Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Whoa, I keep bumping into walls in here. I was just looking at the
'Questions', and I kept skipping them because... because the answer
is always complicated. Sex or true love. What? Both! Normal or
weird. Um, depends on who you ask? Sleep with someone on the first
date. What kind of trick question is that? For sure that one time I
wouldn't do differently...
Then I went to look at 'My Details' imagining all the little
witticisms I could embed in my answers, but no... No, no, I only
get to choose from limited options... The only answer I'm really
happy with is 'Education'.
Okay, so here's my first pass at answers:
Diet: Leaning toward paleo locavore at the moment
Religion: "This place where you are right now, God circled on a map
for you" -Hafiz
Job: This week involves too much concern about a cash flow
Offspring: No, but I have three beautiful nieces and a beautiful
goddaughter, and the older ones just want money for Christmas, but
the younger ones still love those magical gifts in big boxes.
Though when I was in Toys R Us I was so excited about all the cool
toys for little boys and was feeling some longing...
Ahhh, that's a little better... I think I was a little
claustrophobic in here at first. I just needed a little more room
to spread out.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
(so I put this profile up a couple of years back, and in just
returning to it, I'm realizing that some of the references are a
bit dated. For instance, the last movie I saw was Birdman.
(Fantastic!) But I'm not so good about keeping up on my alternet
ego, so until I feel super inspired, I'll let it be.)
(And I realize, sitting with this a few days, that now I'd write a
different profile--shorter, simpler, quieter--I'd point to
different aspects of myself--the part that is solid, the part that
yearns. I'd be less irreverent. I am those as well.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
not putting the right essay in the right box.
So... After my initial mildly traumatic confrontation with the
'Questions' here, I did go back and answer some of the easier
questions. Now I have my little flowchart back from OkCupid that
handily boils down all the complexity and nuance of whom I'd date
down to three issues: doesn't do hard drugs, won't make me watch
horror movies, and won't force me to eat only bean sprouts and
Now this could be depressing, having the critical decision-making
junctures of my psyche mapped out into a flowchart by a robot, but
I'm choosing to view it this way: I'm really open-minded about whom
I'd date! Other than a few picky little items--the horror movie
issue being most important--I'm pretty easy-going.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not sure about favorites, but here are some recents: Marilynne
Robinson's Gilead, Star Trek into Darkness, Cormac McCarthy's The
Road, Mud, the spicy turmeric squid plate at Camino, Lincoln,
Goethe's Faust (must be better in German), David Mitchell's Cloud
Atlas, Argo, Julian Barnes' The Sense of an Ending, coca-leaf sours
and ceviche, Machu Picchu, Irving Stone's Agony and Ecstasy (which
keeps reminding me of the Hall & Oates song), The Dark Knight
Rises, these fantastic spiced Mediterranean meatballs in a
harissa-pomegranate sauce (nom, nom, nom), Mark Johnston's Saving
God, fantastic Margherita pizza with buffalo mozzarella...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
For some reason, everytime I log on to OKCupid, I start to worry
about whether Kierkegaard was a Knight of Faith or a Knight of
Infinite Resignation in regards to Regine. What of his breaking of
their engagement? Faith? Resignation? And I worry for him, for his
writing of two books to her in explanation, only to have her
announce her engagement to another.
And through some twisty subterranean tunnel of my mind this relates
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, definitely not the most private thing I'm willing to admit,
but yesterday, I was listening to the radio and kind of thinking
about the fact that I hadn't listed any music on my profile.
Partly, it's awkward, because the truth is that I've been listening
to classical music lately, which... well, right. Hard to show how
cutting edge I am when Sunday Baroque is my favorite radio program,
and Franz Schubert is my favorite songwriter of the moment.
Anyway, so I'm listening to the radio yesterday, when the latest
Bruno Mars song comes on. And I'm just about to change the station
(because come on, who likes Bruno Mars?) when I come to the
embarrassing and undeniable realization that I love Bruno Mars! And
as I sit there, ashamed and bemused, trying to figure out how this
could possibly be, I realized how it could be--the part of me that
loves Bruno Mars is the same part of me that loves Journey.
And, yes, I understand--Steve Perry is one of those singers that
people either love or hate--rarely is anyone luke-warm. Thus, my
hesitation in admitting this publicly.
I'm still sort of stunned, honestly...
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