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sarabu

48 F Lexington, KY

My Details

Last Online
Jul 6
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I keep adding a bit more to my profile, it seems like a never-ending project. I've been getting things sorted to the point that I can start looking to have some fun again, so my answers may be dated wrong until I catch them all and change them. I'm in the middle of a lot of change right now, and I find that I'm liking it more than I thought possible. Fewer kids at home less time, some much farther away than they had been. Colleges all over the country. My house is coming along nicely, too, but I need to switch to indoor projects, aka buy more paint. If anyone has a compound mitre saw they'd like to let me use for baseboard trim, I'd appreciate it.
What I’m doing with my life
Redecorating and rehabbing my house, trying to redefine what life looks like minus most of my boys at home, and trying to keep up with their cross country machinations. I'm trying to connect with more people my own age, and feeling my way through what dating means 25 years after the last time I did it. Are you out there dating?? I don't really need pen pals as much as real time activity partners.
I am currently doing part time and temp work, I feel like at the least I'll get a book out of it if not full time, gainful employment. I have a few people I take care of, some as employment and some family, and am looking for more to fill my days and time. I volunteer a few places, mostly with seniors. They have great stories.
I’m really good at
lots of different kinds of logic puzzles

organizing, especially making spaces functional, although I have hit a personal wall regarding this lately. It's easier to help other people with their stuff, so much less sentimentality involved

baking- bread and desserts

different kinds of crafts, especially with kids of all ages

repurposing all kinds of things for new lives- storage, decorative, what have you

packing- I can look at something and know just how to make it fit. Smallish spacial stuff, I'm all over. Distances, not so much, but maybe that's because I have next to no depth perception past oh, the length of my arm. It's a fun game at the breakfast table to see if I can read the cereal box or not before contacts and sans glasses.
The first things people usually notice about me
-that I'm pretty short. Not tiny, but I forget I'm not tall until I need something off that high shelf. And I tend to talk, a lot, about whatever there is to talk about. If I'm quiet, I'm probably asleep. I usually read pretty straight forward and sweet, hang with me a sec and the smart mouth starts to bubble up. I like wry humor, and try to keep the mean out of sarcasm, but I'm a fallible human.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love all kinds of books, fiction to non. Favorite authors include Neal Stephenson, Madeline L'Engle, Malcolm Gladwell, Jodi Picoult, Nelson DeMille, Lee Smith, Greg Iles, and Jocelyn Jackson. Harry Potter was/is a big deal in our house, books and movies both, from the time they hit the US until they released the last book and movie. Give me a good book and all I'll want to do is curl up and read it until I'm through. Give me a bad book and I'll weep.

Usually I'm a rom com or drama kind of girl; I like comedies and thrillers but horror movies, not so much.

Music, I'm not really picky and can be happy with whatever happens to be playing wherever I am, so unless you only do techno or idolize misogynistic rappers, I'm probably fine with whatever you have on, otherwise I'm pretty much a top 40 sell out. I told somebody I was a music slut, I was fine to go along with pretty much anything as long as something was on, but now I'm all worried about advancing myself as a loose woman and all that, SIGH. The last time I dated, my available pool was college aged music majors, so I got an eclectic formative shaping, there. I love going to the philharmonic, jazz makes me happy, blues make me appropriately melancholy, and omg sometimes I so want to dance. (I crazy love square dancing, I know it's geeky but the flippy skirts and goofy music do me in.) Country music is fine, and yes, I harbor a fond love for 80s ballads that if you can't at least shuffle and sway and pretend to slow dance with me to them, you may want to find another drink or perhaps to find another date. Or maybe you should give me another drink to distract me. If you can really dance, I will do my best to keep up, and I'll be right there with you if you want to go to classes.

I'm a fairly mainstream eater but if you're a good guide I will try out new cuisines, if slowly- I tried Pho BC and Sav's and didn't freak out, but that's exotic to me. I like cookout food, Italian, Asian, Mexican, and good old American food, but feel like I can cook you just as good a meal as anyone else in town can. I love to feed groups, and if there's a party, I'll want to be in the kitchen, helping with the food. I'd seriously consider going back to restaurant work full time if only to geek out to the commercial ranges and have the socially acceptable outlet of rotating stock and getting paid for it, but my last gig aggravated my tennis elbow, and the last time I touched a raquet was to take it to Goodwill.

I find it hard to justify lighting charcoal for just myself, and it's just getting warm outside anyway, so I'm missing grilled food, too.
The six things I could never do without
drinks of choice: caffeine free diet pepsi, iced tea, and McDonald's iced coffee. Coke icees make me disproportionally happy for their cost.

books: in the house and at the library, ebooks are great but not nearly the same

art supplies: my copic markers, pretty paper, good scissors, fabulous brushes, and just the right glue

desserts: cookies, chocolate, ice cream, fruit

people: my kids, my neighbors, my nieces and nephews and most of their parents

options: I'm like the kid who wishes for three more wishes with the third wish
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what my life could look like if I took a risk and made a big change- whether I should go back to school full time or not, start my own business, or just give it all up and work retail already.

my boys- five, mostly grown, and my nieces and nephews- ten, mostly small

what "appropriate" is at my age, at my stage of life/motherhood, and why I even care

what the next big project in the house or yard is

why I'm asking the Internet to help me with any of this to begin with
On a typical Friday night I am
going to Joseph Beth's, or reading what I just got there
catching up with my kids as they come and go for the weekend
snugged up reading or making cards, listening to whatever noise is on the tv
wondering what other people are doing LOL
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
As much as I talk, there's probably more I am thinking.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 39–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you'd like to date, and aren't intent on something serious RIGHT NOW- I'm not. If you'd like to do stuff, talk about stuff, find different things you might be interested in doing or learning about, that's where I am right now. I dress up or down fairly well, literally and figuratively, so I'd be up for books and coffee and the bookstore or going to see the Philharmonic. Dating. I'd like to see what that looks like now. If you're tall, blue eyed, and competent at something that will hold me in thrall, that's my trifecta. If you aren't all or any of those three but can speak intelligently and actually like to talk about stuff, that's your super power and I am helpless but not to yield. Apparently I'm atypical. I'm not really looking to be long term pen pals or endlessly run through your phone minutes, I'd like to actually sit across a table and see if there are any connections to be made.