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  • Ages 18-99
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My details

Last online
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Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.79m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an irascible, filthy-minded, extroverted introvert.

I shy away from the word 'geek', but some aspects of that stereotype do describe me well: bursts of mildly-obsessive enthusiasm, a tendency to over-think things (though many of the best experiences in my life have come from being spontaneous), and a level of curiosity that sometimes gets me into trouble.

I don't shy away from the word 'obstreperous'; it seems to sum me up annoyingly well.

Also: I tend to use too much punctuation when I write; I get a thrill when things go right first time; I'm never comfortable if I haven't gotten to the bottom of a mystery; I try hard not to be as up myself as this profile makes me sound.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living near Vauxhall with busy-leveret; doing geeky stuff at a big charity for a living; plotting adventures (and sometimes actually having them); over-using semi-colons; wishing that there were more days in the week.

I've mostly settled in to my new job, and now have more time to meet new folk again - so I'm currently actively looking to date and form new connections.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, debating, planning, list-making

Working towards becoming really good at
Photography, spontaneity, doing interesting things with rope

Unlikely to ever be really good at
Holding my tongue, brevity
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
So far this year, I've read a bunch of social and political history stuff, some 70s feminist scifi, and a bunch of other stuff besides. Favourite recent books are 'Our Endless Numbered Days' by Claire Fuller, and 'The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet' by Becky Chambers; I'll happily ramble on about either if you want to ask me about them.

fillums (er, I'm from Northern Ireland, so that's how I say it.)
Hudsucker Proxy, Me Without You, 16 Years of Alcohol, Tank Girl (yes, really), Shortbus, IvansXTC, Sleeping Beauty.

All the Netflix series, just like everyone else. Apart from Marco Polo, that is; it was frustratingly shit despite looking so very lovely.

I've got a bit of a thing for shoegazing - I could wallow in waves of fuzz for days on end. And proper twee pop, too - handclaps and la-la-las are where it's at, dammit. Otherwise, it tends to be electro-y these days, though I'm also finding myself increasingly interested in jazz and contemporary classical stuff - a sign of getting old?

I adore slow food - roasting and stewing, rather than frying or grilling; I make my own stock, render down fats, and use way too much seasoning. I may be a decent cook, but I'm an awful baker; if you can make awesome cakes then I'll almost certainly love you forever. Or something.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
optimism, lust, ambition, bile, desire, and, finally, the interweb - to help glue it all together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
When I was seven, we wrote at school about what we wanted to do when we grew up. All the other kids wanted to be popstars or astronauts; I said that I wanted to run my own desalination plant. This seems to be disturbingly typical of my childhood.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re looking for a substantive connection, rather than a one-off hookup - the sort of relationship that involves trips to the pub and playing boardgames and going off on adventures together as well as plenty of kinky experimentation.

...your defining characteristic isn't that you're "laid back". Surely that just means you're not particularly passionate about anything? pah!

...or if you have a good sourdough starter that I can steal from.