There, it's been said. If you have a problem with ethical polyamory, best to stop now. Especially since that, as of this writing, I am dating 2 people.
Never heard of ethical poly? I hadn't either 15 years ago. In short, it involves no cheating, tons of talking, lots of work, a metric ton of Self-work, and a lot less stress over the whole "is s/he The One?" question, because it's a rare match when the other person fulfills all your romantic relationship needs. How much sex and how much romance happens between everyone is up to the people involved, like any good contract.
So what am I looking for? I want to go out with people. Talk, share ideas, laugh over stories of misspent youth, make mudpies, whatever. (Actually serious about the mudpies part - I have a keen interest in greenbuilding, including cob and adobe.) Movies are good. Coffee/tea is good. Tabletop RPGs are good. Hiking/walking is great. Laughter is what it's all about. I love sharing tales of travel. I love hearing about what you want to do with your life and what steps you're taking to do something about it, or at least how your dreams inspire you in other ways.
Have something to explore? See something cool that day? Heard a great joke? Invented the new bigger Cheez-It? (Bonus if you get the ref.) Share it with me.
Kindly do not waste my time or yours if you are a social conservative (fiscal moderates are fine), religious and feel that everyone else should believe as you do, a guru follower, hypocrite (yeah, I know ain't none of us perfect in that regard because it's built into human nature, but you learn and grow, right?), half-empty type, or judgmental beyond what is practically necessary.
I am XXFX. And data is hot.
Bisexuality: I started off being very equally bi. Came the 30's and biology, and suddenly men were looking better.
Being 40-something has distinct advantages, and not being a slave to the drives of procreation is one of them. I have missed being with a woman and would generally prefer to meet women here. But that's not saying "no way" to the right kind of man.
I am obsequious, purple, and clairvoyant.