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38 Tempe, AZ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–42
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a bit of a mix with a nice mixture of complimentary but contrasting elements.

I've moved around a lot. The more exciting sounding places I've lived are probably Paris and Honolulu, but I've spent more time in Arizona than anywhere. I'm open to settling down in the right place but I've got enough constraints in terms of what I want that nowhere will be ideal. I like warm weather, the ocean (especially warm / tropical waters), and I love thunderstorms. I don't go very often but I also love snowboarding.

I'm in the process of starting a company which means I should stick around wherever I end up for awhile. At the moment, I'm traveling around a bit looking (if you have any suggestions there, I'm interested).

I'm very laid back and relaxed (though I do tend to work all the time). Even when I was a teaching my class at Arizona State University, I'd wear shorts. I'll wear pants when necessary for social convention or the weather, but I'd generally rather avoid them if at all possible.

I love rock climbing and vinyasa flow yoga, though it drives me nuts when the instructors get too deeply into metaphysics and quasi-religion. I'm very non-religious which I consider to be a bit stronger of a statement than to say that I'm an atheist because beyond being aware and acknowledging that religion is a big deal for lots of people, it doesn't actually register to me as a thing, and talking or thinking about it feels a bit absurd. That said, I do try to be respectful of other people's superstitions so long as they're not actively causing harm, and I'm generally not interested in the subject (though I definitely don't mind when comedians bring it up in an amusing way).

My taste is fairly spartan and I try to not own too many things. As I write this, I'm sitting in my sister's apartment which is full of way too much stuff, but left to my own devices, my place will almost feel empty to most people. As long as it's not encroaching on me, I don't mind decorations and having things around, but I need to have open space and room to work.

I don't think of myself as a very clean person, but my last roommate in Paris made me realize that I actually am at least somewhat because I was really bothered by chronically having dirty dishes in the sink.

It'd be nice to find a romantic partner here but I'm content just meeting new friends. I'm pretty open in terms of the sort of person I'm looking for but being smart, rational, and able to both form and defend her own opinions are a must - as is being able to recognize when she is wrong learn from her mistakes (being a «flip-flopper» may be a scathing criticism in politics, but I think being rigidly locked in a particular mindset regardless of any evidence is far worse).

Ideally, she would like rock climbing and be content with doing that more in the gym than outside, but I'm quite flexible and having our own separate activities is also a good thing so I'm not too picky. It'd be nice if we could go snowboarding together at least a couple of times a year, but, again, I'm pretty open.

I'm willing to try most things at least once (though there are at least a few things that I know I don't like; in particular, things like a club setting with obnoxiously loud music).

Probably not obvious but I also have a tendency to write too much which somehow kicks in on things like this where brevity would be better whilst shutting down completely when I was writing my dissertation.
What I’m doing with my life
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I was a research professor in High Performance Computing at Arizona State but I was getting paid well for doing things that I didn't feel like mattered, and I got sick of seeing tuition skyrocketing mostly being used to pay administrators $100-$200k / year who seemed to get in the way more than help, so I quit [/editorialization]

I'm in the process of starting up a company and trying to figure out where I want to set up shop for at least the next ~5 years. In the meantime, I'm spending most of my time in LA (where my mom and sister live) but bouncing between the Bay area and Phoenix.
I’m really good at
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I'm great at solving problems and learning new things.. though I tend to fall short at the crucial bit of bringing things to fruition because I get bored easily and want to move on to the next problem before I'm quite finished with the previous (though somehow despite that I did manage to complete my dissertation and I'm generally improving at getting things done).
The first things people usually notice about me
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Even after giving it some thought, I don't actually know.. I'll have to start asking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I like non-fiction more than fiction but am pretty open about books.

I love comedy and good action movies. There are many that I like but The Princess Bride is one of my favorites, as is «Joe Versus the Volcano» (I don't claim that it's a great film but I enjoy it a lot). I hate slasher porn like Saw.

When I was younger, I used to watch a lot of television but now I'm somewhat indifferent about shows. I think my all time favorite is Quantum Leap (Code Quantum for the French). Outside of English, I like Bref (not quite a series but still) and Srugim quite a bit. Of the ones on the air more recently, I'm partial to Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Real Time, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Sherlock, Breaking Bad, House of Cards, Louie, SNL, Blacklist, Elementary and How I Met Your Mother, to name a few.

Listening to radio stations on Spotify has recently taught me that I prefer rock and alternative more than most genres but I enjoy lots of different kinds of music. There aren't many genres that I couldn't find something I'd enjoy in (though that doesn't mean that country is exactly a wellspring for me).

My favorite foods are spicy (both in the flavorful and piquant senses). I adore Mexican, Thai, and Indian. I enjoy meat but I'd rather have at least some vegetables (ideally lots). So long as there is variety though, I'll eat most things (within reason).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Shelter, clothing, the chance to relax, challenges, my computer, my dog.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whatever I'm working on at the time. How to solve problems. What I'll focus on next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not feeling compelled to do anything specific.

I enjoy going out for drinks, to dinner, or a movie and being around people (though I hate clubs), but I'm perfectly content to just stay home as well.

Recently (and for the foreseeable future) I'm working more often than not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My favorite thing about OK Cupid so far is just answering questions and reading other people's explanations.
You should message me if
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Aside from the obvious (something about my profile made you think I might be worth saying «hi» to), message me if you're interesting and interested in / curious about things and people.

If you've never gone climbing before and would like to try it out with someone who is friendly and supportive, or if you're just looking for a good conversation (online or over coffee).

In the interest of full disclosure: as far as dating goes - I'm quite busy and am actually pretty ok being on my own. It's not that I'm not looking for someone so much as that I'm not looking for just anyone. If we meet and hit it off, I'd love to find a partner but there's no expectation or pressure there. If you think there's a chance we might complement each other and fit well together, then it'd be great to hear from you. I'm always up for meeting people, though.