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47 F San Francisco, CA

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My self-summary
I can’t imagine wanting something; a lifestyle, a job, a love, anything – and not pursuing it. So it would stand to reason that I love what I do; not just for a living but on the side; in the telling cracks between. I don’t define myself by my work, and yet it tells something about me. I'm a database architect – so structure and stability are at my core. A friend of mine once said: “how you do one thing is how you do everything,” and I frequently watch this play out; not just in myself, but in the world around me. It matters to me that you have figured out what you love and are doing it; not living in an unreachable (or worse… reachable) fantasy.

I am an ambassador of life, and hope you are as well. What I mean to say is, it matters to me that I uplift those I meet and make their life a little better, if only with just a smile. So I treat people that the rest of the world might not; perhaps wait staff, the girl behind the counter at the dry cleaner, the homeless guy that sweeps the sidewalk on Market Street – like they matter. I’ll learn their name if I see them more than once or twice. Giving back while we’re here is important to me, and there are so many ways to do this.

I have a huge heart, and it’s both served me very well and hurt me, but I’d still rather be the one who loves most than the one who loves least.

Integrity is important to me – which makes sense given my ‘day job,’ no? But I would be curious to know what you think it means, or if you’ve contemplated it’s meaning…

The impetus for being here is a heartbreak last year. I'm single for the first time in fourteen years, but think I'm ready to get back in the saddle. I’m open to defining my next relationship in a unique way that doesn't fit society’s existing paradigms. I question the long term sustainability of monogamy, but I also absolutely and positively am not open to polyamory.

I was raised in a tiny town in Oregon that didn’t even have a stoplight: Prairie City (“city” being a poor naming convention). I was homecoming queen because I was the only girl that didn’t chew tobacco! :) Humor aside, there was something about my upbringing in this tiny town with a loving family that gave me the idea that I can do anything. And so I am something of a renaissance person. I perform in an a cappella jazz group that just won Bay Area’s Harmony Sweepstakes, I’ve written a novel (about integrity), I design and create spectacular costumes, I can weld, I love plasma cutters, and I have wild ideas about creating adventure (that I then do).

I love to travel to obscure places, and I try not to hit the same country twice (but I’ve still visited a few more than once). I’ve taken ayahuasca in the Peruvian jungle, stolen a lemon off a tree in Cape Town, crashed a pirate ship off the coast of Boracay Island in the Philippines, checked into a Love Hotel in Tokyo, howled at the howler monkeys in Nicaragua, Trekked the Erg Chebbi Desert on Camel back in Morocco, met with village elders in Thailand to help out after the Tsunami decimated the Andaman coast, and more. But when I travel (excepting stealing the lemon), I like to find ways to give back to the community as a component of my trip.

I’m extremely creative, but that doesn’t mean you have to be. I'm selective about how I interact with the world; I don’t own television in the traditional sense, I’m not on facebook, I don’t own a car. I *just* purchased a cell phone for the first time in my life, and am trying to navigate its inclusion in how to stay connected digitally without losing physical connection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'll create next. I'm more of a from-scratch kind of girl, so I admire people who de-construct that which has already been invented.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The inspiration for my hair is Sonic the Hedgehog...
I’m looking for
  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 40–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if or two things clicked with you when you read my summary (you follow your dreams, you're kind, you've contemplated the meaning of integrity and have integrated it into your life, you enjoy adventure).