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38 M Santa Barbara, CA

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  • Ages 26–44
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  • Who are single
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My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:59pm
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 7″ (1.71m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and has cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm creative, easy going, and mischievous when the mood strikes. I'm a dreamer, sometimes an introvert, deep down I'm an optimist. I'm fiercely loyal, hungry and ambitious, but pretty Zen about most things.

Here are things that appeal to me: The natural world, hiking, hearing a hawk scream (which incidentally is generally how I've been waking up every morning this spring, because I live in a forest on top of the mountains), hidden treasures and chance discoveries--like a particularly lovely grove of trees far off a beaten path an hour into a hike, or a delicious restaurant in an otherwise ubiquitous strip mall, an impromptu and working sing along around a fire, a trail ride on horseback, investigating an exciting club in a strange new city, a genuinely good conversation with someone about something that really rattles my cage, classic cars, live music, dive bars, learning, building, laughing, general novelty, genuine naïveté, seeking the more obscure draws in life. Do these types of things blow your skirt up too?

I love watching my cousin's children play, and playing with them, and playing with my cats, and with my pup. The more dramatic the weather, the better as far as I'm concerned. (I might feel differently if I hadn't grown up in S.B.) I get crazy-giddy and am at my happiest skulking about in an art museum, traveling anywhere--across an ocean, across county lines, drunk and laughing with old friends, spending time with select family members, or maybe involved in an art project that's incredibly bitchin, or personal.

I have my hands full with some time-sensitive pursuits. When I get the chance, I'm happy to just relax, or goof off on an adventure. If the stars align, I'm sure I'll be content to curl up with another pea in the pod indefinitely, if we find ourselves feeling especially connected, but I'm not holding my breath or expecting anything but some friendship, and fun!
What I’m doing with my life
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Lately I've gone with this policy of pushing my old boundaries, and shedding erroneous b.s. I'm deepening friendships, challenging my expectations, trying to be patient, trying not to worry, always being true to myself.

I'm laying groundwork for a bi-continental lifestyle, here and in South America. I'm planning the continued resto of my classic Chevy, reading mechanical minutia. Occasionally I'm attending my astronomy club, enjoying it & then wondering why I don't attend more-but then not attending more? I'm restoring/remodeling my house, so I'm learning on the job and enjoying it and then spending time daydreaming on the website Houzz, but alas I still don't have a spiral wine cellar in my kitchen floor.

I'm downshifting, covering some needed ground. What ever lies ahead I'm entirely comfortable letting remain a mystery. However it very well might include traveling traveling writing, filming and traveling more. I keep coming back to this ten cities in ten years idea.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making my own luck, finding the good in otherwise awful people, rational persuasion, talking to and enjoying conversations with elderly gals and gents, making someone look good in front of the camera, ignoring humility in the interest of edification. Procrastinating, being torn with indecision when faced with similarly equal products in menial purchases, executing swiftly when it comes to things that do matter.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have long hair, piercings and tattoos but I'm pretty straight-laced. It usually takes a few beats in conversation for some people to reconcile that for themselves, and I kind of like that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My all time favorite books:

God Bless You Mr. Rosewater, or Bluebeard, Vonnegut
A Door Into Summer, Heinlein
A Light In the Forest, Conrad
The Garden Of Eden, Hemmingway
Little Birds, Anais Nin
A Room With A View, E.M. Forster
All Creatures Bright & Beautiful, James Herriat

Just about everything Rick Bass writes, naturalist writers in general... biographies of artists...

Pablo Neruda's beautiful poetry.

The type of music I dig:

Bob Dylan, especially the Vaudeville/western style he's settled into. I've seen him seven times!
The Pixies, The Clash, Radiohead, Iron and Wine, Jose Gonzalez, Bon Iver, Bonnie 'Prince' Billy, Gregory Alan Isakov, Gillian Welch, Patty Griffin, Regina Spektor, Manu Chao, Massive Attack, Mazzy Star, Air, Lucinda Williams, The XX.. Thievery Corp, Nina Simone, Johnny Cash, Janes Addiction, Tool.. and so on, and so forth...

This American Life, Radiolab, Snap Judgement.

My favorite movies:

Harold & Maude and it's humanist underpinnings.
The Shining, Casa Blanca, Blow Up, The Passenger, The Party, Lost In Translation,The Lovers of the Arctic Circle... Spaghetti Westerns..

Conversely I can get interested in just about any contemporary film that doesn't use violence as it's single currency. I almost always end up falling asleep in movies if they get too senselessly violent. It's like a circuit breaker is thrown, and I'm out. I like campy 20/30 something flics like Singles, and High Fidelity, or brooding flics with Spanish or French subtitles, you know the type.

I'm not too keen on most T.V. I just can't suspend my disbelief long enough to forget that these are actors playing doctors, with the intellect to look beautiful- not mend bones, ya dig?

The way I look at it, the underlying themes lots of shows foist on us support terrible views of our sexuality, our identities, our roles in this culture, and really what our culture should be etc.. Is anybody with me? Having said that I will get off my high-horse occasionally. TV comedy is a good example. It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia is hilarious.

I'll eat and enjoy just about anything, because I'm alive and who doesn't really actually enjoy food? We are all foodies really (Unless an eating disorder is in play, in which case I'm sorry I'm probably coming across a little flippant to you). You name it, I'm there. Checking out a new restaurant makes for the start of a good date... Favorites: Macaroni and cheese, Mexican tamales, a good spicy curry, coffee ice cream... peach cobbler, just about any pie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hot water
Cold Beer
Good music
Good loving
Good food
My loved ones
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ambitions, fantasies... friends, family, film making: fate v.s. chance, the cyclic nature of life. My next tattoo, and I'm leaning towards a Buffalo currently. Sweet sweet loving. The next sojourn out of the U.S. Why my local, feral, incredibly LOUD Peacocks sound like foghorns and trumpets fucking each other? Is this nature's way of compensating for all that regalia? (Update! I've just heard on N.P.R. that they are impersonating themselves having an orgasm in order to entice Peahens. Ah. )
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Tracking down a good band to watch, at an art opening, hustling pool, washing off motor oil/grease and headed out to see where the night takes me. Rationalizing the Lakers shitty season with a good friend, geeking out in an electronics store and playing with toy helicopters.. Then again I could be half hibernating at home lost in a good book or movie, eating pistachios and drinking beer, discussing things with my puppy, cats lounging around my feet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I talk in my sleep. Startlingly legible stuff
You should message me if
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If you have a healthy sense of humor and you don't sweat the small stuff. If what you've read here strikes your fancy and you feel like making a move, no big deal!