I am an ambassador of life, and wish everyone felt this way. What I mean to say is, it matters to me that I uplift those I meet and make their life a little better, if only with just a smile. So I treat people that the rest of the world might not; perhaps wait staff, the girl behind the counter at the dry cleaner, the homeless guy that sweeps the sidewalk on Market Street – like they matter. I’ll learn their name if I see them more than once or twice. Giving back while we’re here is important to me, and there are so many ways to do this.
I have a huge heart, and it’s both served me very well and hurt me, but I’d still rather be the one who loves most than the one who loves least.
Integrity is important to me – which makes sense given my ‘day job,’ no? But I would be curious to know what you think it means, or if you’ve contemplated it’s meaning…
The impetus for being here is a recent heartbreak. I'm single for the first time in fourteen years and unsure how ready my heart is for something long term right now. Not that it matters for a fall fling, but for a long term relationship, when I’m ready again, I’m open to defining it in unique ways that don’t necessarily fit society’s existing paradigms. I question the long term sustainability of monogamy, but I also absolutely and positively am not open to polyamory. If you’re looking for that, move on to the next cupid, now. For a fall fling, were it to move past a few dates and get genuinely intimate, I would want it to be monogamous, because it’s short term, temporary, and I – baring my soul – am a bit fragile and want to be kissed by someone who means it.
I was raised in a tiny town in Oregon that didn’t even have a stoplight: Prairie City (“city” being a poor naming convention). I was homecoming queen because I was the only girl that didn’t chew tobacco! :) Humor aside, there was something about my upbringing in this tiny town with a loving family that gave me the idea that I can do anything. And so I am something of a renaissance person. I perform in an a cappella jazz group that just won Bay Area’s Harmony Sweepstakes, I’ve written a novel (about integrity), I design and create spectacular costumes, I can weld, I love plasma cutters, and I have wild ideas about creating adventure (that I then do).
I love to travel to obscure places, and I try not to hit the same country twice (but I’ve still visited a few more than once). I’ve taken ayahuasca in the Peruvian jungle, stolen a lemon off a tree in Cape Town, crashed a pirate ship off the coast of Boracay Island in the Philippines, checked into a Love Hotel in Tokyo, howled at the howler monkeys in Nicaragua, Trekked the Erg Chebbi Desert on Camel back in Morocco, met with village elders in Thailand to discuss the repair of their boats after the Tsunami hit in Thailand, and more. But when I travel (excepting stealing the lemon), I like to find ways to give back to the community as a component of my trip.
I’m extremely creative, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. And I'm selective about how I interact with the world; I don’t own television in the traditional sense, I’m not on facebook, I don’t own a cellphone or a car.