I'm paddling my own canoe, and have been for quite some time. However, love and trust go hand-in-hand. Without trust, love will wither and die. I can tell you this from experience.
I've reached the point in my life where I'd like to take a relationship as far as I can go, rather than stay in the ambivalent stage as I did when I was younger.
I've had many experiences in my life so far, both good and bad. Drama, if you will. It's not that we have drama in our lives. We all do, or have, without exception. It's how we deal with it, and whether we allow it to affect our current and future relationships. If you hold on to the past with one hand and the future with the other, you'll be ripped apart.
I view this system with cautious scepticism. I have had an unpleasant experience on a competing site, purportedly the largest dating website on the planet, in which I discovered that a number of the subscribers were bogus. That being said, I'm looking for someone who's real. Both philosophically and literally.
I believe honesty is the best policy. Honesty builds trust, and trust is absolutely essential in a romantic relationship. Without trust, love will wither and die.