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44 Hoboken, NJ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:36pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
An artist and educator, working steadily as both. The acting career is based out of NY, the teaching out of NJ (a couple of local [what does "local" even mean these days?] universities). Finally, in addition to my recent home purchase here in the "6th Borough," my brother and I own and manage a few rental properties in PA.

...that's right ladies...renaissance man
(a little sarcasm there...laughing yet?).

Health and fitness are important to me as exercise is part of my daily routine: weights, cardio, restarted my yoga practice, as well as the occasional kick-boxing class.

As I’ve gotten older
(hold on... may I use the words "more mature"?
yes, that sounds better... Thank you) idea of “fun” has shifted a bit.
Don’t get me wrong - I love going out and letting loose with the best of them; but I’ve learned, at least for me, it’s about WHO you're with, not necessarily WHERE you are. Subsequently, the idea of staying in, watching a movie and cooking, (a bit of a novice, but my menu is growing - i.e. a selection of salmon dishes, my healthy pizza, healthy chili, stir-fry, etc.) or ordering in, can be just as awesome as going out and getting crazy.

Perhaps I’m a bit of dork...?
If "dork" means unconventional? then yes. And if "unconventional" means that I'd rather see a show or movie over a sporting event, or go to a museum or listen to live jazz vs. staring at 20 HDTV's at a sports bar, then definitely; I have embraced my dork-ness!

I've done a fair share of traveling (been to pretty much every state in the US, some of Europe, Canada and Mexico), mostly associated with my education or work.
However, I haven't had a "real vacation" in quite a long time (though... I did treat myself to a couple of days in the Florida Keys while down south last fall for a gig...that was quite nice!).
I'd certainly like to travel more...there's so much to see out there, I wish I would allow myself to do it.
I've been catering this fantasy of a several week EuroRail trip throughout Europe (duh!!! - where else could someone take a EuroRail trip? Ha! - sides hurting yet?).
"Next summer," I keep saying to myself. Maybe I'm holding off..?
secretly waiting to go WITH someone....?

"How is this guy still single?!?!?" you must be asking yourself.

short answer...?

You tell me. (Hell, I'm up for some constructive criticism ... we can discuss...)
Sincerely, to offer an answer to the aforementioned question to myself; in addition to a career change in my late 20's/early 30's (I used to be a registered lobbyist in Washington, DC), I was also engaged for some time coming out of grad school.

so...yes, I've had my share of serious relationships (the aforementioned engagement) but alas,
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
We can talk more on that, if you like. The point is, I'm still looking, and very open to finding someone/something significant.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working actor (that's correct...I'm in the unions and get speaking roles), adjunct professor, occasional special F/X make-up artist (my former teacher, friend and mentor was on a season of SyFy's FACE-OFF. Yes - a little brag there, thank you very much), fledgling real estate mogul...and a new homeowner! (did I mention that I DO NOT live with my parents?).

I also enjoy volunteering when my schedule permits.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* keeping my bio brief and not too wordy ;-)
*Being a "dutiful son" as many free weekends are dedicated to helping my parents around their house (these days - cleaning up after winter; getting ready for Spring).
*Apparently, I look like a guy who knows where he's going as I am ALWAYS asked for directions by strangers....ALWAYS; even when I'm the traveller.
*I believe in leaving any space better than I entered it in some way, even if it is only bringing a smile (believe it or not, my sometimes "inappropriate" humor comes in handy with this one).
*Abusing ellipses and parentheses (see above...and below).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
you tell me...

I know what I hear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
THEATER - big fan of theater (no musicals, but respect the talent).
Most recent -
"The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night Time" - run, DO NOT walk!
"Disgraced" - great show! a powerful & important play
"The Real Thing" - I left at intermission (they got my money...I'm a little more careful about my time)

recent films enjoyed -
"While Were Young" - found myself connecting to it more than I think I wanted to...very good flick!
"Whiplash" - whoa! (loving that an actor like JK is getting the recognition he deserves)
"It Follows" - smart and scary

Movies that stop me from flipping channels no matter where it is in the flick - The Big Lebowski, any of the Nolan Batman flicks, any Godfather flick (well, maybe not the third), Shawshank Redemption, On the Waterfront, most of Woody Allen's flicks.

TV - as a proud owner of a television (Yes, I watch TV. Just bought a new one, in fact - it's very nice, and very big), there are too many good shows out there - so I have to make some hard decisions when it comes to what I watch (sorry, Game of Thrones and Mad Men have yet to make my cut).

Current series I enjoy:
Walking Dead, The Affair, Homeland,
The NewsRoom, Luther, Sherlock
(as an admitted Anglo-phile, if it's on the BBC, there's a probability I'll like it)
Guilty pleasure - Celebrity Apprentice...go ahead - judge
Tosh.0 always makes me laugh,... hard.

BOOKS - constantly reading academic-based stuff that coincides with my teaching. When not delving into that exciting material, I'm working on the next project in which I'm to perform or design.
Some favorite authors are: Steinbeck, Sedaris, Gladwell, Krakauer, McCourt, Mezrich....
Current read - "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" on a bit of a Sci-Fi thing
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My laptop
My iPhone (I am an Apple man...we can discuss/argue, if we need to)
Adam Carolla's podcast
New York Donut Plant (aka-my crack den) check it out! (original location is LES, I hit the "new" spot, located at the Chelsea Hotel)
my morning coffee
the other?
...depends on the day
My family should probably be in you can add them too...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* working to keep up with my craft - signed up for some classes (for me) to keep exercising.
* Keeping up with the classes I teach
* My family (my parents are older and there are issues that come up that need to be faced as we are now in "that chapter" of life [Dad's been in and out of hospitals lately].... what can you do?)
* Now that I am now a home owner, I want a dog
*... and I want to learn another language.

* AND - This...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* working towards the next gig
* grading something from my students
* In PA helping my family
* seeking options from the above...

...that's right, ladies...he's Mr. Excitement
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In middle-school, I would steal my brother's smut-mags and sell them on the school bus. joke...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
*Wanna see a show (stage OR screen) and talk about it...
*You want to grab a coffee and/or cocktail...
*Share the same love of dark chocolate as I do...
*Up for a game of chess (I'm not good)...or any game for that matter
*You understand my belief in the concept of how character (small "c") is defined by how one treats people they do not need to treat well.

Caveat - I try to be a "cut to the chase" type of guy....meaning, I'm not big into the extended "i-chatting" or e-mailing - thing.
I've found that "e-chemistry" and actual chemistry are two separate things...why waste each other's time, right?

Put another way...I pride myself on being a talker, rather than a texter.