Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an irascible, filthy-minded, extroverted introvert.
I shy away from the word 'geek', but some aspects of that
stereotype do describe me well: bursts of mildly-obsessive
enthusiasm, a tendency to over-think things (though many of the
best experiences in my life have come from being spontaneous), and
a level of curiosity that sometimes gets me into trouble.
I don't shy away from the word 'obstreperous'; it seems to sum me
up annoyingly well.
Also: I tend to use too much punctuation when I write; I get a
thrill when things go right first time; I'm never comfortable if I
haven't gotten to the bottom of a mystery; I try hard not to be as
up myself as this profile makes me sound.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living near Vauxhall with busy-leveret
; doing geeky stuff at a
big charity for a living; plotting adventures (and sometimes
actually having them); over-using semi-colons; wishing that there
were more days in the week.
I've mostly settled in to my new job, and now have more time to
meet new folk again - so I'm currently actively looking to date and
form new connections.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, debating, planning, list-making
Working towards becoming really good at
Photography, spontaneity, doing interesting things with rope
Unlikely to ever be really good at
Holding my tongue, brevity
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm plump, have messy curly hair, a beard of varying
scruffiness, and scary/twinkly blue eyes?
Or that I'm talking animatedly about something; it's hard to shut
me up at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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So far this year, I've read a bunch of social and political history
stuff, some 70s feminist scifi, and am now halfway through The
Count of Monte Cristo - which turns out to be rather deliciously
different to the abridged version that I remember from
fillums (er, I'm from Northern Ireland, so that's
how I say it.)
Hudsucker Proxy, Me Without You, 16 Years of Alcohol, Tank Girl
(yes, really), Shortbus, IvansXTC, Sleeping Beauty.
All the Netflix series, just like everyone else. Apart from Marco
Polo, that is; it was frustratingly shit despite looking so very
I've got a bit of a thing for shoegazing - I could wallow in waves
of fuzz for days on end. And proper twee pop, too - handclaps and
la-la-las are where it's at, dammit. Otherwise, it tends to be
electro-y these days, though I'm also finding myself increasingly
interested in jazz - a sign of getting old?
I adore slow food - roasting and stewing, rather than frying or
grilling; I make my own stock, render down fats, and use way too
much seasoning. I may be a decent cook, but I'm an awful baker; if
you can make awesome cakes then I'll almost certainly love you
forever. Or something.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
optimism, lust, ambition, bile, desire, and, finally, the interweb
- to help glue it all together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was seven, we wrote at school about what we wanted to do
when we grew up. All the other kids wanted to be popstars or
astronauts; I said that I wanted to run my own desalination plant.
This seems to be disturbingly typical of my childhood.
You should message me if
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...you're looking for a substantive connection, rather than a
one-off hookup - the sort of relationship that involves trips to
the pub and playing boardgames and going off on adventures together
as well as plenty of kinky experimentation.
...your defining characteristic isn't that you're "laid back".
Surely that just means you're not particularly passionate about
...or if you have a good sourdough starter that I can steal from.
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