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rob_sf

35 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:58pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Okay)

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My self-summary
Who is Rob? Rob is many things! Here are some of them:

A rock climber - Indoors! Outdoors! Sport! Wannabe trad! (one day, hopefully soon)

A cook - Multicourse dinner party? Sounds like fun! Simple homecooked meal made from whatever veggies in my fridge need to be used up? Probably more likely.

A traveler - Whether just up the coast or on the other side of the globe, I love to visit new places!

A cyclist - Mostly for commuting. But I'm growing as a road cyclist.

A product designer / design researcher - I make things people love to use.

A bleeding-heart liberal - And proud of it!
What I’m doing with my life
I made a list. I enjoy making lists - I find it very therapeutic.

1. Complete a multi-day big wall climb
2. Start a business
3. Learn to play a musical instrument
4. Learn a second language
5. Live in a foreign country for at least 6 months
6. Donate 100,000$ to worthy charities
7. Hike the Na Pali coast in Kauai, Hawaii
8. Sail in the Mediterranean sea
9. Fall madly in love with a beautiful, interesting woman
10. Write and publish a book
11. Start a blog (or equivalent periodical) and update it regularly for at least 6 months (in progress, sort of)
12. Prepare a 10 course meal for at least 6 friends
13. Camp for a week in the Florida keys (or another tropical location)
14. Create a new product that makes the world a better place
15. Live in a home I own (Done!)
16. Prepare a meal for at least 6 friends consisting entirely of ingredients I grew/gathered/caught myself
17. Purchase and tailor a suit and pimp it out with all the accoutrements
18. Brew my own beer
19. Volunteer 100 days of my time
20. Take a class that improves my creative skills
21. Write a computer program that other people use
22. Read 50 nonfiction books (in progress - maybe ⅕ of the way through)
23. Read 50 novels (in progress, but going slower than I’d like)
24. Travel abroad for at least 2 weeks by myself
25. Take a 6 month sabbatical from working a steady job
26. Give a speech in front of at least 100 people (Done!)
27. Teach a class
28. Spend two weeks straight rock climbing
29. Taste an ultra-high-end bottle of wine
30. Sport facial hair (Done! I’m counting the sideburns.)
31. Own 4 pairs of glasses
32. Visit a 3rd world country
33. Spend time with a friend I haven't seen in several years
34. Forgive someone who's wronged me
35. Learn to help someone who's injured
36. Work for a company that produces consistently above-average design work
37. Obtain a deep understanding of a group of people who think or act very differently than I do
38. Travel above the arctic circle or below the antarctic circle
39. Acquire a well-coordinated collection of crockery and utensils (Done! This one was easy)
40. Complete a project that improves the area I live in
I’m really good at
Cooking. So long as you aren't looking for meat, anyway. I'm a vegetarian (well, sometimes I eat fish).

Listening. Being a good listener is basically my job, and it comes pretty naturally to me.

Thinking. I like to think, and I like to talk about the things I'm thinking about. Hopefully with you!

Being calm. It takes a lot to get me really worked up.
The first things people usually notice about me
On OkCupid? Probably that I write a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books: Zen And The Art Of Motorcycle Maintenance, Siddhartha, The Lord Of The Rings, Catch-22, anything by Ursula Le Guin, Tao Te Ching, The Better Angels of our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined, The Signal and the Noise, The Design of Everyday Things, The Lean Startup, The Audacity of Hope, The Guide To Getting It On

Favorite Music: Rock. House. I like music. Let's get on with our lives.

Favorite food: How can you have a favorite food? I love all food, except meat (see above). It's ok if you eat meat, though, so long as you are cool with eating my vegetarian cooking.
The six things I could never do without
My kitchen (including everything inside it.. ha! Fooled you, "six things" question!), my rock climbing shoes, my bike (SO much better than driving/parking/muni), my passport, my lovely and eccentric friends, my foolhardy aspirations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's next. I love my life the way it is, yet I still firmly believe that the best is yet to come.

I think a lot about people - our strengths, our frailties. What makes us happy and why we don't always get there. I'm a big consumer of books on psychology, personality studies, mental disorders and other quirks of the brain, evolutionary biology, etc. And I'm always looking for ways to apply this information to my life - how I can work better with others, accomplish more, and direct my energy towards more productive things.

On a more pedestrian level, I recently bought a condo and have been thinking a lot about tasteful contemporary interior decoration. If you have any tips for me, please do send them my way.
On a typical Friday night I am
In my world there is no such thing as a typical Fri... ah, fuck it.

To be honest on a typical Friday I'm probably at home making a nice dinner, then heading to bed. The work week is exhausting! Saturdays, on the other hand, I may be classing it up at a fancy restaurant, swilling beer at a dive bar, or (better yet) pitching a tent in the wilderness after a nice long day of hiking and/or rock climbing. My life is rough, but someone's gotta live it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This question is now "List a few of your favorite quotes"

Alice came to a fork in the road. “Which road do I take?” she asked.
“Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.
“I don’t know,” Alice answered.
“Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”
-- Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

"But then they danced down the streets like dingledodies, and I shambled after as I've been doing all my life after people who interest me, because the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars..."
-- Jack Kerouac, On the Road

"One day, if I do go to heaven... I'll look around and say, 'It ain't bad, but it ain't San Francisco.'"
-- Herb Caen
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
I like to do things. Do you like to do things? Let's do some things together!

Here are some examples of things I would like to do with you:

Go bouldering at Mission Cliffs, Planet Granite, or (best of all) in the great outdoors!

Go to an art gallery opening and spontaneously develop uninformed opinions about fine art!

Play mini golf! (I haven't had a chance to play mini golf in literally years.) (UPDATE - I have now had a chance to play mini golf. But it has not lessened my desire to do so.)

Try out that awesome new restaurant that you've been meaning to get to but could never seem to find the time.

Sit around a campfire drinking wine and talking about philosophy, science, human nature, art, and the meaning of it all.

Perhaps you have some other ideas? Send me a note and let's chat!