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22 Chicago, IL Genderqueer, Non-binary

Genderqueer, Non-binary

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 19–29
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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Black, White, Other
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly vegetarian
Trying to quit
Atheism, and laughing about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of masters program
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Russian (Poorly), Other (Okay)

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My self-summary
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anxious autistic ENFP. I really want to hang out with people I just don't fucking know how and I probably won't look you in the eye if I do figure it out

I wonder if I would get as many messages if it were immediately obvious from my pictures that I don't have the two teeth on either side of my front teeth or if I would just get different, weirder messages


I'm a grad school dropout living in Hyde Park (moving to Pilsen) and seeking to form my overrated urban tribe. let's pick a favorite pub to meet at regularly and discuss shenanigans.

I'm an academic before all else no matter what the old white dudes who won't hire me because of my hair try to tell you I live for research papers and I am a nerdy recluse

I have stronger feelings about superheroes than I do about most real people I know

I brag too much because I really want to impress everyone so they'll like me and I play up my quirks to show how cool and unique or whatever the fuck I am because I'm terrified of being boring but that's kind of fucked up too, yanno? there's nothing wrong with being boring if you're happy.

queer in both orientation and gender identity, which shouldn't be something i have to put on a profile but whatever.

i don't like that people think that i'm intimidating, and i wish that i knew what it was that makes me seem that way so that i can address it because i really like people and i want them to like me too.

i don't walk over grates in the sidewalk in the city because I've had too many nightmares about falling in and I'm afraid of butterflies I really hate them

i'm half belizean and extremely proud of this fact!!

disavow Potemkin aesthetics, beauty is irrelevant, everything is a craft supply & I will not apologize for being here

I love the power glove. It's so bad.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm Publications & Communications Coordinator for the Autistic Self Advocacy Network and an officer of the Chicago local of the Industrial Workers of the World.

Those are the only things I'm certain of.

I have a massive research project I want to embark on once I get my fucking life together. You'd probably be bored by the premise.

That, and my persistent dream to be a rapper.

[last updated 1/2015]
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
✔ taking care of people and making them feel better. my mama bear mode is hella intense.

✔ writing research papers (chicago style gang or die motherfuckers)

✔ instantly knowing what an acronym means the first time i see it (it's actually really weird how good i am at this???)

✔ knowing exactly what to say to make nerdy boys have crushes on me nigh instantaneously

✔ making bruises with stage makeup

✔ remembering tiny details that people have mentioned and then buying them really thoughtful birthday/christmas gifts reflecting that

✔ wrapping gifts

✔ opening jars

✔ writing haikus

✔ making smoothies like holy shit you would not believe how goddamn good my fruit smoothies are and sometimes i throw in protein powder/honey/spinach and kale/oatmeal just to give it that extra lil sumn sumn

✔ cultivating a weird cult following on tumblr

✔ being financially irresponsible

✔ taking unnecessarily massive amounts of selfies

✔ shamelessly using words like "selfies" and "totes adorbs"

✔ starting to do things ironically and then doing them so much that i can no longer stop

✔ being really loud

✔ unconsciously osmosing phrases that my friends use often and then getting stuck on them

✔ fucking with my diction and syntax because it makes everything more fun

✔ adding to my Pokédex of bigots that I'm poised to shut down: classists, racists, sexists, anti-Ziganists, anti-Semites, homophobes, cissexists, transmisogynists, ableists, fat shamers, etc etc if you aren't actively about dismantling oppression yr probably gonna find me annoying cuz I want equality of opportunity for everybody so everyone has the chance to be as happy as I usually am
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Pink hair, big boobs, laser vision, bear arms (which I have every right to, thank you very much).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
[warning: this section is extremely long and involved]

【books】-- [updated 1/12/15]

i usually only read nonfiction (especially historical narrative nonfiction and anything fun about social psychology)

i really like tim dorsey. really like john green. love perks of being a wallflower. Going After Cacciato is the only book i ever had to read for school that i actually read. Raw Shark Texts was really good.

i used to read a lot a lot but i have a lot of difficulty finishing books now and i used to be really embarrassed about that but it's okay to read a lot and it's okay to not read at all and if you think otherwise you are probably insecure and condescending okay

i own a shit ton of books about film history/theory and russian history. my favorite graphic novel is superman: red son and i've been pretty into new 52 flash comics lately too

also the Court of Owls/Night of Owls story arc was GREAT


my top five, in order:
1. matilda
2. boondock saints
3. school of rock
4. mean girls
5. hairspray

i like superhero movies and i hate hate hate hate scary movies with the exception of zombie movies for some reason. i like quirky wes anderson shit with cute lil soundtracks. i like movies where jason statham is under a lot of stress and i like anything kevin smith has ever been involved with and i like animated movies with talking animals and i like movies with scientifically implausible disaster scenarios and i really, really, really like anything cyberpunk-y at all

【TV shows】-- [updated 1/12/15]

I have a TV show tracker app on my phone just to keep track of all the things I'm watching.


