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36 M London, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 10″ (1.79m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm an irascible, filthy-minded, extroverted introvert.

I shy away from the word 'geek', but some aspects of that stereotype do describe me well: bursts of mildly-obsessive enthusiasm, a tendency to over-think things (though many of the best experiences in my life have come from being spontaneous), and a level of curiosity that sometimes gets me into trouble.

Also: I tend to use too much punctuation when I write; I get a thrill when things go right first time; I'm never comfortable if I haven't gotten to the bottom of a mystery; I try hard not to be as up myself as this profile makes me sound.
What I’m doing with my life
Living near Vauxhall, working at a nerdy startup in Mayfair, plotting adventures all over the place.

Also: experimenting with baking bread and brewing beer. Hurrah!
I’m really good at
Cooking, debating, planning, list-making

Getting better at
Photography, spontaneity, doing interesting things with rope

Unlikely to ever be good at
Holding my tongue, brevity
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm plump, have messy curly hair, a scruffy beard, and scary/twinkly blue eyes?

Or that I'm talking animatedly about something; it's hard to shut me up at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm all Kindled up these days - I parted with most of my paperbacks when I moved to London, and the rest of my fiction went to charity shops when I realised that otherwise they'd probably never come out of storage again.

So far this year, I've read a bunch of social and political history stuff, some 70s feminist scifi, and am now halfway through The Count of Monte Cristo - which turns out to be rather deliciously different to the abridged version that I remember from childhood.

fillums (er, I'm from Northern Ireland, so that's how I say it.)
Hudsucker Proxy, Me Without You, 16 Years of Alcohol, Tank Girl (yes, really), Shortbus, IvansXTC, Sleeping Beauty.

Game of Thrones, BSG (pity about how it ended, though), Rome, the Netflix version of House of Cards (yes, yes, yes). I tend to watch boxsets rather than tv.

I've got a bit of a thing for shoegazing - I could wallow in waves of fuzz for days on end. And proper twee pop, too - handclaps and la-la-las are where it's at, dammit. Otherwise, it tends to be electro-y these days, though I'm also finding myself increasingly interested in jazz - a sign of getting old?

I adore slow food - roasting and stewing, rather than frying or grilling. I've got a bit of a fetish for good ingredients, which means that living near Borough market is handy (if expensive). I'm a decent cook, but an awful baker; if you can make awesome cakes then I'll almost certainly love you forever. Or something.
The six things I could never do without
optimism, lust, ambition, bile, desire, and, finally, the interweb - to help glue it all together.
On a typical Friday night I am
wondering if it's your round or mine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was seven, we wrote at school about what we wanted to do when we grew up. All the other kids wanted to be doctors or popstars or astronauts. I said that I wanted to run my own desalination plant. This seems to be disturbingly typical of my childhood.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
...your defining characteristic isn't that you're "laid back". Surely that just means you're not particularly passionate about anything? pah!

...we have a low 'enemy' rating; That's perhaps more interesting to me than a high match %age.

...or if you have a good sourdough starter that I can steal from.