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29 F Asheville, NC

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Today – 5:07pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
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Likes dogs and likes cats

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What I’m doing with my life
Inwardly: I am reevaluating my understanding of what it truly means to be a good friend, and the value of kindness. A lot of people may feel that these things are implicitly understood, and I used to be one of them. But the more I've examined my relationships and my life, the more I feel there is to discover. My focus at this point is to enrich my friendships, and learn new ways of being loving to both others and myself. YEAH, that sounded like a load of new-agey hullabaloo. I'd scoff too, if I were you. I'm not really into those types of books or that scene any longer, but this definitely is a concept I'm genuinely exploring right now. I think humility is one of the most vastly undervalued attributes in our culture. Which is not to say that I don't believe confidence is a virtue, it is. I just believe that true confidence springs from a humble and aware place. It is a knowledge of what you have to offer, with the understanding that it has no value without context... i.e. the gifts of the people around you. That more balanced sense of self is what I am trying to foster in myself, and certainly what I am looking for in a partner.

On a more external and obvious note: I just started going back to school, taking pre requisite courses for a program in the medical field. My background is in art, so this is a big shift for me! I've studied classical realism in painting an drawing, and I love the quiet meditation of focusing and working with my hands to create something refined. I'm fairly adept at translating what I see into an accurate 2-D representation, and derive a great deal of satisfaction from doing so.

That being said, as I've gotten older, I've begun to yearn for a certain amount of financial freedom that was never a priority for me before. I'd like to be able to travel, build a house, and have a family some day. Hence the pragmatism and going back to school for something I know will provide a stable platform for pursuing those goals.

I'm also semi recently out of a string of long term monogamous relationships, and am enjoying reassessing what I want my life to look like, how I spend my free time, and the types of endeavors and adventures I want to put energy into.

When I'm not at work or school, I love to dance, hike, and have yummy dinners with friends. Preferably all three.
I’m really good at
Drawing and painting from life, being extremely, unabashedly silly, expressing affection, finding the perfect presents for people, and I'm a reasonably good dancer.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hair. Sometimes, they probably notice that I am cracking myself up making puns that are painful to hear, and delighting in the resulting misery of those around me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A few authors:
Kahlil Gibran, Tom Robbins, George R.R. Martin, Anita Diamant, Barbara Kingsolver, Patrick Rothfuss, Haruki Murakami, some classics. I love to read.
Reading together is cozy and romantic. I'm all about it.

A few bands, etc:
most recently: Bonobo, Jose Gonzales, Lord Huron, Motopony, BOY. I enjoy a lot of what gets called "nu folk" some hip hop, old time, and bluesy stuff. I have a major soft spot for Neil Young, Cat Stevens, and Paul Simon.

Shows: GOT (obviously), Top of the Lake, Firefly, some girly stuff.

Food: Recently all I want to eat is kale salad (with LOTS of lime), avocados, eggs, salsa, tacos, blueberries, and dark chocolate. Did I mention dairy, in all of its glorious forms?
The six things I could never do without
my conscience, mountains, lush vegetation, friends/family, dancing, sunlight.
I'm adding a 7th: dreams, as in the kind you have while sleeping, not hopes/aspirations. I have very vivid and strange dreams (often with a comprehensible and linear plot), and feel they add a degree of mystery, mysticism, and poetry to my life that isn't always so noticeable in my day to day routine.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-What I want out of life and how to best facilitate that happening. -The way relationships change. -How I am a chump for not being seriously involved in sustainability. -Love and various permutations of that idea -The resilience of the human spirit, and the atrocities taking place in the world and how I feel that more intuitively than out of keeping up with current events. -Sexism, racism. -How we divide into stereotypes to create identity, often negating the very premise of that particular groups ideals. -How you can never know what someone has been through, and how pointless it is to judge people. -How fucked up the media and popular culture have become, -The impending decline of the west. -How computer culture both isolates and connects us. -Hunger...that people are starving,how I have never known real hunger except perhaps in some abstracted spiritually seeking way.

-practical problems
-all of the beautiful places I'd like to explore
-fantasizing about sleep
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 26–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You're ok with the fact that I can be extremely reticent about replying to messages. It doesn't mean I don't notice that you are nice or interesting. :)