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rnbnc

37 M Asheville, NC

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:46pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Libra
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm not a vegetarian or vegan,
I'm an introvert,
I don't have a beard (just a trimmed goatee)
I own a TV and enjoy watching it,
I very rarely drink (but don't care if you do as long as you're not a drunk)
I'm not Atheist
I have no tattoos or piercings (but not against anyone else having them)
I don't hang with any cliques
I've only hiked once in my entire life
I prefer being home or elsewhere other than a bar,
I prefer women who shave & use deodorant,
Yet I live in Asheville, which means the odds are not stacked in my favor to meet someone who accepts all these qualities, but hey it's worth a shot, huh? If you're still intrigued, feel free to continue reading.

Gonna try to keep this short & sweet...

First off, you must accept that I'm a Dad to four beautiful children: 3 from a previous marriage, and one from my second to last relationship. They do not live here in Asheville, however I am very much in their lives and have no drama from the mothers. If you're ok with that, then get to know me!

Now, if you're still reading & interested, I've lived in Asheville for 5 years, just moved to the Oakley area this year & loving it so far. I've been out of the dating scene for a while, and obviously have no clue what I'm doing because it seems dating has changed profoundly over the years. I'm happy with my life & who I am, it would just be nice to have a snuggle buddy, and someone special to share my life & build with. I'm an introvert who's not blessed with the "gift of gab", I'm actually pretty shy until I warm up to you a little. I'm a guy who doesn't follow trends & pretty much walks to the beat of my own drum. I do not listen to today's hip hop, use terms like "swag, turnt up, or yolo", I do not wear skinny jeans nor do I wear my pants below my ass, and I do not fit the thug stereotype of the black male so if that's what you're looking for, I'm not the one. I'm a Libra so I'm always looking for balance. Not into the bar/club scene(unless its a jazz or comedy club, or supporting my musical family), that's never really been my thing... I'm more of an introvert, so I prefer more intimate, quiet and cozy settings. I would rather snuggle up on the couch on a weekend, or take a nice scenic drive or walk, go bowling, dine out, check out live music, or shopping(even if its just window shopping). I'm just looking to meet people for now & see where it goes....if it turns into something more serious, that would be great...Even though my ultimate goal is to find that special someone, and my best friend to share life & build a future with, until I find her I'm willing to enjoy the free spirited single life and all the fun it has to offer. I'm not the type to ask you for naked pics right off the bat, nor will I send any, and even though I believe that the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the mental, emotional & spiritual, I am not all about a one night thing. Don't get me wrong, I love sex as much as the next guy, and if the opportunity presents itself while I'm single & the attraction & chemistry are there, I would definitely consider, however that's not ALL I'm about. I'm at the point in my life where I'm ready to share my life & build with someone, and not even sure if this is the place to find it, but hey, worth a try, huh?

Now, as for the type of woman I'm looking for....someone who doesn't spend all her free time getting plastered at a bar (drinking is definitely not a dealbreaker, I'm just tired of the one-dimensional women where their only idea of fun is getting sloppy drunk at a bar every weekend), but still has a fun, goofy & silly side (major plus on the goofy side, because I definitely have one when I warm up to you). Someone who knows what gender equality really means and is ready and willing to send the first message, as sending messages with no response gets old...fyi, some guys like to be equally pursued and feel wanted also:). Someone who is on this site and actually wants to meet in person to see if there's any chemistry instead of hiding behind a computer or phone. Someone who doesn't always take life too seriously(stick up the butt syndrome) and knows there is a time & place for everything. Someone who is classy in public, but lets go of all inhibitions at home...she has to be very affectionate, I'm looking for someone who still likes the little things, holding hands, stimulating conversation, cuddling, doing activities such as picnics & walks together, and the butterflies you get when you do those things. I'm also a sucker for a good kisser ;) looking for someone who realizes a relationship is a 50/50 team effort, and can understand & deal with the life of a musician complete with the ups & downs. Straight forward honesty is required.

