Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
There, it's been said. If you have a problem with ethical
polyamory, best to stop now. Especially since that, as of this
writing, I am dating 2 people.
Never heard of ethical poly? I hadn't either 15 years ago. In
short, it involves no cheating, tons of talking, lots of work, a
metric ton of Self-work, and a lot less stress over the whole "is
s/he The One?" question, because it's a rare match when the other
person fulfills all your romantic relationship needs. How much sex
and how much romance happens between everyone is up to the people
involved, like any good contract.
So what am I looking for? I want to go out with people. Talk, share
ideas, laugh over stories of misspent youth, make mudpies,
whatever. (Actually serious about the mudpies part - I have a keen
interest in greenbuilding, including cob and adobe.) Movies are
good. Coffee/tea is good. Tabletop RPGs are good. Hiking/walking is
great. Laughter is what it's all about. I love sharing tales of
travel. I love hearing about what you want to do with your life and
what steps you're taking to do something about it, or at least how
your dreams inspire you in other ways.
Have something to explore? See something cool that day? Heard a
great joke? Invented the new bigger Cheez-It? (Bonus if you get the
ref.) Share it with me.
Kindly do not waste my time or yours if you are a social
conservative (fiscal moderates are fine), religious and feel that
everyone else should believe as you do, a guru follower, hypocrite
(yeah, I know ain't none of us perfect in that regard because it's
built into human nature, but you learn and grow, right?),
half-empty type, or judgmental beyond what is practically
I am XXFX. And data is hot.
Bisexuality: I started off being very equally bi. Came the 30's and
biology, and suddenly men were looking better.
Being 40-something has distinct advantages, and not being a slave
to the drives of procreation is one of them. I have missed being
with a woman and would generally prefer to meet women here. But
that's not saying "no way" to the right kind of man.
I am obsequious, purple, and clairvoyant.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I don't have abundant amounts of free time, as I have an 8-5, a
weekly game, and the aforementioned 2 partners. But it's there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Talking. Silence. Being a sounding board. Finding humor
in most all situations, whether it's a good idea or not. Noticing
bad grammar. GF Italian food. House plans. Moviequotes. Making
people laugh. Helping people feel less self-conscious. Seeing the
big picture. Making pesto. Catsitting.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Hair. Curves. Laugh. That I gesticulate a lot. Kindly note that the
3rd photo of me was taken at the Zombie Ball which, despite the
makeup and purposefully non-matching PJs, I actually like. The
other 2 photos are from portfolio shoots.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like most any kind of food, and I love pairing different
foods/drinks together to get different tastes...it's one of my
favorite things to do with someone else. I am from Texas, ergo
Tex-Mex is in my blood. But I like *interesting* tastes. Being
gluten-free (not by choice) makes it a bit of challenge sometimes,
but I'm learning more ways around it.
Books: mostly non-fiction, though I do enjoy fiction that also
instructs (ala Crichton). Lots of greenbuilding books and comic
strip anthologies on my bookshelf. I used to suck down
sci-fi/fantasy by the truckload, but somehow fell out of love with
fiction. Think it's because I got a lot more interested in learning
stuff than escapism. But escapism has its place.
Speaking of escapism, movies: I hate 99.9% of TV (and in fact do
not own one), but I love movies of most any kind, and I do follow a
few series via DVD. I'm not into lowest common denominator kind of
comedy, but most any other kind is great. I'm no Hollywood snob.
I'll do explosions (by Michael Bay!).
Music: loud monotonous rap makes me want to smash speakers, most
country makes my eyes roll uncontrollably, and death metal makes me
laugh to the point of tears. (Really. Even the lowest forms of punk
had something to say. GARBLERABBLEBLOOOOOO! is not a real lyric.)
Anything else is up for grabs. I embrace my 80's past...it's stupid
music, but it's *fun* and largely devoid of angst, and fun is as
important as lyrics that make me think. I have almost every Adam
Ant song ever memorized. I dance at Elysium whenever I feel like
staying up that late, so all of those genres are good. It would
take way too much time to actually list the artists I dig. First 10
that come to mind that weren't mentioned above: the Rev Al Green,
The Cure, Enigma, Preservation Hall Jazz Band, Blondie, VNV Nation,
Juno Reactor, Icon of Coil, Moby and the Minor Mishap Marching
Band. Ask again tomorrow, get different list.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Never say never.
That being said...cats to cuddle, food to offer friends, clean soft
sheets, a shower, people to laugh with, and dreams.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Co-housing. Very interested in buying land soon that could have a
small co-housing community on it, possibly via tiny houses.
Making sure my loved ones get enough time/energy/focus.
Writing. One of my partners is a fiction writer, and I'm enjoying
learning how to do it well.
Having another small business. Because entrepreneurship is also in
my blood, along with Tex-Mex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No such thing as a typical Friday night with me. Could be with
friends. Could be on a date. Could be happily ensconced at home
with me and the cats.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have no reason to hold back much of anything. If you have a
question, ask. I like Brussels sprouts. I eat meat, but try to do
so consciously, and I was lacto-ovo for several years. I identify
as genderfluid (mostly girl, but it depends on my mood and the
people I'm with and the situation). 20W currently (down from a 24W)
and would never want to be smaller than a 14.
OK, here's one thing that I know is worth eleventybillion negative
cool points, and I wish it were different, but it's not: I can't
take listening to 60's era Miles Davis. *So* many people here whose
profiles I enjoy have him listed...and I just can't. I appreciate
his genius, I do. But that style of jazz is so chaotic that it
drives me batshit in short order.
I'm sorry. Kind of.
OK, wait. There is an actual private admitting thing to admit. I
do...*sigh* have a fondness for people with good voices speaking
foreign languages. Russian or anything Slavic (and this *soundwise*
includes Romanian) is the worst, and by worst I mean best. It's a
Fish Called Wanda thing.
Wow. I had a private thing to admit.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're looking for something more substantial than a booty call,
but less substantial than some co-dependent devoid-of-air My One
True Love Who Will Hug Me and Kiss Me and Call Me George.
You're a grownup. I'm 48. I have no time for young adult angst. I
worry sometimes I'm going to turn into a getoffmalawn old chick,
but then I think, fuck it...I want to be around mature people who
know the difference between goofy and holdmybeerandwatchthis.
You like to laugh. Moviequote whores, stand-up comedy fans and
MiSTies incorrigibly encouraged.
You have a language you love to teach. I would really like to learn
Japanese, Italian or both. And to get a lot better at ASL.
You want coffee. We'll talk. We'll have coffee. No big whoop.
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