JUST finished marathoning West Wing and Bomb Girls. Love.

current shows:
Arrow, Scandal, The Flash, Gotham, Comic Book Men, Silicon Valley

started watching, working my way through slowly and casually:
Batman Beyond (35), White Collar (9)

finished watching & loved:
Drop Dead Diva, Young Justice, Weeds, Freaks & Geeks, Undeclared, The OC, Green Lantern: The Animated Series, How I Met Your Mother, West Wing

just started from the beginning/on my list:
Static Shock, Teen Titans, The New Adventures of Superman, Batman: The Animated Series, Beware the Batman
i don't like the office and i don't like steve carrell but i appreciate that it pioneered the single camera sitcom genre because that's pretty significant

No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency is one of the best shows of all time

i watch a lot of cartoons and i really like crime and courtroom procedurals especially if i get to learn accurate jargon to deploy later to the amazement/indifference of those around me

match game 75 is my shit

i like game shows where i can learn things and i like discovery specials and when the history channel actually shows history and i like through the wormhole and every ken burns documentary and i just like to learn things in an entertaining fashion!!

【music】[updated 2/19/15]

go listen to that song I linked at the top of my profile. Moustache by Twin Twin. It's the only song I've listened to on my iPod on a 1 loop for the past month.

current faves: TNGHT, Chance the Rapper, Waka Flocka Flame, Burzum, Wavves, The Wonder Years, Ramshackle Glory, Skrillex, Knife Party, Childish Gambino, Kanye West, Twin Twin

OH AND I FORGOT TO MENTION I LOVE ONE DIRECTION LIKE KIND OF A LOT. like my bedroom when I was still at school was One Direction themed. like I own at least 11 One Direction cups and 1D toothpaste and a 1D toothbrush and a 1D tshirt and earbuds and wristband FIGHT ME

my favorite song of all time since i was six is "Send Me On My Way" by Rusted Root and my all-time favorite album is Arcade Fire's "The Suburbs" and Maroon 5's "Songs About Jane" is probably a close second

i usually listen to rap and hip hop with the occasional hipster shit thrown in and also one direction

and when i say rap and hip hop i do not mean "ya i love hip hop i listen to macklemore, asher roth, hoodie allen, mac miller, mac lethal, kreayshawn" because stop while i do enjoy a lot of that stuff i really will not trust you if you claim to like rap and all of your favorite rappers are white

elvis didn't invent rock and roll

【food】 [updated 1/12/15]

I mostly subsist off of green smoothies because idk I rarely have the motivation to make food and I honestly think of hunger and eating as annoyances that just disrupt me from focusing on whatever I'm focusing on

so I eat a lot of shitty things like dry ramen and straight up bread and minute rice with soy sauce. I'm trying to do better but it's tough.

I'm a big fan of any real Belizean food from my family (rice & beans, fry jack, johnnycakes with cheese, powder buns, fried plantains, etc etc), I go to Epic Burger often enough and idk.

since food is like kind of a hassle for me I don't have terribly refined tastes and if I go somewhere and find something I like that is guaranteed the only thing I will get from that point forward

pizza toppings: double pineapple, tomatoes, barbecue sauce, spinach

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. my constantly growing network of friends/weirdos/adventurers
4. One Direction
5. my meds real talk I'm so annoying off them I just curl up and frown a lot and scream at the ceiling out of frustration occasionally
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

-what part of my research project to try to focus on

-seriously, superheroes

-my future rap career

-what kind of person I want to become so I can try to figure out a concrete plan of action for getting there

-why I never follow through on these plans

-why my hair doesn't just grow out of my head pink at this point

-why i'm so fed up with people who supposedly share the same political views as me
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
reading DC comics or playing DCUO or watching DCU tv shows or reading DC comics wikias or retconning my own life to exist in the DCU according to my Facebook profile

And/or having an existential crisis, crying, etc
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I founded my college's Magic: the Gathering club and then was too socially awkward to show up to most of the meetings if that's any indication of what a bossed up bitch I am

also I'm autistic as fuck and sleep with a 25 pound blanket and have a dog toy I chew on to help with sensory regulation and sometimes I do weird things with my hands because [AUTISM INTENSIFIES]

okay, but forreal, I have PTSD among other things and I have horrible episodes where I lose the ability to speak

so just... keep that in mind, I guess?
You should message me if
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you're an anarcho communist who likes laughing at ancaps

you want to help me make OkCupid bingo (including "I guess I'm a laid back type" and "I like to have fun")

you want to hear me rant about why the proscenium theatre space is antiquated and oppressive

you live on the south side of the city

you don't mind that i'm fucking socially inept and flaky

you have no intention of making me your clementine ramona flowers manic pixie dream girl

you get me

you wanna see pix of my superhero-themed kitchen

thanks to kanye's workout plan you're the envy of all your friends

your vocabulary includes words like "misogynoir"

you truly rep the #BASED lifestyle no fake based

you wanna give me money or buy me steam games

you have really strong feelings about the DC animated universe

you wanna give me a topic to write a rap about so I have motivation to be creative

you like to party with sluts