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41 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:50pm
Asian, White
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Tagalog (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Before you sign me off as a cheating bastard, my wife made me do it. I am happily married to a wonderful, beautiful woman foxglove_73 for the past 13 years, but we have recently forayed in the world of polyamory/openness/the swing set (however you want to call it.) You could say I led the first 40 years of my life as the golden boy - doing everything right and by the rule book - good grades, good job, lovely family, house in the suburbs. Geez, my mom is proud of me. But these days, the realization that life is short and embracing the words carpe diem - we are finding beauty and connection in other people (particularly, hot, smart and sexy ones) as a couple. It's been one grand adventure ride, would you like to get on (and off) with me/us?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Weekdays? Breakfast Guy early mornings, Engineer/Tech guy by day, Weaver of Tales by night, Hunkaburninglove late late nights.

Weekends? Cyclist/Guitarist/Dad

Wherever do I fit in the fun stuff? Oh - there's where you come along!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Numbers. Spreadsheets. Finding solutions. Fixing things. Manning the grill. Fixing cars. Just being generally nice.

Oh, and fart jokes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Without talking to me, usually the lewd and obscure band names on my weekend t-shirts. Wha'? Huh? Cover your eyes, children.

After talking to me, my unusual accent. People assume I'm Brazilian. Or Turkish. Or Peruvian. It's the result of my mixed heritage.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Most recently read Haruki Murakami, watched the Lego movie (yes, I have kids), attended that blasted Morrissey concert and dreaming about the pork belly stuffed dates at Tribune Tavern.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Family
2. Coffee
3. Bike
4. Guitar
5. Music
6. Sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My evil plan for world domination.
Or, how to finally push my food truck business into existence.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

(and thankful it's the weekend.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After 20 years of monogamy, I know NOTHING about dating. But this whole experience of meeting new people has been awesome.

I'm unstereotypically a male, in the fact, that organised sports bore me to death. Give me a book, a beer and the sun on my face any day.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 27–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are part of a couple, and want to hang out. If you are a single or attached female, and want to hang out. Friendship first, anything else will just happen naturally. If you're just curious about polyamory - we'd be happy to share what we know and demystify it for you. If you work in tech, in the South Bay and need a lunch buddy - I'm down for that too. I am straight and not into men, but thank you for the interest anyway. My wife and I are doing this as a couple, so you must feel comfortable meeting and communicating with her at some point. Thanks for reading this far!