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ruffley

42 / M / Straight / Single

Los Angeles, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:34pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism but not too serious about it
Sign
Aquarius but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Medicine / Health
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hi, thanks for looking at my profile. I know every woman here gets a zillion unsolicited responses from here and I just want to say I appreciate you taking mine. Ive lived all over the country and to some interesting parts of the world too but it has been good to be home for the last few years. I am a local, born and raised in the Hollywood Hills. I havent seen Bob Seger around lately but my Hollywood nights up here are pretty quiet with a great view nearby.
What I’m doing with my life
I earned my MA in Psychology last year. I work as a psychotherapist. Ive worked with children and adults with serious mental health problems. I learned a lot from all of the people I worked with in this profession and others. Previously I have worked as a sports radio announcer. Most of my radio career was as a baseball radio announcer in CT, MN and most recently in Kansas. It was a great creative outlet, being able to paint a word picture 140 games a year of what I saw but the long butt numbing bus rides were getting to be too much. It was great seeing so much of the country but I was glad to get back to LA and find a career where I can help people. I think my communication skills work in both fields and in relationships
I’m really good at
Im good at relating to people, being supportive and expressing my feelings when I have to. Im good with verbal communication but I can slap a bit of syntax together too. There is always room for improvement on those topics and more. I am good at discussing emotional issues, something I have to be careful about from my work since you have to be able to turn the shrink button off too. I have spent a lot of time on myself and its helped me do that as a career. I am a good communicator but I am also excellent at listening too. I love meeting new people and helping the good friends I have.
The first things people usually notice about me
My teeth for some reason. Well I know the reason, I had braces for 7 years which kept me from getting my first kiss for almost ever. I also get a lot of compliments on my hair and Im the dumbass who has a hat in my picture, ugh. I need to get some more photos. I think its hard to talk about that, what other people like about you, they usually can come up with better answers than myself. I usually get compliments on my sense of humor, my ability to talk to people, being outgoing and caring.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love movies, especially old ones. My family used to work in the movie business and have many wonderful stories in our history. I love to read, mostly mysteries, especially ones set in LA. On TV, I mostly watch sports and movies, but I also look for interesting documentaries and the occasional series, like Curb Your Enthusiasm. I love all kinds of food, its great to try new things, especially Asian.
The six things I could never do without
Movies- from many sources, like DVDs with a lot of good extras, cable and the great theatres we have in LA. I love knowing more about a movie I really like.
Sports-Its a great way to get together with friends and it keeps me in touch with people I know from that industry. I also like to play basketball and exercise.
Books- I like to have something going at all times, mystery and history best.
Music- I love many kinds, especially jazz, soul and some other fun music of my youth.
Museums- There are so many new ones in L.A. I like being exposed to new cultural events and ideas.
Meeting new people-I love to find events and try to find people with common interests everywhere.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
This may sound self centered, but I do like to think about way to improve myself and how I can interact better with society. I have spent a lot of time recently learning a lot about mindfulness. I have also taught it to many clients. I think about people who are close in my life and reach out to see how they are doing often. I care about politics, current events, local issues and ways that I can be a productive member of society.
On a typical Friday night I am
I like to meet friends for happy hour somewhere, so many great places in town. I like to see if there are some interesting games on. I also like to meet someone new if the opportunity presents itself. Sometimes the best way to meet is for something quick and causal, not a full blown date from meeting here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hmm, I have been to psychotherapy and its been very helpful. I think a lot of people in my profession could learn a lot from being a patient too, but not many go that far. I learn a lot by being on the couch, not just looking at someone on it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Message me if you would like to have a meaningful conversation on a wide variety of topics. If you like to have someone to share you life with, I know I miss it a lot and feel everything is better in a relationship. I hope to hear from you soon.