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36 Lambeth, UK Man


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  • Ages 18–99
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:43pm
5′ 10″ (1.79m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an irascible, filthy-minded, extroverted introvert.

I shy away from the word 'geek', but some aspects of that stereotype do describe me well: bursts of mildly-obsessive enthusiasm, a tendency to over-think things (though many of the best experiences in my life have come from being spontaneous), and a level of curiosity that sometimes gets me into trouble.

I don't shy away from the word 'obstreperous'; it seems to sum me up annoyingly well.

Also: I tend to use too much punctuation when I write; I get a thrill when things go right first time; I'm never comfortable if I haven't gotten to the bottom of a mystery; I try hard not to be as up myself as this profile makes me sound.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living near Vauxhall with busy-leveret; working at a nerdy startup; plotting adventures; wishing that there were more days in the week
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, debating, planning, list-making

Working towards becoming really good at
Photography, spontaneity, doing interesting things with rope

Unlikely to ever be really good at
Holding my tongue, brevity
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm plump, have messy curly hair, a scruffy beard, and scary/twinkly blue eyes?

Or that I'm talking animatedly about something; it's hard to shut me up at times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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So far this year, I've read a bunch of social and political history stuff, some 70s feminist scifi, and am now halfway through The Count of Monte Cristo - which turns out to be rather deliciously different to the abridged version that I remember from childhood.

fillums (er, I'm from Northern Ireland, so that's how I say it.)
Hudsucker Proxy, Me Without You, 16 Years of Alcohol, Tank Girl (yes, really), Shortbus, IvansXTC, Sleeping Beauty.

Game of Thrones, BSG (pity about how it ended, though), Rome, the Netflix version of House of Cards (yes, yes, yes).

I've got a bit of a thing for shoegazing - I could wallow in waves of fuzz for days on end. And proper twee pop, too - handclaps and la-la-las are where it's at, dammit. Otherwise, it tends to be electro-y these days, though I'm also finding myself increasingly interested in jazz - a sign of getting old?

I adore slow food - roasting and stewing, rather than frying or grilling (now that it's autumn, I'm finding myself suffering from a serious craving for oxtail). I'm a decent cook, but an awful baker; if you can make awesome cakes then I'll almost certainly love you forever. Or something.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
optimism, lust, ambition, bile, desire, and, finally, the interweb - to help glue it all together.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wondering if it's your round or mine.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was seven, we wrote at school about what we wanted to do when we grew up. All the other kids wanted to be popstars or astronauts; I said that I wanted to run my own desalination plant. This seems to be disturbingly typical of my childhood.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re interested in the sort of relationship that involves trips to the pub and playing boardgames together as well as plenty of kinky experimentation. Somethingalong the lines of regular dating, or occasional playdates, or something in between; I'm not really looking for one-off hookups right now.

...your defining characteristic isn't that you're "laid back". Surely that just means you're not particularly passionate about anything? pah!

...or if you have a good sourdough starter that I can steal from.