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60 El Cerrito, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–64
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Jan 23
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Are you craving to be with a man of integrity, who listens well and values your point of view and feelings? One who is informal and non-traditional? Who enjoys hugging and kissing and physical connection? Who will support you in becoming the woman you always wanted to be? It may take a while to get to really know me, but there's gold in them thar hills!

I'm flattered that a woman wrote this to me: "I realize that the way you speak your truth and how you seem open to the mysteries all around us is what I am drawn to in you. You seem so comfortable with getting close and really showing up. I just want to tell you how refreshing and special that is for me to be around."

For the past 2 years I've been going back and forth between my long-time home in Boston and East Bay. I recently made the decision to move here and I'm now getting settled.

I originally came west to assist at personal growth workshops for the Human Awareness Institute ( and the Bay area's rich variety of growth opportunities was key in drawing me back. I'm excited by how much there is to learn out here about myself and my relationship towards others.

Given my desire to explore, experience, take in, and grow, I've come to realize that I no longer have the proverbial Long-Term Relationship as a goal. Sure, I’d welcome that if it happened, but I’ve also become open to a wider range of possibilities. An unexpected result of this approach is that I'm no longer looking at our meetings as job interviews ("Am I right for you?" "Oops, I can't live with that, you're out!"), which has been very honest, joyful, and freeing for both myself and the women I meet.

So what else can I tell you about me? My world is expanding daily and I'm growing by leaps and bounds...for me the glass is 3/4 full!

I'm in great shape and health. My friends made sure that I joined them hiking Mt. Katahdin in Maine, and it was quite a challenge in the rain - have you ever climbed up a waterfall?

For me, almost every day is filled with new adventures. A while back I solo-explored Ecuador and would love to share with you the amazing photos I took in The Galapagos. And had you joined me on the drive to CA you would have seen the over-the-top Christmas lights exhibition in Tulsa, the sun igniting the rocks in Sedona, and a light snow nestled quietly on Painted Desert.

I'm keenly aware that life is short and I'm thrilled at how I've blossomed over the past few years. I'd love for you to join me on this adventure. Where would YOUR dreams lead us?
What I’m doing with my life
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I am living my bucket list. As an accomplished and independent man I leap at life’s opportunities. There's so much I still want to do, and some special, amazing experiences that I’m saving to share with YOU.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening and sharing, sensual touch, adoring, laughing, admitting when I'm wrong, finding fun and exciting things to do. Exploring what I don't know that I don't know.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes and smile. My warmth and humor. My legs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In general, I enjoy books and movies that are really imaginative, such as Pan's Labyrinth.

Music brings me to a state of bliss, especially rock and Jambands, and also blues, jazz, classical, and folk. I love going to concerts at intimate clubs like Ashkenaz or festivals such as Dead On The Creek in Willits and JazzFest in New Orleans. I see Stu Allen frequently, as well as such varied performers as Amanda Palmer, Arlo Guthrie, Pat Metheny, Nellie McKay, Phish, Santana, and Springsteen.

Food? Italian, Mexican, Asian, bagels & pizza from NY, cheese steaks from Philly, and life would be a gustatory shadow without great ice cream!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cockapoo dog; my close friends; the love of a warm, caring, and adventurous woman; rock music and my surround sound system; warm & sunny days; vacations to exotic places; tennis.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways I can grow, music, will Obama ever fulfill his wonderful promise?, the excitement and challenges of being Enneagram Type 7. CHOOSING to be Love instead of waiting for you to do or say something that enables me to go there. Tantra has opened new doors for me; I'm looking to expand my sexual awareness and better delight both my partner and myself.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends or enjoying a concert, although I have been known to spend a quiet evening at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a bit of an "events junkie". I learned a popular acronym during my last trip to California: FOMO = Fear Of Missing Out. Seems like I'm not the only one!

Also, I've lowered my age on the profile by 3 years to open up to women who specify a younger age range. I believe most people aren't precise when stating age ranges, and I play younger than my years. If you do have a firm boundary I respect that.
You should message me if
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You are active and fun-loving, affectionate and intelligent, with a good sense of humor and a positive approach to life. You are on the road to self-discovery and will share your thoughts and feelings with me. You have an ability to be satisfied within yourself.

You have reached goals and are happy with who you are. You're independent, financially secure, and have some close, supportive friends. You realize that I can't make you happy, but that I can provide a compassionate ear and honest, caring support. Together we can enrich and bring joy to each other's lives.

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