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rumiboy

43 Sebastopol, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 14
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Whoa, I keep bumping into walls in here. I was just looking at the 'Questions', and I kept skipping them because... because the answer is always complicated. Sex or true love. What? Both! Normal or weird. Um, depends on who you ask? Sleep with someone on the first date. What kind of trick question is that? For sure that one time I wouldn't do differently...

Then I went to look at 'My Details' imagining all the little witticisms I could embed in my answers, but no... No, no, I only get to choose from limited options... The only answer I'm really happy with is 'Education'.

Okay, so here's my first pass at answers:

Ethnicity: Californian
Diet: Leaning toward paleo locavore at the moment
Religion: "This place where you are right now, God circled on a map for you" -Hafiz
Job: This week involves too much concern about a cash flow forecast.
Income: Enough.
Offspring: No, but I have three beautiful nieces and a beautiful goddaughter, and the older ones just want money for Christmas, but the younger ones still love those magical gifts in big boxes. Though when I was in Toys R Us I was so excited about all the cool toys for little boys and was feeling some longing...

Ahhh, that's a little better... I think I was a little claustrophobic in here at first. I just needed a little more room to spread out.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
(so I put this profile up a couple of years back, and in just returning to it, I'm realizing that some of the references are a bit dated. For instance, the last movie I saw was Birdman. (Fantastic!) But I'm not so good about keeping up on my alternet ego, so until I feel super inspired, I'll let it be.)

(And I realize, sitting with this a few days, that now I'd write a different profile--shorter, simpler, quieter--I'd point to different aspects of myself--the part that is solid, the part that yearns. I'd be less irreverent. I am those as well.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
not putting the right essay in the right box.

So... After my initial mildly traumatic confrontation with the 'Questions' here, I did go back and answer some of the easier questions. Now I have my little flowchart back from OkCupid that handily boils down all the complexity and nuance of whom I'd date down to three issues: doesn't do hard drugs, won't make me watch horror movies, and won't force me to eat only bean sprouts and squash.

Now this could be depressing, having the critical decision-making junctures of my psyche mapped out into a flowchart by a robot, but I'm choosing to view it this way: I'm really open-minded about whom I'd date! Other than a few picky little items--the horror movie issue being most important--I'm pretty easy-going.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not sure about favorites, but here are some recents: Marilynne Robinson's Gilead, Star Trek into Darkness, Cormac McCarthy's The Road, Mud, the spicy turmeric squid plate at Camino, Lincoln, Goethe's Faust (must be better in German), David Mitchell's Cloud Atlas, Argo, Julian Barnes' The Sense of an Ending, coca-leaf sours and ceviche, Machu Picchu, Irving Stone's Agony and Ecstasy (which keeps reminding me of the Hall & Oates song), The Dark Knight Rises, these fantastic spiced Mediterranean meatballs in a harissa-pomegranate sauce (nom, nom, nom), Mark Johnston's Saving God, fantastic Margherita pizza with buffalo mozzarella...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
For some reason, everytime I log on to OKCupid, I start to worry about whether Kierkegaard was a Knight of Faith or a Knight of Infinite Resignation in regards to Regine. What of his breaking of their engagement? Faith? Resignation? And I worry for him, for his writing of two books to her in explanation, only to have her announce her engagement to another.

And through some twisty subterranean tunnel of my mind this relates to OKCupid...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, definitely not the most private thing I'm willing to admit, but yesterday, I was listening to the radio and kind of thinking about the fact that I hadn't listed any music on my profile. Partly, it's awkward, because the truth is that I've been listening to classical music lately, which... well, right. Hard to show how cutting edge I am when Sunday Baroque is my favorite radio program, and Franz Schubert is my favorite songwriter of the moment.

Anyway, so I'm listening to the radio yesterday, when the latest Bruno Mars song comes on. And I'm just about to change the station (because come on, who likes Bruno Mars?) when I come to the embarrassing and undeniable realization that I love Bruno Mars! And as I sit there, ashamed and bemused, trying to figure out how this could possibly be, I realized how it could be--the part of me that loves Bruno Mars is the same part of me that loves Journey.

And, yes, I understand--Steve Perry is one of those singers that people either love or hate--rarely is anyone luke-warm. Thus, my hesitation in admitting this publicly.

I'm still sort of stunned, honestly...
You should message me if
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You know of a fantastic restaurant that you want to go try, or want to go see a movie, or want to go hike up a mountain, or need a belay partner. Or aren't sure whether you should message me back. Or suggest an adventure.