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32 F Healdsburg, CA

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Last Online
Today – 9:45am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I often think of ways to poignantly describe myself on this profile, when I'm cooking, or hunting for treasures at Goodwill, or sitting on my back porch, and then I, a) forget my witty epiphany, b) hesitate to write it for fear of sounding cliche, c) am not comfortable being quite that open with strangers or d) all or none of the above

My desire for closeness, raw intimacy and earth shaking passion seem to go hand in hand with my fears of being-seen, risking my freedom and losing all sense of control. I have dedicated the majority of the last 15 years of my life to the pursuits of knowledge, adventure, love and self-awareness. I've been relatively successful and supremely blessed, yet have done so mostly independently. Nowadays I am feeling the growing urge to have a companion in life. A real companion. For fun, comfort, sweetness and romance, as well as deep reflection, growth, and commitment. (See how I put commitment in with the part where the "stuff" comes up.... I struggle with this.... I promise I will run away at times, but I'll be hoping that you'll come looking for me, and I'll be reasonable once my mind is cleared by a good run).

I hope I'm capable of the kind of lifelong commitment and true love that I have seen between my grandparents and even my own parents. Yet I know that the match for me will be a healthy balance of traditional and free spirited. I'm not "into" the poly vibe, yet have a healthy skepticism about the "naturalness" of lifelong monogamy. From what I have seen, it ultimately comes down to free will and personal choices (for those with such privileges). I'd like to give it a try with some brave soul.

Here are a few random tidbits about me:
I like to swing on swings of all kinds, I embroider and have collected a substantial wardrobe which I intend to upcycle, I am a sucker for organic and hemp textiles, my favorite soap is Dr. Bronners. I like it when a man walks on the street side of the sidewalk and I am even happier if we are holding hands.

One of my favorite earthly delights is rock hopping, and lounging, at the river. Maybe I was a river mermaid in some other life?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Grounding out, connecting more to my roots, expanding my horizons, making new friends in the area, getting more organized, sifting and sorting through what to keep in my life and what to let go of or add in, reconnecting with my creativity, upcycling clothes, and helping my bro and his lady with their twin babies!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Eating slowly
Being inconsistent
Writing with my left hand
Saying things that cause awkward pauses in conversations
Making up original songs to narrate the moment, for babies (and occasionally adults)
Clasping little tiny necklace findings behind my head without a mirror
Making new friends quickly whenever I move to a new place
Sharing helpful insights with friends who appreciate my opinion
Passionately stating my opinion in a way that my audience completely rejects my idea (most commonly with my family)
Feeling super sensitive about rejection
Staying up way too late
High-grading the Goodwill (that's the hipster gem-world term for picking out the best quality articles quickly)
Keeping good friends for life
Being super duper loyal
Being painfully quiet or (self)annoyingly chatty -*now*- (the dilemma of the Taurus-geminin cusper)....
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It really depends on who is looking at me... And what kind of mood I'm in, and what kind of clothing style I chose that day, not to mention what country I'm in.... But if I'm smiling, that'd probably be the one, my smiling-eyes game-changing smile:)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to become who I know I can be
How to approach conversations in a way that will be effective
How to make a positive impact on the outcome of the child refugee crisis happening now
Holistic health -the adrenal glands, healing from trauma
When I am next going to see my nephew and nieces
How to raise the next generations so that the entrenched pathologies of humanity are trained and weeded out of the collective consciousness, and are replaced by self-loving, in-tune, earth honoring people
What to write on my okcupid profile
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typical? Nope, not this gal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am pretty shy and slightly socially anxious.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 26–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are either from a rare gem of a family who raised you with loving kindness, healthy structure, and respectful boundaries. And/Or you have done and are interested in continuing to pursue your journey of inner awareness seeking and accepting full accountability for your choices and reality. And, you want to meet me.