Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I consider myself a passionate, self-deprecating man who doesn't
take himself too seriously. To any relationship, I try to bring
humor and silliness, combined with warmth and a willingness to show
my affection in any way I can. I enjoy expressing my romantic side
in ways both small and big.
I love a good conversation, a relationship of continued mutual
curiosity, and simply the comfort and affection of shared
I try to be both passionate and compassionate about anything I do.
My values and political views are important to me, and I'm not a
big believer that opposites attract in that respect.
I'm flawed. I wish I were less impatient at times. I can be too
moody and more cynical than I have a right to be. Oh, and I'm not a
fix-it guy. You love a man who can rebuild the third floor on a
Sunday afternoon? So do I. I can change a fuse.
I'm also a firm believer in the warmth of openly expressed
affection — the touch of hands, a hug at any time, knuckles brushed
lightly across a face, a touching of foreheads. So, if that sort of
thing makes you uncomfortable, well, give me a call anyway, and
I'll try to change your mind.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living life as a new New Yorker, fortunate to be working in a
position I like very much, and taking my sweet golden retriever for
walks in the park.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing and editing, making (most) people laugh, forgetting things,
napping, spilling things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My sense of humor (or not), long eyelashes (maybe), nasally upstate
New York accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books — pretty much anything written by T.C. Boyle; some great
reads include "The Imperfectionists," by Tom Rachman, "Major
Pettigrew's Last Stand," by Helen Simonson, and "The Post-Birthday
World," by Lionel Shriver; love non-fiction, too. Now reading
"Fear," a translated First World War novel by the French author
Gabriel Chevallier, and "Preparation for the Next Life," a novel by
Theater — any live theater, really. The immediacy and visceral
impact appeal to me. Loved "Buyer & Cellar," funny and
poignant, about actor living in Barbra Streisand's basement.
Music — the blues (the screaming electric kind), funk, R&B,
rock, Southern Culture on the Skids, classical, some jazz. In the
grip of a funk mode at the moment.
Food — Anything from a great enchilada to Beijing duck. A lot of
stuff I shouldn't ... bacon (maybe the single tastiest thing on the
planet), peanut butter, a great cheeseburger, chocolate milkshake,
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My two children, a good book, a laptop or a pad and pen, music,
something to laugh about, ice cream. Wait, that's seven. Oh, and my
reading glasses. And peanut butter. Geez, what about my dog?
Coffee, coffee, can't leave that out. A good expletive. Hope.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
something forgotten or misplaced. I know it's here somewhere
... and my children's well-being. And relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My second toe is longer than my "big" toe.
You should message me if
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