I am optimistic, happy & flexible (and of body too).

I've lived in the East Bay (El Cerrito to Oaklanad) since the late 80s, except for a couple years in SF & on Treasure Island. This Bay Area is my home, though I started out in a very different land of nice, yet homogenized people, in the desert. I've never found a strong inclination for religion, except maybe for an appreciation for buddhism.

My life revolves around being on 2 wheels of one sort or another, but mostly bicycling. I quite enjoy rock climbing and slacklining. I spend a lot of time in front of one computer or another (usually a Mac), without much regret.

I'm fairly pragmatic, laid-back, and present. I tend to question things and try my best to not take things for what they "should" be. I value being alone as much as with good friends. I like to geek on techy/interesting stuff & sometimes make things. I loathe and have less & less tolerance for tobacco smoke. Drugs are not a part of my life but have no problem with weed nor those who partake. Most sports don't really capture me, least likely are the typical american sports (the ads, the hype, blah blah blah).

I love to laugh, play, lounge about, cuddle, go for long bike rides, experience good music, and soak outside in hot water where the air is cold, or rainy, or snowy. I'm queer-friendly and lean somewhat towards polyamory. But, wow. I must have misunderstood a few questions on that Poly Acceptance Test. I'm totally accepting of things poly, just tentative on being myself.

I suppose I'm a feminist, but find it slightly odd to have to say so because that just seems like the way everyone should be. I guess I feel that maybe those who aren't should have to identify as being unreasonably biased.

I am geekish, kind, and present
If you're looking for an angry dude, move along. Nothing to see here. :-)

I used to work for a man who pronounced it "liberry" .. which was sad because we were in the business of digitizing rare books at libraries. But now, I work at a non-profit in the city, maintaining a datacenter full of computers. The work we do and what I do there are both rewarding. I also love working in SF & try to maintain connection to all the wonderfulness there.

I like to make things. Things that usually have some electronic or technology angle, or require welding. Or most often, things that can be made by hand.

I bicycle for transportation. I still motorcycle occasionally and have a little car, but it's also nice to be spending less money & gas.

… being presently here & now.

… fully considering my choices. Though this easily breaks down when at a restaurant where I'm presented with a menu full of choices.

… not falling over.

… being tolerant of things & people.

… taking things apart (to see what's inside or why it's not working), and then almost always good at putting them back together.

… noticing the details; seeing the big picture.

… being kind and optimistic.

… finding comfort in a cold climate, with little to wear.

… focusing on a task.

… "ignoring" my left hemisphere.

… using things not necessarily for what they were meant. (creative use)

My un-naturally died hair (bright orange, red, ultraviolet blue,…), my (6g?) earring, and glasses.

That I'm wearing my bright yellow motorcycle gear which is often (somehow) misjudged as firefighter's gear.

Contrary to the latest oktrends blog post, I really am 6'1". (I see no reason to lie here…)

( Yeah, this section's a little long, but there are so many interesting things! )

I'm unconvinced that someone who'd be a good match will also have all the same interests as me. In fact, I'm pretty sure being interested in different things can lend towards the useful. These are some of the things that get me…

There are many books I'd probably read. But I sadly have never found (or maybe made) the time to finish books. I've been in the middle of reading so many books. In spite of my nature towards focusing on what I'm doing. I did, once, totally enjoy *and* finish reading Jitterbug Perfume by Tom Robbins.

hyperboleandahalf :-)

I love watching much of what's on IFC (mmm.. uncut, unmodified, and often obscure, but good movies). But I tend to love what is played at the smaller (Elmwood or Piedmont) theaters. But for specifics: Blade Runner, Lawrence of Arabia, Nightwatch, Fifth Element, Amelie, Serenity, Office Space, The Office, (NBC), Heroes, BSG, Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, Look Around You, (BBC), anything with/by Alton Brown, Simpsons, South Park, Top Gear, Lucy, Daughter of the Devil, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, The Triplets of Belleville, …

I love music and would like to see more live (esp if there were someone to go with). But I rarely have headphones on while wandering in my world. (Much prefer being open to interacting with the people around me.) My tastes are all over the place. I love Ani Difranco, Radiohead, Bowie, Dim Dim, Boards of Canada, Rachel's, Dirty Three, Thievery Corporation, U2, Pogues, Pixies, Modest Mouse, Autechre, Miles Davis, Erin McKeown,Dire Straits, Cowboy Junkies, PJ Harvey, Björk, Jõao/Astrud/Bebel Gilberto, … I really could go on. For some sort of brevity and if you're still curious take a look/listen: Listen to my Pandora station, or Last.fm.