So much for short & sweet, huh? Haha!
What I’m doing with my life
Being a wedding singer!! (Insert joke here)

I'm a R&B/Funk/Conscious Hip Hop producer, artist & performer who is in 3 bands: Lead Male Vocalist in a wedding/private party band, Vocalist/Producer/Songwriter in a banjo/hip hop fusion band, and producer/vocalist/songwriter in my own band that plays my original tunes. Have been doing this for the past decade and have been successful, and still pushing toward bigger goals. I also work in retail for Sprint. If you'd like to hear some of my work, you can check it out at www.reverbnation.com/rnbnc
I’m really good at
Creating smooth & funky tunes, singing, being observant & a great listener, snuggling, working with electronics, kissing, Being me!
The first things people usually notice about me
My thick southern accent. Most people say my appearance doesn't match my voice, whatever that means...
My dimples
My reticence, which is often mistaken for being snobby & unapproachable, which is far from the truth....talk about a blessing and a curse at the same time...haha!!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: 80's & 90's comedies, action & some drama
Shows: Cosby, Seinfeld, Frasier & other classic sitcoms , Music Documentaries, UNC Basketball, Dallas Cowboys Football, Wrestling
Music: 70's, 80's & 90's music, Old school R&B, Funk. Conscious Hip Hop, Contemporary/Smooth Jazz, some House & some classic rock. I DESPISE TODAY'S TOP 40 AND TRAP MUSIC. Keep it away!!!

Favorites include: Levert, Hall & Oates, Doobie Brothers, The Whispers, Steely Dan, Teena Marie, Al B. Sure, DJ Quik, Tribe Called Quest, Outkast, De La Soul, Pete Belasco, Bob Baldwin, Don Blackman, Dam-Funk, W.Ellington Felton, Erykah Badu, Jill Scott
Food: Almost anything, I like to cook...nothing like a home cooked meal!
The six things I could never do without
Peace of mind, Food, Family, Affection, Music, Sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Creating new music, life in general, Why there are 7 billion people on earth and I'm still single...lol...how nice it would be to have someone to share my thoughts & feelings, laugh & have fun with, and come home to & snuggle up with at night.
Why are women on this site who are married or in a relationship already? I understand the polyamory thing, it's those that are with someone and just on here "for friends" (in other words, to boost their ego). This is okcupid (emphasis on the cupid), not swellyourhead.com!
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't do the club & bar scene. Since I'm single I'm usually a homebody so it varies...if I'm not playing a gig I'm usually relaxing at home, or I may go & support my musical family if they're playing somewhere. If I'm in a relationship, we could dine out, take a nice scenic drive or walk, go shopping or bowling, or even have a nice meal at home, then snuggle up and watch tv or listen to music & enjoy each other's company.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I suck at flirting because I'm shy at first...
I'm a sucker for a good kisser :)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Your profile pictures are NOT in a bar with a beer in your hand looking sloppy drunk....so one-dimensional, boring and cliche, especially for this town.

You don't take these match percentages seriously. Let's be real, a computer generated number can't really determine the compatibility & chemistry of two people...I feel you actually have to meet to figure that out.

If you're over and past the serial dating stage and ready to find chemistry and connection with someone

You don't wear fake hair, painted on eyebrows or tons of makeup.

You're not just looking for "friends only". Again....this is a dating site.
You're actually interested in meeting & dating someone, and not just using this site as a game or a tactic to stroke your ego.
You're not uptight about sex & intimacy....we're all adults here, right??
You live within a half hour of Asheville, long distance doesn't work for me.
You're actually willing to meet in person...you can only text & email so much before it gets redundant & I lose interest, I didn't join this site just to have a text buddy or pen pal...lol
You don't spend most of your free time & weekends at a bar or club....
You can deal with the ups & downs of the life of a musician
You're interested....
You love to laugh
You have no issues being yourself
You actually put some effort into your profile about who you are, instead of throwing up a couple photos and only saying "ask & I'll tell"...and you're not afraid to post full body photos. I don't discriminate on size as long as you try to be healthy, but hey, if you're too insecure to take anything other than a face only pic, how do you expect a guy to appreciate your appearance? Gotta love yourself first :)
You're not prejudiced
You do not act "ghetto/ratchet"
You are very affectionate & love to snuggle & kiss :)
You do not follow trends
You have no anger issues
You are passionate about life
You have no problem initiating conversation here, and can say more than "hey" or "sup", you will not get a response if you send one word messages.
Bonus points if you're a fan of contemporary jazz & old school music.
You have a great sense of humor
You do your own thing and do not have a "crew" that you feel obligated to run around with in all of your free time. If I'm dating you, that means I'm interested in spending time with you....not you and your 40 friends!!