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43 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–44
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 25
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Other, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of high school
Seeing Someone
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them

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My self-summary
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I'm a full time kilted fellow, a computer programmer, and am an amateur enthusiast in all things about religions and faith, without really believing or disbelieving in any of them.

I'm also a bit of a trickster, a punster, a muppet of sorts, the kind of guy who quietly whispers "manah manah" at funerals, weddings, and crime scenes.

Hey, look, more profiles!: Myspace Facebook

I am brilliant, attractive, and very humble. (If you are humor impaired, you can stop reading now.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Toiling away in the bowels of corporate software houses, and balancing it by contributing to F/OSS, along with painting, writing, and the occasional music release.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.

Deflecting questions. :)

My work has led me into complex systems and code, because I can quickly scan 10,000 lines of text and find the mistakes, or corner cases unaccounted for, etc.

I have excellent pedantry skills, which is a fairly useless super-power.

The first things people usually notice about me
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The long hair, and the kilt. People often ask me about my accent, but that even happened in my hometown. I think it has something to do with me trying to speak loanwords with the right original emphasis.

About the kilt (since somebody asked):
My short answer is generally: "They're comfortable".

The long story goes a bit like this:

After a very long year, living in Atlanta (and not liking it), and fairly confused about who I was, and what I was going to do with my life, I found that all my plans had been scrapped. In an effort to reclaim my self-identity, I looked around for a kilt in my family tartan. After discovering the particular tartan was a tad snobby, and that traditional kilts were fairly spendy and not too comfortable in hot weather, I bought a Utilikilt (american made, sustainable business, etc.). I put it on, and started to build a new "me".

I then went on a huge road trip, during which I bought 5 more kilts, and even spent a couple of nights at the Utilikilt founder's house, working on projects in his workshop. As I grew into a "new self" I found that the minor act of kilt-wearing helped me to find and explore parts of me that I had suppressed, or failed to express, as part of my "compromises" to make my prior life plans work, to wit:

Defiance of gender roles. Defiance of fashion rules. Rugged self reliance (the whole Utiliclan are an interesting kind of people, a group of non-groupable(?) types). Belief in myself as the champion of my destiny. Belief in art, and artistic expression, as a way of life. Restoration of my self-confidence and self expression without compromise for a relationship. The ability to weather any storm, literal or figurative, thrown my way (kilted, in an actual white-out snowstorm, is a bit of a spiritual experience). Acknowledgment of the fun, unique, and crazy-beautiful in myself and in others (letting the freak flag fly, so to speak). Joy in freedom, free from fears about modesty, self exposure, free from shame about myself, my body, my psyche, my being.

Oh, and they're terribly comfortable, I think everybody will be wearing them them in the future. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Sample Books: Foucalt's Pendulum, Coincidance, Cryptonomicon, Lamb

Sample Movies: Female Perversions, Fight Club, Brazil

Sample Music: VNV Nation, Dresden Dolls, Massive Attack, Skinny Puppy, Pigface, Then Tingari, Crash Worship

Food: Thai (I loves me some Thom Kha Gai!), Sonoran-style Mexican (I grew up in southern Arizona), Sushi... and ridiculously expensive, indulgent, prix fixe meals.

I suppose I could have listed everything, but since things like music would require listing over 1000 bands, it seemed.... excessive.

Here's my current Pandora stations, which will at least be a little more genre-specific.

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

I live because of sleep, music, transportation, a decent compiler, a usable computer, and an vox/internet uplink.

About the last three, when I went on the "bopalooza" (a road trip all over the US), I kept in touch with family and friends the whole time. $1,600 bucks in roaming charges in one month.

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. structures, large systems scaling issues, perceptions of reality, and creative ways of lifting people up.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Editing my okcupid profile to see who looks at the changes. Home until about midnight, then out to the closest pub to me, which happens to have dancers. If you've lived in PDX for a while, you know what that means. ;) Anyways, once the staff realized I wasn't a perv, it became a place where the DJ would play my music, and the scenery is nice, though the clientèle can be touch and go at times. On the plus side, I often get to play angel/cabbie, and have made lifelong friends with a bunch of the current and former staff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was abused for a really long time, and spent a really long time in therapy because of it. As a side effect, I can now spot manipulation, games, and emotional blackmail and power-plays from a mile away, and I have no tolerance, whatsoever, for non-consensual physical violence in a relationship.
You should message me if
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You've googled me adequately, and have any sort of interest in getting to know each other. I'll give you one word, that's all you'll really need, it's my profle name.