive on my movie list. I used to be a volunteer interpreter at the Seattle Film Fest, so yes, really, really like movies.

Food: I eat most anything, from anywhere! Really like Thai, or Japanese is a favorite, too. Can go high-brow or low-brow....not picky with food. Getting more into beers & wines. Love a Gin & Tonic anytime.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
One: my friends
Two: my mom (one & two are closely tied)
Three: love
Four: mutual respect
Five: world peace & cultural understanding
Six: downtime

Let's talk about the rest over dinner....(somebody told me these are not "things," however, I answered intuitively like this, so I am sticking with them! ;) I should add I hate shopping so I don't really like things anyways...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to keep life natural and feel content. How to help people who are less fortunate. I believe in giving back to the community....

I also lived for a while in the Arab World where gay relationships are largely illegal, and at best, highly stigmatized, so I came back to the US with a sincere appreciation for the privileges that allow us to be in a relationship.

The other things I 'll say coming back to the US: I don't expect us to be best friends right away or even to click. But I'm not into endless chatting/messaging. I believe that only in-person meet-ups will let us know if there is chemistry.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends or watching a movie at home. Usually unwinding from the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have big, masculine hands. ;)

Let's face it, it's usually hard to meet awesome guys off-line. If you're just looking for hook-ups on OKC, I'm not your guy. Also I am ddf, neg, so hope you are, too. Not into pot or poppers. Cigarettes don't bother me that much (outside, etc.)

Facial hair is hot. Bear or not, whatever, but I like mustaches or goatees. Not required either ;)

One small thing: I have been on at least several dates from OKC where guys go into stories about their exes, usually bad stories. I don't think exes are an appropriate/romantic first date topic--so please keep those stories for your friends or a later time when we know each other better. Thanks for understanding!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have a big heart, have a sense of humor/don't take your self too seriously, positive attitude, witty, mind-body conscious (& HWP), are generous, read for fun and like to travel to foreign places (beyond Canada! lol). I would like to find someone who is game for traveling, both domestically and internationally.
Not afraid of a little adventure---you only live once! Prefer more masculine, low-drama guys. If you'd like to talk more, just shoot me a message. Love, love a guy who takes initiative!!!