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24 Washington, DC Genderqueer, Trans Woman

Genderqueer, Trans Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jul 23
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and laughing about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), LISP (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Trying in vain to figure it all out. All of it. I'm into elegant and poetic systems, moving works, curious phenomena, and just about everything else.

When I'm not engrossed in someone or some concept I take deep enjoyment in less abstract things. I have a great love for music, and like to enjoy nature frequently.

Some of my favorite moments in life are when I can take something and finally see the principles and structures at it's core, the network diagram that represents a web of economics relationships, or the algorithm that determines the growth pattern of a tree.

On the other hand, some of my other favorite moments in life are when that kind of clear analytical understanding of a thing are totally out of my grasp. Listening to a song for the 12th time in a row because it's that amazing, sitting on a quiet mountaintop hearing the wind and little else, or simply being with those you love.
What I’m doing with my life
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Implementing ideals. Figuring out how to balance all the things I care about, and pursue them as best as possible.

For whatever reason, I'm no longer on the degree -> career -> settling down life track, and it's been the best thing that ever happened to me. Right now I'm levelling up, and working to be the person I need to be to do what I want.

More literally, I serve coffee during the day, nerd out in many directions in the afternoons (books, linux, tumblr, sex, etc.), and dance Samba on the weekends!

It became clear to me recently that as much as I wish it weren't the case, my life is not driven by any abstract goal, such as the pursuit of knowledge, artistic beauty, or music, as much as I do love all of those things. The most important thing to me are the people in my life and my relationships with them.

In the long term, my goal is to empower the voluntary restructuring of society to a more equitable and efficient state through the creation of philanthropic software. This is now what I am doing today, tomorrow, or the day after that, unfortunately.

Right now, my primary focus is my gender transition (full-time), and finding enough stability to put work into the future. More momentarily, I spend a lot of time on exploring media of as many forms as possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking critically, getting really engaged in something I'm interested in, talking with kids, and I'd like to think I can be pretty funny, in my own nerdy way.

I have a particular love of "semantic specificity and linguistic efficiency" (sometimes to the point of impenetrability...)

A skill that I've been pretty intent on developing, and starting to get decent at, is maintaining a healthy level of self-criticism, being able to understand the assumptions that ground my perspective, and seek the perspective of others to correct it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Starting my transition, so...

Otherwise, that I'm pretty tall, and people tend to say I'm confident, sometimes overly so. Once we start talking, you may notice that if you bring the subject around to something I'm interested, whether it's philosophy of mind, moral foundations, mechanical keyboards, or anything subject to sufficiently unnecessary analysis, I'll have trouble restraining myself to usual levels of conversational excitement. The only thing better is if it's something *you* love that I have no idea about! Please, explain your nerdy thing to me for hours, it's just my favorite dynamic in the world.

A few months ago my sister's roommate told her that my sister and I both hum almost all the time when we're doing things. It seems I have been doing this for years and had no idea. So I guess I really have no idea what I'm like!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I can only answer with what I've been interested in recently, and a scattershot sampling of what I can remember. My tendency is to read something, internalize the message/content and move on. If you ask me about something specific I could probably tell you though!

A couple books/authors I like are:
Pihkal, Audiocultures, Stanislaw Lem, Hyperion, Burns, Kim Stanley Robinson, Charles Stross, Ray Bradbury, Mervyn Peake
But goodreads is becoming an increasingly accurate representation of my reading:

In general, I like books that help me ask questions, be they feminist non-fiction, academic works, science fiction, or otherwise.

Have some movies: I'm Here, Holy Mountain, Upstream Color, Airplane, Holy Motors, Timecrimes, Duck Soup. Starting to curate my movie watching at (my ambitions are more representative than my hazy memory of what I've watched)

A few genres I like are hip-hop, ambient/experimental, sludge metal, folk/indie/musicistealfromfriends, and jazz. A couple artists I like are Fuck Buttons, Das EFX, zeroh, Brian Eno, The Books, Sharon van Etten, knxwledge. For a complete list of shibboleths, see: and

Foodwise, my favorite thing in the world is cooking new dishes, and learning new techniques. That being said, I always come back to Indian food. Yum.

Games: Journey, DoTA 2, Fez, Endless Legend, Myst, Proteus, Rayman
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Someone to talk to
Something to read
Something to learn
Something to listen to
Somewhere I'm going
Some idea how to get there

Less abstractly:
A Go board
A book
The sketchy eastern european website that lets you access academic journals for free
A gas stove
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Anything and everything. The algorithms and process underlying all around us, linguistics, sociology, semiotics, gender theory, theory of mind, how people change their minds, how to define the self in face of change, and so much more. A lot of the time though, just how to be *better*.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching the weirdest movie I can find and talking bullshit with some friends, enjoying a great new album, sitting somewhere outside that's unjustifiably pretty, or reading a book while listening to new music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not actually very big on secrets/privacy, as I think they undermine the honesty and sincerity I value in myself, so what I do keep secret is for good reason.

I've had trouble controlling my alcohol and cannabis intake before, and quit both in March.
You should message me if
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You have a pet-peeve philosophy, a favourite album or album of the week, or you can help me decide between long lists of movies, books, or music to listen to.

Spending like, five hours at a museum mostly pointing and smiling sounds like a blast.

You want to keep sente.