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40 / M / Straight / Single

Jersey City, New Jersey

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Cancer and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Ok...

I am an artist and an educator; fortunate enough to be working steadily in both professions...among other things.

My humor is off-the-cuff, dry, and sometimes inappropriate; The word "sardonic" has been thrown in my direction.
...all I know is, people laugh (mostly).
You are likely trying to gesture in agreement right now but having difficulty doing so as your sides are, no-doubt hurting from all the laughter so far...my apologies; try to control yourself.

Health and fitness are important to me as I exercise almost daily: weights, cardio, kick-boxing as well as the occasional yoga class (I admit, I need to increase my practice).



As I’ve gotten older (wait, WAIT, may I use the word "mature"? yes..that sounds better), my idea of “fun” has shifted a bit. Don’t get me wrong, I love going out and letting loose with the best of them; but I’ve learned, at least for me, it’s about WHO your with, not necessarily WHERE you are – you know? Subsequently, the idea of staying in, watching a movie and cooking, (a bit of a novice, but learning - I've acquired quite the "bachelor menu" i.e. my healthy pizza, healthy chili, etc.) or ordering in, can be just as awesome as going out and “getting crazy.”

"How is this guy still single???" you MUST be asking yourself (a little sarcasm there).

 Truth is, in addition to a massive career change in my late 20's (I used to work in politics in Washington, DC), I was also engaged for a time.
It is amazing to witness how certain life-events can alter one's path and priorities; choices become made for you, whether you like it or not. I've had my share of serious relationships but alas, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
We can talk more on that, if you like.

Maybe I’m a bit of dork (?). I think I may have heard that word thrown in my direction before….if "dork" means unconventional? then yes. And if "unconventional" means that I'd rather see a show or movie over a game, or go to a museum or listen to some jazz vs. a sports bar, then definitely.
I have embraced my dork-ness!

I've done a fair share of traveling (been to pretty much every state in the US, some of Europe, Canada and Mexico), mostly for school or work. However, I haven't had a "real vacation" in quite a long time. I'd like to travel more...there's so much to see out there that I just haven't allowed myself to do it. I've been catering this fantasy of a 3-4 week EuroRail trip throughout Europe. "Next summer," I keep saying to myself. Maybe I'm holding off, secretly waiting to go with someone....who knows?
"Next summer."
What I’m doing with my life
I am a working actor, professor at several local universities (local is relative, I guess), special F/X make-up artist, and a landlord (my brother and I own several properties in PA).
I’m really good at
*Maintaining forward motion - always taking classes to keep me on my toes (moving onto Level 2 Improv @ UCB)
*Being a "dutiful son and brother." Many free weekends are dedicated to helping my parents around their house (i.e. lawn and house maintenance, fixing things that need it, etc), as well as being there for my brother as he is restarting his life (divorce).
*Apparently I'm good at giving directions as I always seem to be asked by people where things are....even when I'm the traveller...I guess I look like a guy who knows where he's going.
*Making others feel better. I believe in leaving any space better than I entered it in some way, even if it is only bringing my smile (believe it or not, my sometimes "inappropriate" humor assists here).
*Abusing ellipses and parentheses (see above...and below).
The first things people usually notice about me
People notice my eyes (they seem to change color depending on light and what I'm wearing), my arms, and my caustic sense of humor
- not necessarily in that order.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Big fan of theater (NOT a big fan of musicals, but respect the talent).
Last three plays I saw:
"The Assembled Parties"
"Orphans"
"Lucky Guy"

LOVE Film
most recent film watched - "Star Trek: Into Darkness" - Fantastic!!
re-watched the original "Evil Dead" - we can discuss....but it is kind of brilliant
movies that stop me from flipping channels no matter where it is in the flick - The Big Lebowski, any of the Nolan Batmans, any Godfather flick (well, maybe not the third), Shawshank Redemption, On the Waterfront.

TV - I am a proud TV owner.
Tosh.0 always makes me laugh,... hard.
The rest of the list, we can discuss...a lot of BBC and AMC (with a few guilty pleasures in there).

Books - constantly reading academic based stuff that coincides with my teaching. When not delving in that exciting material, I'm working on the next project in which I'm to perform or design.
Some favorite authors are: Steinbeck, Sedaris, Gladwell, Krakauer, McCourt, Mezrich....
current read - "The Corrections"
The six things I could never do without
My laptop
My iPhone (I am an Apple man...we can discuss, if we need to)
Adam Carolla's podcast
New York Donut Plant (aka-my crack den) check it out! (located at the Chelsea Hotel)
my morning coffee
the other?
...depends on the day
My family should probably be in there....so you can add that too...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
*My family. We're entering a new chapter as my parents are getting older.
*Maintaining forward progress in both my professional and personal life.
*Ways to purchase my own home.
* I want a dog
*and to learn another language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Catching a show or rehearsing one (ideally), reading/grading papers and/or exams, prepping for class.

Some weekends I head to PA to do any number of familial things....(see above)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In middle-school, I would steal my brother's "Hustler" mags and sell them on the bus to and from school. No Joke!
..."edgy"
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
*Wanna see a show and talk about it...
*You want to grab a coffee (Donut Plant has good coffee...just saying!) and/or cocktail
*Share the same love for dark chocolate as I do...
*Up for a game of chess....(I'm not good)
*You understand the concept of how Character is defined by how one treats people they do not need to treat well.

Caveat - I'm a "cut to the chase" type of guy....meaning, I'm not big into the extended "i-chatting" or e-mailing - thing.
Put another way...I'm a talker, not a texter.