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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:15am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Croatian (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I’ve hoped our paths would cross during our travels as we explore the world and life, but I seem to keep missing you. Lost in thought and immersed in writing at my favorite cafe I’ve occasionally looked up, hoping our eyes would meet and we’d smile, but you didn’t come today. Sitting in the park I’ve played my guitar, wanting you to hear my soul and be moved, but you must’ve been just out of earshot. I guess it’s half timing, and the other half’s luck. Wherever you are, I haven’t met you yet.

You feel like you’ve been unplugged from the Matrix that most are content remaining connected to and now you see life and the world differently, never wanting to go back. Because of that you’re awake, aware, and insatiable in your desire to explore, learn, and live to the fullest. Together we’re comfortable as we are, accepting of our wonderful imperfections, and determined to never stop evolving as individuals and as partners. Knowing that heaven is in the here and now, following the beaten path bores you; you'd rather make this a life to remember.

I’d love to meet a woman who’s intelligent, grounded, and with a kind, beautiful soul, not only to share the great events and venues of this area, but whatever strikes our fancy, wherever it may lie. You carry yourself with an unpretentious confidence, and with that you’re not afraid to be silly and playful. You're fit and feminine, sexual and sensual, and yet remote locales and getting dirty don’t faze you; we have a vast world out there to explore after all.

I moved from the NYC area to the East Bay in early September and have spent the majority of my time since setting up my life. With the basics out of the way now I'm excited to start meeting people and experiencing life here. I'm open to meeting wonderful friends, falling in love, and most anything in between. But ultimately, I want a life partner and a family of my own.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Saying yes. Getting lost so that I can find myself. Discovering what and who matters, and trying to direct more of my energy there. Life's a journey and a precious gift. We know less than we think, control less than we wish, and worry too much about things that at the end of the day don't matter as much as they seem. I want to experience life as fully as I can while doing my best to be true to myself. And I'd love someone equally awesome taking the journey with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping people feel comfortable being their true selves.
Seeing the good in people, things, and situations.
Finding beauty in the simplest of things and places.
Building and fixing things.
Learning foreign languages and feeling at ease in any culture.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I smile easily and often.
My eyes tend to look into you rather than just at you.
I'll strike up a conversation with almost anyone anywhere.
I try to be appreciative of everything and say "thank you" a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Movies: Love suspense and action movies, comedies, indie films, foreign films, dramas...
Music: A bit of almost every genre...
Food: There's not much that I won't eat...

Do you really want to read a nicely curated list of all the movies, songs, artists, and cuisines I love? Not really, right? I like a lot of things, but am also terrible at answering "What's your favorite ____?" questions. So let's just get to know each other the old fashioned way.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Mindfulness, introspection, and personal growth
New experiences of every kind
Physical and verbal affection
Curiosity and the opportunity to never stop exploring and learning
Wonder, awe, and inspiration
Optimism and the knowledge that tomorrow hasn't been written yet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My family
How to continually make myself an even better man
What else I want to experience, and how and when to make it happen
Why you're still thinking about whether or not to message me. You know you want to, so just go for it...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- are emotional available to connect on a deep, genuine level
- are fun, adventurous, curious, interesting, and open minded
- love witty banter that goes off on various tangents
- hope to eventually find a life partner and create an awesome family of your own
- felt warm and tingly reading my profile...