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31 São Paulo, Brazil Man


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  • Ages 18–99
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My details

Last online
Aug 6
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 11" (1.81m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Working on Post grad
Has kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), Other (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Cold, obsessive, distant & irredeemably academic. Depraved, vile fetishist. Llevo en el cuerpo una condena / que siempre me hecha a caminar. Still standing for some false, impossible shore.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finishing my dissertation. Tearing down an infinite regression of closets. Singing in the face of the void.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Losing myself in the twisty little mazes of theoretical passages, letting myself be possessed by the words of the long dead, soaking their words into my flesh, my very bones, then professing it all back to life with priestlike enthusiasm, a necromancer really—"enthusiasm": en+theós, a god inside, "necromancy": nekrós+manteía, guessing the dead, "grammar": grimoire: glamour.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
One: The quiet little pleasures like holding a warm beverage in both hands on a cold winter morning, or the almost mellow touch of wind on skin in an autumn evening, or stopping to watch the undefinably deep azure-black hue that announces the welcome coming of a summer's night.

Two: Exploring the abstract landscapes of unknown languages, and the grandiose, ethereal constructions of literature & song.

Three: People with similar interests to share the enthusiasm of the ten thousand things, the wonder of being here to experience them, and the dread of not.

Four: Cats to bond with.

Five: The boundless joy of mutually consented, kinky, lascivious, sadistic sex.

Six: Purpose.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Studying something completely unrelated to what I'm supposed to be doing; or, working like a madman to meet a long-unheeded deadline.
You should message me if
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Here's the relationship stuff: I'm bi, poli, divorced, with children. I'm in an open relationship with mars-2027 and, though devoutly polyamorous, am not looking for more romantic relationships at the moment (there would be no time to nurture one anyway). I'm not looking for casual sex either. To be perfectly honest, I'm not really sure what am I looking for here anymore. The solution to the fundamental existential problem of the human condition, I guess. Or someone to have the occasional conversation over coffee. Conversations are cool.

Here's the political stuff: I lean left. I support the LGBT movement, feminism (without pretensions of protagonism), and most other liberal efforts. I'm not interested in talking with misogynists, even if they're gay. I'm into BDSM, I believe consented pleasure to be a form of emancipation, and I respect trans people; if you find these positions irreconcilable with gender equality, you probably don't want to spend time with me.

Please do not message me with empty phatic messages like "hello". Show me who you are.