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sansmiddlename

44 M Hoboken, NJ

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
An artist and educator, fortunate to be working steadily in both worlds. My acting career is based out of NY, my teaching, out of NJ (several local universities). And lastly, my brother and I manage rental properties that we own in PA.

...that's right...renaissance man (sarcasm there...are you laughing yet?).

Health and fitness are important to me as I exercise regularly: weights, cardio, kick-boxing as well as the occasional yoga class (making efforts to "find my practice" again).



As I’ve gotten older
(hold on!... may I use the words "more mature" please?
AH, yes...that sounds better... Thank you),
my idea of “fun” has shifted a bit.
Don’t get me wrong!... I love going out and letting loose with the best of them; but I’ve learned, at least for me, it’s about WHO you're with, not necessarily WHERE you are – you know? Subsequently, the idea of staying in, watching a movie and cooking, (a bit of a novice, but my menu is growing - i.e. my healthy pizza, healthy chili, stir-fry, etc.) or ordering in, can be just as awesome as going out and getting crazy.

"OMG! How is this guy still single?!?!?" you MUST be asking yourself (there's that sarcasm again...are you laughing again?).


Truth is, in addition to the aforementioned career change, late in my 20's (I used to work as a registered lobbyist in Washington, DC), I was engaged for some time coming out of grad school.

Yes, I've had my share of serious relationships (note the aforementioned engagement) but alas,
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."
We can talk more on that, if you like. The point is, I'm still looking, and very open to finding someone/something significant.

Maybe I’m a bit of dork...(?)
….if "dork" means unconventional? then yes. And if "unconventional" means that I'd rather see a show or movie over a sporting event, or go to a museum or listen to live jazz vs. staring at 20 HDTV's at a sports bar, then definitely; I have embraced my dork-ness!

I've done a fair share of traveling (been to pretty much every state in the US, some of Europe, Canada and Mexico), mostly for school or work.
However, I haven't had a "real vacation" in quite a long time (though... I did treat myself to a couple of days in the Florida Keys while down there last fall for a gig...that was quite nice!).
I'd certainly like to travel more...there's so much to see out there, I wish I would allow myself to do it.
I've been catering this fantasy of a several week EuroRail trip throughout Europe (duh!!! - where else could someone take a EuroRail trip? Ha! - are you laughing again?).
"Next summer," I keep saying to myself. Maybe I'm holding off..?
secretly waiting to go WITH someone....?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working actor, adjunct professor, occasional special F/X make-up artist (my former teacher, friend and mentor was on SyFy's FACE-OFF last season! [a little brag there, thanks]), and landlord.

Recently closed on my own place here in the 6th borough (I am a homeowner! [did I mention that I DO NOT live with my parents?]).

I do my best to keep active with volunteering when my schedule permits.
Proud to say I have created a new family tradition at Christmas; serving breakfast at the local Salvation Army.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
*Striving forward by working as much as I can. I start rehearsing a new show later this month.
(When not working on a show, I take classes to keep me and my craft sharp.)
*Being a "dutiful son and brother." Many free weekends are dedicated to helping my parents around their house.
*Apparently, I look like a guy who knows where he's going as I am ALWAYS asked for directions by strangers....even when I'm the traveller...
*I believe in leaving any space better than I entered it in some way, even if it is only bringing a smile (believe it or not, my sometimes "inappropriate" humor assists here).
*Abusing ellipses and parentheses (see above...and below).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
you tell me...

I know what I hear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
THEATER - big fan of theater (NOT musicals, but respect the talent).
Last three plays I saw:
"All the Way" (B'way)
"Other Desert Cities" (@ the Walnut St. Theater [was a field trip for one of my classes])
"Fences" (at the McCarter, for the same class)

FILM - LOVE Film!
most recent films watched -

"Boyhood" - thought provoking (though I wasn't crazy about the title character)
"The Skeleton Twins" - the performances of Wiig and Hader outshine the film itself, but still worth watching.
"The Drop" - Tom Hardy is my new hero - fantastic flick!

Movies that stop me from flipping channels no matter where it is in the flick - The Big Lebowski, any of the Nolan Batman flicks, any Godfather flick (well, maybe not the third), Shawshank Redemption, On the Waterfront.

TV - as a proud owner of a television (Yes, I watch TV!), there are too many good shows out there - so I have to make some hard decisions when it comes to what I watch (sorry, Game of Thrones and Mad Men have yet to make my cut).

Current series I enjoy: Tosh.0 always makes me laugh,... hard. Inside Amy Shumer - hilarious!
Breaking Bad, The Bridge, Dexter, The Killing, The NewsRoom, Luther, Sherlock, Arrested Development
(as an admitted Anglo-phile, if it's on the BBC, there's a probability I'll like it)

BOOKS - constantly reading academic-based stuff that coincides with my teaching. When not delving into that exciting material, I'm working on the next project in which I'm to perform or design.
Some favorite authors are: Steinbeck, Sedaris, Gladwell, Krakauer, McCourt, Mezrich....
Current read - "The Long Way Down" by Nick Hornby
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My laptop
My iPhone (I am an Apple man...we can discuss/argue, if we need to)
Adam Carolla's podcast
New York Donut Plant (aka-my crack den) check it out! (original location is LES, I hit the "new" spot, located at the Chelsea Hotel)
my morning coffee
the other?
...depends on the day
My family should probably be in there....so you can add that too...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
These days?
* Getting into the groove with the new semester.
* My family (my parents are older and there are issues that come up that need to be faced as we are now in "that chapter" of life. I wish this weren't on my mind as much as it is...but what can you do?)
* Maintaining forward progress in both my professional and personal life.
* Now that I am now a home owner, I want a dog
*... and I want to learn another language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
These days...
* rehearsing a show that opens next month
* keeping up with the fall semester
* helping my family
* seeking options from the above...

...I know, I know...Mr. Excitement
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In middle-school, I would steal my brother's smut mags and sell them on the school bus.
...no joke...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
*Wanna see a show (stage OR screen) and talk about it...
*You want to grab a coffee and/or cocktail...
*Share the same love of dark chocolate as I do...
*Up for a game of chess (I'm not good)...or any game for that matter
*You understand my belief that the concept of character (small "c") is defined by how one treats people they do not need to treat well.

Caveat - I'm a "cut to the chase" type of guy....meaning, I'm not big into the extended "i-chatting" or e-mailing - thing.
I've found that "e-chemistry" and actual chemistry are two separate things...why waste each other's time, right?

Put another way...I'm a talker, not a texter.