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36 M London, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 10″ (1.79m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm an irascible, filthy-minded, extroverted introvert.

I shy away from the word 'geek', but some aspects of that stereotype do describe me well: bursts of mildly-obsessive enthusiasm, a tendency to over-think things (though some of the best experiences in my life have come from being spontaneous), and a level of curiosity that sometimes gets me into trouble.

Also: I tend to use too much punctuation when I write; I get a thrill when things go right first time; I'm never comfortable if I haven't gotten to the bottom of a mystery; I try hard not to be as up myself as this profile makes me sound.

Oh, and; This is where I should warn you about just how bloody obstreperous I can be, isn't it? Even if I've not yet formed an opinion, I'll happily poke and prod and play devil's advocate just for the sport of the debate.
What I’m doing with my life
Living in Vauxhall, starting my own nerdy consultancy/contracting business.

Also: experimenting with baking bread and brewing beer. Hurrah!
I’m really good at
Cooking, debating, planning, list-making

Getting better at
Photography, spontaneity, shibari (mmm; rope!), making the most of living in London

Unlikely to ever be good at
Holding my tongue, brevity
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm plump, have a wonky nose, messy curly hair, a scruffy beard, and scary blue eyes? Or that I'm talking animatedly about something; it's hard to shut me up at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm all Kindled up these days - I parted with most of my paperbacks when I moved to London, and the rest of my fiction went to chartiy shops last year. The five most-read collections on my Kindle are titled: Post-apocalyptic, Magic Realism, Grumpy Americana, Scottish Scifi, and Steampunk

fillums (er, I'm from Northern Ireland, so that's how I say it.)
Hudsucker Proxy, Me Without You, 16 Years of Alcohol, Tank Girl (yes, really), Shortbus, IvansXTC, Sleeping Beauty.

Game of Thrones, BSG (pity about how it ended, though), Rome, the Netflix version of House of Cards (yes, yes, yes). I tend to watch boxsets rather than tv.

I've got a bit of a thing for shoegazing - I could wallow in waves of fuzz for days on end. And proper twee pop, too - handclaps and la-la-las are where it's at, dammit. Otherwise, it tends to be electro-y these days, though I'm finding myself increasingly interested in jazz, too - a sign of getting old? Oh, and a warning: dull commercial indie makes me want to stab the perpetrators before rubbing human shit into the wounds. I'm a lovely, tolerant person, aren't I?

I adore slow food - roasting and stewing, rather than frying or grilling. I've got a bit of a fetish for good ingredients, which means that living near Borough market is handy (if expensive). I'm a decent cook, but an awful baker; if you can make awesome cakes then I'll almost certainly love you forever. Or something.
The six things I could never do without
optimism, lust, ambition, bile, desire, and, finally, the intertron - to help glue it all together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was seven, we wrote at school about what we wanted to do when we grew up. All the other kids wanted to be doctors or popstars or astronauts. I said that I wanted to run my own desalination plant. This seems to be disturbingly typical of my childhood.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 18–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
your defining characteristic isn't that you're "laid back". Surely that just means you're not particularly passionate about anything? pah!

you're open to exploring a proper relationship within the context of a poly / ethically non-monogamous type of setup.

...or if you have a good sourdough starter that I can steal from.