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31 Melbourne, Australia Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21-99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 17
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Wearer of silly hats, misser of buses, teller of bad jokes and narrator of pointless anecdotes. Cynical optimist, frequent hedonist, more or less incorrigible. I'm quite all right when I'm not being a nuisance.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making things (though I am irrationally annoyed by the use of craft as a verb), walking places, and trying to fit my million-and-one hobbies around work. Taking naps that are sometimes voluntary. Drinking endless mugs of tea. Watering an increasingly impractical number of potted plants. Having a socially acceptable number of existential crises.

I like to make things using either food, words or long pieces of string, but sometimes I use paper, clay and other sundry things. I love music, but get bashful talking about it. I'm a bit obsessed with eating and drinking, and on good days I will also make merry. I love to travel, and make every attempt to do it often.

Words make me happy; I like to read them, arrange them, and sometimes rearrange them too. I do a lot of other things too. Things are great. I enjoy things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making mundane things fun, or so I'm told. And why not? You have to go grocery shopping at some point, so why not have a supermarket adventure?

I have an odd tendency to make up mini-games to make life more interesting. Can I put all my groceries in my bag before I get a second ‘Please collect your items’ from the self check out machine? CHALLENGE! Can I swipe my work security ID without using my hands? LET’S FIND OUT! It’s probably annoying.

This quiz: (not that I do it over and over again or anything... perish the thought)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height. Or my tendency to crack jokes when I'm feeling awkward (so, you know, all of the time).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Urgh, my list making habit really does not require further enabling.

Books: I have a definite penchant for the fantasy genre, but my tastes are much broader than that. My favourite writers are Margaret Atwood, Haruki Murakami, A.S. Byatt, Ursula Le Guin, Paolo Bacigalupi, Steph Swainston, Robin Hobb, Italo Calvino, Kurt Vonnegut, China Mieville, Sonya Hartnett, J.K. Huysman, Milton Hatoum, Henry Miller. And a bucket more. Non-fiction too, from time to time.

Movies/TV: Oh, I don't know, I have been bad at this lately. Off the top of my head: Kill Bill Vol. 1 and 2, District 9, Secretary, The Princess Bride, Starship Troopers, Nausicaa and the Valley of the Wind, Alien, Battle Royale, The Grand Budapest Hotel, the original Star Wars films, Parks and Recreation, Game of Thrones, Cosmos (old and new), Breaking Bad, Rome, True Detective, Blake’s 7, Hornblower, Tipping the Velvet, 30 Rock, Peep Show, etc. Anything with David Attenborough. I accidentally typed “Krill Bill” – now THAT would be a good film. I have Seachange on DVD and I'm not embarrassed about it (much). I also watch a bit of anime from time to time.

Music: I like a lot of things, but the moment I am listening to lots of: the Mountain Goats, the Appleseed Cast, Bon Iver, Leonard Cohen, Of Monsters and Men, Stars, Moving Mountains, the Antlers, Subaudition, the National, Florence + the Machine, Hellsongs, Sigur Ros.

Computer games: I'm trying to branch out a bit more. For a long time I played pretty much only RTS games (my love for Starcraft will never die, and I am, embarrassingly, still playing Age of Empires II), but I am also partial to the Diablo series, Bioshock Infinite, a couple of the Final Fantasy games, and frittering my time away on Don't Starve. And courtesy of a recent bout of glandular fever (or more specifically, the resulting need for sedentary hobbies), I am currently a little too obsessed with the Dragon Age series.

Food: "Everything" would actually be a blatant lie, given the whole vegetarianism thing and all. But perhaps the initial impulse to opt for that response gives a good indication of my enthusiasm towards food. I am an unapologetic hedonist when it comes to food. I see cooking and eating awesome food as one of the absolute easiest ways to improve my quality of life; you have to eat anyway, so why not do it magnificently?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, tea, solitary walks (usually with headphones), notepad (plotting), intelligent conversation (sobriety not mandatory), dessert.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Arranging words in pleasing ways. Cenotes. Arranging coloured string in pleasing ways. Food. Relationships. Symbiosis. How to convince myself to get more sleep. Identity. Subcultures and their trappings. Build orders. Anagrams. Fish. Yeah, I’m pretty keen on fish.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with excellent friends, eating/drinking and solving the world's problems. I nearly wrote "solving the worlds' problems" and in some ways I like that better.

Or sometimes not doing anything. I am officially past the point in my life where I feel self-conscious about staying home on Friday nights. Quality time with myself is actually pretty great.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really love the Safety Dance. Not in an ironic way. I love it for realsies.

As you may have noted, I am in an open relationship. Which is somewhat surprising, given that I am a bit given to introversion and typically need a lot of time to myself, lest I go completely mad. I suppose that non-monogamy is something that people do for a wide range of reasons, and mine mainly boil down to an appreciation for my own independence and the freedom to pursue new things (or not) when I am of the inclination to do so.

But seriously, why would I admit something private in this space, and give perfectly good social currency away for free?!
You should message me if
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You think we can have either a halfway decent rapport or a bit of a laugh, or you can tell me all about things that are interesting. As the status implies, I'm currently exploring the whole non-monogamous relationship thing (my partner in crime and frequent ingestion of cake is the rather marvellous Saktoth). So if you're navigating the murky, shark-infested waters of this site with monogamy as a non-negotiable point, I am not your girl. But if not, I'm easy going, am always looking for people willing to accompany me in my attempts to eat my bodyweight in dumplings, and... I like the Oxford comma?