Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
nerdy, scruffy appearance; academic ways; inexpensive vices.
karaoke, architecture, futzing with old film, cozy productivity,
sunshine biking, baking, pinball, slow-starting mornings.
from down south. no accent but i still say "y'all."
DISCLAIMER 1: i live on the same floor with my best friend, who was
my primary partner for the past three years. we are very close, but
are pursuing independent dating lives. i'm putting this up front in
case it's a deal-breaker; while i do want to make out, i don't want
to waste yr time.
DISCLAIMER 2: the sexy stuff is mostly down at the bottom. so you
can skip there if this profile is, in the words of one of my
readers, "like, tl;dr, sorry."
DISCLAIMER 3: while i'm not just on this thing to pick up
hot babes, i'm very iffy on boyfriend/girlfriend heteronormative
relationships. i'm attracted to independence, i don't wanna own yr
body, i believe friendship can overlap with making out and
cuddling, and i don't wanna own yr time. these do not preclude my
getting totally sweet on you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
saying yes to things. remembering to make time for my friendships.
poking down the block and back, rifling the same ol' record bins,
looking up hideous buildings in my yellowing 1970s architecture
guide to new york. trying to carve out a facsimile of my dream
attic from the late 1920s or 40s, with few possessions but lots of
heart and intensely-lived evenings. unfortunately i am having as
hard a time giving up all my stupid stuff and habits as i am
finding a time machine.
professionally i'm a nerdperson, intermittently struggling to
articulate (and hold myself to) a critical or potentially radical
historiographical praxis in a notoriously conservative field. aka,
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
rationalizing extra dessert. picking things up with my toes. some
board games. squandering my first messages to cool kids on okcupid.
naming that tune. the second- or third-most heartwarming compliment
i've ever received was an ex-lover telling me i made her feel
comfortable in her desires.
The first things people usually notice about me
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whiteness, maleness, general class position, hair, big nose.
sometimes i like to imagine i have a cute butt. people tell me that
i wear unlikely color combinations and girls' shirts but i have no
real concept of this unless i'm specifically thinking about
the gray hairs have started to show here and there, and part of me
is pretty stoked about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
WARNING, I HAVE CORNIER TASTE THAN ANYONE YOU KNOW.
books: nerdy nonfiction, virginia woolf, old x-men, pulpy
movies: kiki's delivery service plus whatever you wanna watch. i
like movies a lot but am pretty behind on films.
tv shows: mst3k, futurama, columbo, simpsons, twin peaks. generally
watching tv makes me hate myself but lately a cider and half an
episode of something-or-other are nice at the day's end.
music: anything that you can sing along to with giant emotions,
great tunes, good words. 50s rock, classic country, 70s AM gold,
chart pop and hip-hop, classic beatles-y pop-rock and its
descendents, max tundra, chuck berry, parliament.
food: pancakes, tibetan fried momos, thai stuff, little debbies
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* record player
* books books books
* stupid computer
* garbage junk food or something i guess.
i had a sex answer here for ages but i got reflective and punted it
down to the next category. but effectively that too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
architecture, as situated in global material flows and local social
and economic conditions. colonialism, large technological systems,
power. also aesthetics/formalism. keyboard pop songs i'll never
finish writing. random little phrases from books i haven't read in
ten years. filthy sweetie sex with sweetie filthy girls. and
mostly, all my dear sweet inspirational friends now scattered
across the earth.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
decompressing after school, editing photos, watchin a movie,
meeting old friends for cheapo dive drinks, i dunno.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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1) i like butts. no like, i'm a connoisseur. i will show yr ass
true lovin' appreciation if you want it.
2) i've seen many a profile proclaim: "don't message me if you just
want to talk dirty to me." i kind of take the opposite stance on
3) i have unusual turn-ons, swinging strongly subby. the groovy
radical nerd wing of the local kink scene has been kind enough to
welcome me as a novice and interloper; if you do fetlife we can
swap details that way too. i don't need all my partners to be kinky
but if you are completely squeamish about this stuff (which is of
course your right!) it might not work out so good.
i've tried to sum my stuff up by saying "i like it dirty," but this
has been widely misunderstood. let's say "REALLY dirty."
4) BUT. things don't always have to be so elaborate. i also like
making out and groping and sweaty bodies rolling and squirming
around together. oouuh!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you wanna get nerdy, and ramble about the stuff you do and the
stuff you like.
you wanna get dirty. like, let's.
you're inspired to. i have next to zero first-message game
you wanna go exploring by bike or subway, especially to
architecture and urban spaces.
you are not some career-driven money zombie person and do not
measure people by the dollars attached to their clothes, their
drinks or their hangouts. my home is still with the DIY kids, even
tho they're all a lot cooler than me.
you wanna have yr picture taken. i do decent portraits though most
of my experience is with dumb buildings.
you wanna ball and yr not shy.
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