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41 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 27–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 6:42pm
Asian, White
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Tagalog (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You could say I led the first 40 years of my life as the golden boy - doing everything right and by the rule book - good grades, good job, lovely family, house in the suburbs. Geez, my mom is proud of me. But these days, the realization that life is short and embracing the words carpe diem - I seek beauty and connection in other people (particularly, hot, smart and sexy ones).

I am happily married to a wonderful, beautiful woman foxglove_73 for the past 13 years. After much introspection, we decided to open up our marriage to connections of all varieties. It's been an amazing ride ever since. Would you like to get on (and off) with me/us? Yes, we are available as a couple too!

My life seems to be an exercise in duality: growing up in two cultures (Asia/Europe), reconciling my punk rock sensibilities with the plastic corporate world, being a good family man and following my dreams/passions. We all struggle with balance, and tether at time. But it's the challenges that keeps me alive and ploughing forward.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Weekdays? Breakfast Guy early mornings, Engineer/Tech guy by day, Weaver of Tales by night, Hunkaburninglove late late nights.

Weekends? Cyclist/Guitarist/Dad

Wherever do I fit in the fun stuff? Oh - there's where you come along!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Numbers. Spreadsheets. Finding solutions. Getting things done. Manning the grill. Fixing cars. Just being generally nice. I've been accused of being too nice.

I'm a loyal friend. And a dad.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My animated and gesticulated way of telling stories. My hands are part-Italian.

Also, my unusual accent. People assume I'm Brazilian. Or Turkish. Or Peruvian. It's the result of my mixed heritage.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Most recently read Haruki Murakami, watched the Lego movie (yes, I have kids), attended that blasted Morrissey concert and dreaming about the pork belly stuffed dates at Tribune Tavern.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Family
2. Coffee
3. Bike
4. Guitar
5. Music
6. Sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My evil plan for world domination.
Or, how to finally push my food truck business into existence.
I also think a lot about giant robots, am I doing this right and how not to fuck it up.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

(and thankful it's the weekend.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It takes more than that for me to share that. Let's talk about it over coffee or a drink.

I'm unstereotypically a male, in the fact, that organised sports bore me to death. Give me a book, a beer and the sun on my face any day.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are a single or attached female, and want to hang out. If you are part of a couple, and want to hang out with me and my wife. Friendship first, anything else will just happen naturally. If you work in tech , in the South Bay and need a lunch buddy - I'm down for that too. I am straight and not into men, but thank you for the interest anyway. My wife and I share info, so you must feel comfortable meeting and communicating with her in case hanging out with you becomes a habit, which I hope it does.

Wow, you're still reading? Kudos to you! You may notice I don't have face photos on here, another exercise in duality of being a good family man/ upright citizen and pursuing new adventures. It's not conservatism that won out, only the desire to avoid strange stares and having to answer stupid questions from the close-minded in our close-knit community. But, I will be happy to share my mug with you, just drop me a note!