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sansmiddlename

40 M Hoboken, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:07am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
As an artist and an educator, I am fortunate to be working steadily in both professions. My acting career is based out of the NY area; my teaching, out of NJ (several local universities). And lastly, my brother and I manage rental properties that we own in PA.

Oh yea...renaissance man...

Health and fitness are important to me as I exercise regularly: weights, cardio, kick-boxing as well as the occasional yoga class (I admit, my practice has slacked lately...something I need to correct).



As I’ve gotten older
(hold on, may I use the word "mature" instead? yes...that sounds better, thank you!),
my idea of “fun” has shifted a bit. Don’t get me wrong, I love going out and letting loose with the best of them; but I’ve learned, at least for me, it’s about WHO your with, not necessarily WHERE you are – you know? Subsequently, the idea of staying in, watching a movie and cooking, (a bit of a novice, but learning - I've acquired quite the "bachelor menu" i.e. my healthy pizza, healthy chili, etc.) or ordering in, can be just as awesome as going out and getting crazy.

"OMG! How is this guy still single?!?!?" you MUST be asking yourself (that's called sarcasm, are you laughing again?).


Truth is, in addition to the aforementioned career change, late in my 20's (I used to work in Washington, DC), I was engaged for some time coming out of grad school.

So yes, I've had my share of serious relationships (even engaged for a time) but alas, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
We can talk more on that, if you like. The point is, I'm still looking, and very open to finding something significant.

Maybe I’m a bit of dork...(?)
I think I may have heard that word thrown in my direction before….if "dork" means unconventional? then yes. And if "unconventional" means that I'd rather see a show or movie over a sporting event, or go to a museum or listen to live jazz vs. staring at 20 HDTV's at a sports bar, then definitely; I have embraced my dork-ness!

I've done a fair share of traveling (been to pretty much every state in the US, some of Europe, Canada and Mexico), mostly for school or work.
However, I haven't had a "real vacation" in quite a long time (though... I did treat myself to a couple of days in the Keys while in Florida during the fall for an acting gig...that was pretty awesome!).
I'd certainly like to travel more...there's so much to see out there, I wish I would allow myself to do it (perhaps I'm holding our for that ideal travel partner?).
I've been catering this fantasy of a 3-4 week EuroRail trip throughout Europe. "Next summer," I keep saying to myself. Maybe I'm holding off..?
secretly waiting to go with someone....?who knows?
What I’m doing with my life
I am a working actor, adjunct professor, special F/X make-up artist (my former teacher, friend and mentor was on the last season of SyFy's FACE-OFF!...very cool), and a landlord.
I recently closed on my own place here in the 6th borough, so settling-in in the new home is now my focus.

I do my best to keep active with volunteering when my schedule permits.
Proud to say I have created a new family tradition; serving breakfast at the local Salvation Army every Christmas morning.
Feels good.
I’m really good at
*Maintaining forward motion - i.e. when not working on a show, I'm always taking classes to keep me and my craft sharp (signing up to REtake level 2 Improv @ UCB).
*I'm always up for something new - i.e. been trying to learn the guitar (played around with the 4-string bass, now onto a 3/4 guitar)
*Being a "dutiful son and brother." Many free weekends are dedicated to helping my parents around their house.
*Apparently, I'm good at giving directions. I am ALWAYS asked where things are....even when I'm the traveller...I guess I look like a guy who knows where he's going. Are the directions correct?
...t'is a mystery.
*Making others feel better. I believe in leaving any space better than I entered it in some way, even if it is only bringing my smile (believe it or not, my sometimes "inappropriate" humor assists here).
*Abusing ellipses and parentheses (see above...and below).
The first things people usually notice about me
People notice my eyes (they seem to change color, depending on light and/or what I'm wearing), my arms, and my caustic sense of humor
- not necessarily in that order.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a big fan of theater (NOT musicals, but respect the talent).
Last three plays I saw:
"All the Way" (B'way)
"Other Desert Cities" (@ the Walnut St. Theater [was a field trip for one of my classes])
"Fences" (at the McCarter, for the same class)

Film - LOVE Film!
most recent films watched -

"Frozen" - over-rated (did I lose you?)
"12 Years a Slave" - powerful
"Gravity" - beautiful!
Movies that stop me from flipping channels no matter where it is in the flick - The Big Lebowski, any of the Nolan Batman flicks, any Godfather flick (well, maybe not the third), Shawshank Redemption, On the Waterfront.

TV - Yes, I am a proud owner of a television. In fact, I recently hooked up AppleTV (where have you been all my life?)
Current series I enjoy: Tosh.0 always makes me laugh,... hard.
Breaking Bad, The Bridge, Dexter, The Killing, The NewsRoom, Luther, Sherlock, Arrested Development

Books - constantly reading academic-based stuff that coincides with my teaching. When not delving into that exciting material, I'm working on the next project in which I'm to perform or design.
Some favorite authors are: Steinbeck, Sedaris, Gladwell, Krakauer, McCourt, Mezrich....
current read -"Cloud Atlas" in addition to the numerous plays I read for my constant search for scenes for my students.
The six things I could never do without
My laptop
My iPhone (I am an Apple man...we can discuss/argue, if we need to)
Adam Carolla's podcast
New York Donut Plant (aka-my crack den) check it out! (located at the Chelsea Hotel in NYC)
my morning coffee
the other?
...depends on the day
My family should probably be in there....so you can add that too...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*My family.
*Maintaining forward progress in both my professional and personal life.
*Now that I am now a home owner, I want a dog
*and I want to learn another language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Setting up my new home...after months of being "in transition," I'm now enjoying the process of "getting back to normal."
(*I acknowledge that that may never really happen.)

Catching a show or rehearsing one (ideally).
Or, these days...grading papers and tests.

...I know, I know...Mr. Excitement
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In middle-school, I would steal my brother's "Hustler" mags and sell them on the school bus.
...no joke...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
*Wanna see a show (stage OR screen) and talk about it...
*You want to grab a coffee and/or cocktail...
*You want to help me put furniture together...
*Share the same love for dark chocolate as I do...
*Up for a game of chess....(I'm not good)
*You understand the concept of how character (small "c") is defined by how one treats people they do not need to treat well.

Caveat - I'm a "cut to the chase" type of guy....meaning, I'm not big into the extended "i-chatting" or e-mailing - thing.
I've found that e-chemistry and actual chemistry are two separate things...why waste each other's time, right?

Put another way...I'm a talker, not a texter.