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34 F Chicago, IL

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  • Ages 27–40
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Last Online
Jun 19
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
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Working on Ph.D program
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Has dogs

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My self-summary
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I grew up in New York--yes, the city--and moved here from there about seven(!) years ago. I have definitely come around to Chicago, but Chicago partisans probably won't like my answer to the question of which city I like better.

I used to have a grown-up job but have really been enjoying the grad student life: most days I get to sit around in my PJs reading and writing until I decide it's time to face the world. Other days I dress up and pretend to be an adult bequeathing knowledge to a room of undergrads.

The one downside to being a grad student is that I don't get to travel as much as I used to. Up until a few years ago I was averaging one new country every year.

I value intelligence and honesty and perhaps above all a sense of self-irony, which is really just a combination of the other two.
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting my PhD in American history. This does not mean that I study the American Revolution or the Civil War. Lots of other things have happened in America.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.


Sleeping in.

Telling stories.

Winning fights with customer service departments.

Parallel parking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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What do you call the opposite of a poker face? I have that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Oh dear, here comes the laundry list...

Books: Slouching Towards Bethlehem, White Teeth, No Place of Grace, The Making of the English Working Class, The Great Transformation, The Quiet American, The End of the Affair, In Cold Blood, Persepolis, a good paperback murder mystery set in rainy England. The fifteen-year-old me would say: the Great Gatsby, Moby Dick, and Invisible Man. (I have the high school copies--complete with angsty marginalia--to prove it.) Oh, and I also read celebrity gossip blogs obsessively.

Movies: The Conversation, Rear Window, Out of Sight, Manhattan, Crimes and Misdemeanors, Ghostbusters, Rosemary's Baby, Gosford Park, the Wonderful World of Henry Orient. There is a New York nostalgia theme here...

TV: Freaks and Geeks, the Wire, Parks and Recreation, Louie, Justified, Mad Men, Veronica Mars, Arrested Development, Friday Night Lights.

Music (not too creative or current in this category): the Clash, Velvet Underground, Dusty Springfield, Rolling Stones, Bruce Springsteen, Blondie, Patti Smith, Leonard Cohen, David Bowie.

Food: I will eat anything that does not involve meat (which may sound limited but it's really not). Except poi.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NPR, rice and beans, cheese, windows, potlucks, planning future vacations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Food and the state of things. The latter usually gets me a bit down so I try to distract myself with food blogs.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out for dinner and drinks with friends. Sometimes hanging out at home with friends. Sometimes hanging out at home with my dog. The 25-year-old in me has been trying to fight my homebody tendencies, but she doesn't always win out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes sing to my dog.
You should message me if
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You like food and dogs and lefty politics and television. You know how to drive stick shift. You live in the city. You've traveled outside of the U.S. You know when the Berlin Wall fell.

But really, I will try to reserve judgment until we meet in person.