…and food (mmm, yum): I'll admit it, i'm a foodie. I love good food. I love cooking with/for friends. I'm all for non-commercialized, local, sustainable, unprocessed foods. I love spicy, flavorful, and varied foods. Some places I love to eat: Manpuku], Juan's Place, Bette's Diner, Bakesale Betty's, Shalimar (Tenderloin), Vik's, Flint's, Everett & Jones, or the like. I like trying new foods, or foods in unusual combinations. When I visited Tokyo (mid-90's), I loved hitting every hot and cold drink vending machine i could find, just to try ones I hadn't yet. I recently started making kefir with a culture I acquired from friends near Mt Shasta (and previously from Copenhagen). (It's apparently hundreds of years old!)

I love good coffee and consume some nearly every day (at work, Aeropress on my desk; at home, my lovely espresso machine), and a very high tolerance for caffeine (mmm, Cole Coffee & the Roma cafes of Berkeley). Yet at the same time can easily go without that essential bean. I like interesting wines & ports, the an occasional beer. But because I don't really drink a whole lot I'm a cheap date (usually because of the motorcycle as transportation thing). I rarely get very drunk, and don't see the point in getting wasted.

Life with joy … balance of being alone and having mutually rewarding companionship … adequate sleep … simplicity … good coffee/espresso.

Whatever comes to mind, or whatever I'm doing, or nothing at all. Free association is fun. I enjoy going where my mind takes me, even if it's nowhere at all.

The thing(s) I'm presently working on or building, and the tangents that inevitably leads to. There are so many interesting things!

How it can be that in person, I can usually think of what to say. But when it comes to "cold calling" someone here, meaningful, pithy, interesting things to say seem to dribble out my ears & not my fingers.

How to find a meaningful connection with someone new, whom at the same time isn't bothered with where I'm coming from. More on this in "you should message me if."

I wonder a lot about .. well, this Mark Twain quote pretty well sums it up:
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover"
(borrowed from sfchix's profile, "bravo")

Why doesn't OkC show a count of quesitons answered next to the Match/Friend/Enemy percentages? Stats must be quantified to have meaning…

… hmm, "not asleep?" Could be, I'm climbing/bouldering and/or slacklining at the gym; riding critical mass or SF/EastBay Bike Party; maybe just getting my tired self home after a long week.

I don't tend to "go out" much. Partly, I don't care to deal with noisy(?) crowds of strangers and, "EWW! the smoking!"

But often, Friday is just the beginning of the weekend … spending my time not being at work. I do enjoy my work, but 5 days in a row of it and I'm ready to do something else for a bit.

i sometimes wish i were a dyke, and not having my relationship hand played for me: possessing the gender that is on the outside, trying to find a way in

… you're forward, happy, sane, optimistic, joyful … I seem have a tendency towards gay/bi women, which has been fine for making friends. But I'd like to find a greater connection with someone. Maybe you'd just like to find a friendly, like-minded someone to hang out / play / make things with. Or how about someone to go see a show with?

… you'd looking for someone to bicycle or motorcycle ride with

Also, I'm with a someone whom I used to be romantically involved with but haven't been for many years. She's decided being bi isn't her thing and is, in fact gay. We're still live together, and are in many ways more like siblings or good friends who share a home. Yes, it's somewhat complicated, but what about life isn't? Both of us are entirely open to the potential that I could find romatic connection with someone else and that would likely change the way things are now; she wants me to be happy, and I want to be loved.

I might be convinced otherwise, but I'm not interested in casual dating. I am the sort who has need for a relationship that is more than just friendly.

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