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33 Brooklyn, NY Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–37
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:11pm
White, Other, —
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
DISCLAIMER: i live with my primary partner of the past three years, who is my principal emotional support, cutesy nickname-sharer, sleep-in-the-same-beds-most nights best friend. we are also committed to each of us pursuing independent dating lives; i freely admit we don't 100% know where this is headed. i'm putting it upfront since i'm sure it's a deal-breaker to lots of folks. and while i do want to make out, i don't want to waste yr time.

to that end, let me also add that the sexy stuff is mostly down at the bottom. so you can skip there if this profile is, in the words of one of my readers, "like, tl;dr, sorry."


nerdy, scruffy appearance; inexpensive but particular tastes. finally getting around to my years of decadence and debauchery (read: bourbon and pornography)

loves: karaoke, architecture, scanning old negatives, cozy productivity, sunshine biking, baking, pinball, dancing, slow-starting mornings.

from down south. no accent but i still say "y'all."

DISCLAIMER: while i'm not just on this thing to pick up hot babes, i'm very iffy on boyfriend/girlfriend heteronormative relationships. i'm attracted to independence, i don't wanna own yr body, and i don't wanna own yr time. these do not preclude my getting totally sweet on you.

i describe most of my partners as "lovers." this probably makes me sound like some dreadful sophomore polyamory fuck, but it's the best way i can name all the friends that have also been makeout partners, cuddlers, button-pushers, long rambling conversationalists, etc. come forth, o ye sweet, slutty hipster babe-a-lots of the city. could i be your fated champion? let us amaze each other with kindness and sex, and spread each other's Reputations in hushed, warm tones.
What I’m doing with my life
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saying yes to things. remembering to make time for my friendships. poking in circles down the block and back, being soothed by the familiarity of rifling through the same record bins.

i'm a professional nerdperson, intermittently struggling to articulate (and hold myself to) a critical or potentially radical historiographical praxis in a notoriously conservative field. but yeah day to day i'm a phd student.

in general, trying to carve out a facsimile of my dream attic from the late 1920s or 40s, with few possessions but lots of heart and intensely-lived evenings. unfortunately i am having as hard a time giving up all my stupid stuff and habits as i am finding a time machine.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
rationalizing extra dessert.
picking things up with my toes.
nerdy board games.

the second- or third-most heartwarming compliment i've ever received was an ex-lover telling me i made her feel comfortable in her desires.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
whiteness, maleness, general class position, hair, beard (currently in remission), nose. sometimes i like to imagine i have a cute butt. people tell me that i wear unlikely color combinations and girls' shirts but i have no real concept of this unless i'm specifically thinking about it.

the gray hairs have started to show at a rate of about one every few months, and part of me is weirdly stoked about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: nerdy nonfiction, virginia woolf, old x-men, pulpy garbage.

movies: i rate dumb crap, and "kiki's delivery service," highly. my partner and i watch a lotta miscellaneous VHS tapes so i am slowly getting a film education, sort of.

tv shows: mst3k, futurama, columbo, simpsons, twin peaks. generally watching tv makes me hate myself but lately a cider and half an episode of something-or-other make a good come-down.

music: anything that you can sing along to with giant emotions, great tunes, good words. 50s rock, classic country, 70s AM gold, chart pop and hip-hop, classic beatles-y pop-rock and its descendents, max tundra, chuck berry, parliament.

food: pancakes, tibetan fried momos, thai stuff, little debbies
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* camera
* bicycle
* record player
* books books books
* stupid computer
* garbage junk food or something i guess.

i had a sex answer here for ages but i got reflective and punted it down to the next category. but effectively that too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
incredibly filthy sex with sweet dirty girls, architecture, keyboard pop songs i'll never finish writing, random little phrases from books i haven't read in ten years,

and all my dear sweet inspirational friends now scattered across the earth.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
decompressing after school, tinkering in lightroom, watchin a movie with my main lady squeeze, meeting old friends for cheapo dive drinks and lotsa laughs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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1) i like curvy girls with mild overbites, slightly upturned noses, almond eyes, smiley cheeks, big lips, and (**IMPORTANT**) big firm bubbley butts. i'm a connoisseur and i will show yr ass true lovin' appreciation if you want it.

i also like severe hipster girls with fly bangs, precise teeth, and/or that one-side-of-yr-head-shaved deal. these things are hard-wired and i cannot apologize for them. continually flopping back and forth in the femme/tomboy-femme zone but even my nomenclature is probably really out of date here.

2) good alternative: are you into this strange trend of the totally skin-tight show-yr-butt black tights, in combination with big goofy megaman size boots? i'm guiltily hypnotized. as gross as this makes me sound.

3) i've seen many a profile proclaim: "don't message me if you want to talk dirty to me." i kind of take the opposite stance on this issue.

4) i have unusual turn-ons and i would just say "i'm kinky" but i feel like that's claiming unearned membership in a scene that has been good enough to welcome me as an interloper. i like the things i like; you don't have to like 'em too, but if you are squeamish about this stuff (which is of course your right!) it might not work out so good. i do swing subby but wish all the other cute bottoms out there the best of luck.

i've tried to sum my stuff up by saying "i like it dirty," but this has been widely misunderstood. let's say "REALLY dirty." this is complicated and can mean pie fights and thick wallowy mud bogs, or much filthier things, even whispered in one's ears and not necessarily acted upon. if you do fetlife we can swap details that way too.

BUT. things don't always have to be so elaborate. i also like making out and groping and sweaty bodies rolling and squirming around together. oouh. there are just so many hotties here in bushwick.
You should message me if
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you're inspired to. i have next to zero first-message game anyway.

you wanna go bike-exploring (especially stupid architecture crap).

you wanna get nerdy, and ramble about the stuff you do and the stuff you like and stuff like that.

you wanna get dirty. like, let's.

you are not some career-driven money zombie person and do not measure people by the dollars attached to their clothes, their drinks or their hangouts. my home is still with the DIY kids, even tho they're all a lot cooler than me.

you wanna have yr picture taken. i do decent portraits though most of my experience is with dumb buildings. if my current career falls through i will go into the business of pinups and very niche softcore.

you wanna ball and yr not shy.

don't take any offense if i don't write back. i am a huge flakewad. it doesn't mean i don't think you're nice n stuff. most people are basically all right, yknow?